days like today make me want to quit commission work
15 years ago
General
i am seriously sleep deprived and at the peak of the monthly hormone issue females have to deal with.
i am an emotional WRECK
and i HATE IT
i get like this from time to time, i feel anxious, paranoid and doubtful, every negative thing seems to flood into my mind and puts me in a state of despair. (thankfully this is rare for me, otherwise i would seek medical help because this sensation is terrible) i wanna cry, i wanna hide, i wanna crawl into a little ball and vanish. my heart seems to ace and my insides feel as if they drop...
right now the bits and pieces of furry/commission related drama i have been dealing with lately has like slammed me like train, so badly i want to quit doing commissions for the sake of never having drama follow me again.
granted what drama has been following me is based on work that is over 2 years old, or is because people seem to lack some common sense or fail to understand what goes into this line of work (like how people seem to think gluing vs sewing down the fur on a fursuit head means it is like gonna explode some day. i have personal proof that glued seams can last for years and years of use) or are haters hating me for the sake of hating...but it still HURTS
fursuit making is a risky form of business, a painting only has to look good but a fursuit has to look good and be durable. and then there is the fact my customers are people whom i have never met and could be thousands of miles away and i have no idea of what their mannerisms are like and if they are gonna be the kind of person who flips the f*** out because a claw fell off their foot...
i love making these costumes, i dearly love this line of work. i partly love it because i love how it makes people happy, so if making fursuits is gonna cause people to have ill feelings and if people are gonna shit on me because of my fursuit work, then maybe i'll just go work at walmart.
i'm gonna go like play dead now...
i am an emotional WRECK
and i HATE IT
i get like this from time to time, i feel anxious, paranoid and doubtful, every negative thing seems to flood into my mind and puts me in a state of despair. (thankfully this is rare for me, otherwise i would seek medical help because this sensation is terrible) i wanna cry, i wanna hide, i wanna crawl into a little ball and vanish. my heart seems to ace and my insides feel as if they drop...
right now the bits and pieces of furry/commission related drama i have been dealing with lately has like slammed me like train, so badly i want to quit doing commissions for the sake of never having drama follow me again.
granted what drama has been following me is based on work that is over 2 years old, or is because people seem to lack some common sense or fail to understand what goes into this line of work (like how people seem to think gluing vs sewing down the fur on a fursuit head means it is like gonna explode some day. i have personal proof that glued seams can last for years and years of use) or are haters hating me for the sake of hating...but it still HURTS
fursuit making is a risky form of business, a painting only has to look good but a fursuit has to look good and be durable. and then there is the fact my customers are people whom i have never met and could be thousands of miles away and i have no idea of what their mannerisms are like and if they are gonna be the kind of person who flips the f*** out because a claw fell off their foot...
i love making these costumes, i dearly love this line of work. i partly love it because i love how it makes people happy, so if making fursuits is gonna cause people to have ill feelings and if people are gonna shit on me because of my fursuit work, then maybe i'll just go work at walmart.
i'm gonna go like play dead now...
FA+

There are assholes everywhere hun.
anyway i have been trying to remind myself that people get bashed ALL the time, i mean what i see celebrities go through makes my skin crawl...i think i would die if i were in the public eye all the time with my every move being judged like some celebrities
so i know its not just me, you can put 10 people in a room and give them a topic to talk about and there is like a 95% chance that 2 people will leave hating eachother because of their views on said topic.
.... I would like to hug ye until ye explode outta existance, to keep ye safe from those f*ckers who b*tch bout everything bout yer work, and to keep ye far from the emotions that are attacking yer soul.
Good luck. I truly mean that. WIth all o my heart and soul.
thankyou <3
*wishes she could litterally hug some through the internet right now
Air hug time~
*sends ye lots o love in a literal air hug*
Hope it gets there~
<3
and i really hope you keep making your suits i actually just rolled in from AC yay sleep deprived too but i saw so many of your suits and each one is gorgeous they really are a piece of wearable art people who cant see that and cant understand how much work goes into years of understanding and growing in your artistic talent really need to shush their little mouths and not speak about things they know nothing about ><
anyways heres to less drama and more beauty =)
and i have been told about 70% of why a person choses which fursuit maker they chose is how good the work looks/is based upon the makers style...so under that logic even if i was putting things together with a glustick and duct tape and it fell apart after a few hours of use customers would still be getting 50-70% of their monies worth...right?
