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the line between seeking council and gossiping
15 years ago
Resent events have caused me to be usure about certian things in certian relationships.
I usually try to just shrug things off or just ignore it because I can't always do this.
A while back a small problem developed but I just ignored it for a while, then I told sirius about the problem and that helped but then he got busy and I began to spirl out of control agian even effecting me physically and when compiled with lack of internet accsess got pretty bad.
Later I ended up telling jerry and stephen about my problem and the person in question and it helped more and I began to gain some confidence in trying to confront this other fur as to my feelings and finding out if it was real or if I was being paranoid or whatever.
I did come to a decicion and was going to act but then my sister needed and then some other stuff happened and I lost my nerve.
Then I found sombody who I loved feeling the same as I do but I don't want to feel like I am ganging up on the other person but yet the other person could have a good amount of insight....
My question is where is the line between talking about sombody behinde them so you can know what to do and just plain talking about them behinde their back.
I usually try to just shrug things off or just ignore it because I can't always do this.
A while back a small problem developed but I just ignored it for a while, then I told sirius about the problem and that helped but then he got busy and I began to spirl out of control agian even effecting me physically and when compiled with lack of internet accsess got pretty bad.
Later I ended up telling jerry and stephen about my problem and the person in question and it helped more and I began to gain some confidence in trying to confront this other fur as to my feelings and finding out if it was real or if I was being paranoid or whatever.
I did come to a decicion and was going to act but then my sister needed and then some other stuff happened and I lost my nerve.
Then I found sombody who I loved feeling the same as I do but I don't want to feel like I am ganging up on the other person but yet the other person could have a good amount of insight....
My question is where is the line between talking about sombody behinde them so you can know what to do and just plain talking about them behinde their back.
However, if one finds offense to the gossiping and the other person doesn't, then it becomes a situation.
There's always a limit to it as well, but that limit you have to figure out.