and i DO NOT mean it is okay for something to fall apart after only one use (that would be horrible) what i am saying is when it is time for the suit to reture they still got their visual monies worth. another way to look at it is a wedding cake, the fancy ones are very expensive and the majority of the value is on the appearance, and yet for how much it costs once it is eaten it has served its purpose and the fact it looked so nice is what vaildates the cost and not how long it was on the table.
and do try to make sure my work is durable, its just 2 years ago i did not know what i know now....i wish i did, i would not have drama following me >_o
It is like what my good friend who is a fellow artist told me you arent paying just for the work the artist is doing for you but also for the years and years of time and effort put into learning their craft and you know what whether you use a glue stick or an industrial sewing machine you have been doing suits long enough to know what works and how to make a beautiful but still durable suit
I know how hard it is to ignore drama and not defend yourself but keep in mind thats just a small portion of people in the grand scheme of things you have a great following of wonderful people (as i'm sure you can see from these comments everyone is posting) we all would prolly stomp on those who are trying to say you dont know what you are doing ect ect =)
but even with that being said you do need to take care of you and as much as i would hate to see you take a break or stop making suits taking care of your health physically and mentally should be first and foremost cuz this is your artwork you should enjoy doing it and it should not take a toll on you
*hugs* get some rest and point me in the direction of these drama spewers so i can do some face kicking =P jk but really take care of yourself
i am still growing and chaging in skill, and i wish people would understand that and not judge me on past work AND realize past work cost less than my work does now.
and oddly enough it seems the "glues everything" reputation has been following me since my cosplay days??? i mean when talking to some one i know online about starting up business they were like "i dunno, don't you like glue everything?" and yes, my early cosplay suits (made years before doing commissions) were almost 100% glued...(i glued the bodysuits D: ahhh) and i used to kinda brag about it...(but i only bragged on glue and bashed sewing back then because i could not afford a sewing machine...) but that had nothing to do with my current work so their response made me think ". . . wtf?"
...so i think even my 2004-2007 work is haunting me D:
and even though i have both options on my site now with a $200 price difference between the 2 options people see it as "oh she is gonna make you pay more to make it 'right'..." and the same people also fail to realize that even with the $200 extra for sewn seams my heads are still cheaper than some other makers work, and with the cheaper glued option my heads cost less than pretty much all other well established makers...
since i started offering sewn seams no one has asked for that option yet, everyone says they want glued seams.
and frankly, even if is glued face seams was a durability issue (in my experience it is not) heads should be the one part of the suit that sees no abuse; hands touch things and deal with dirt and friction, bodies put up with movement and seam stress as well as friction, tails get yanked and dragged and caught in doors, feet get scuffed and deal with lots of friction and getting banged around, but the head should literally just be sitting on you doing nothing and should not see any physical abuse or even get touched by anyone or anything all that much. if you are doing something capable of dislodging a seam on your head then you pretty much have to be rough housing or doing stunts in your suit and/or storing and transporting it too rough (aka cramming it into to small of a space or tossing it around like a stuffed toy), and my site already warns that my work is not made to withstand rough use (seriously, things like wresting on the floor or even fursuit games at cons is abusive behavior to a fursuit).
and we are out of sleep aids so i cannot even try to zombify myself to sleep.
and my sister is not much help...she is PMSing as bad as i am and we are like polar opposites around this time of the month and just like hissy fit at eachother all the time D:
It's a temporary investment, and needs to be treated as such, even with the hefty price for something that's life span will vary depending on care, especially upon level of experience on the builder. Sadly, not everyone is logical enough to realize this.
~Pets and hugs~
so with that in mind i kinda wish people would shud up about somthtng of equal value only lasting 2 years of steady use because at least they got to use out of it and it was not the cost of a months worth of poop :C
and i still like to think my prices were and are fair...
i mean when you buy a plastic lawn chair you know its not going to last as long as a wooden or fancy metal one but common sense says that is acceptable because it costs less than the metal or wood chair...right? .__.
i mean that logic is why i kept my prices so low until recently, my quality has improved so damn much that (keeping with the cost vs quality of lawn chairs analogy) i know i am well beyond the plastic chair range of quality and well into wooden chair quality and on the first step of metal chair quality...and still improving, and i am still working my way up to one day having my work be described as "indestructible" and on which day my (non quadsuit work) will move into the $2000+, but i will not do so until i am sure my work can in fact last 5+ years of rough use. for now though i hope people will have the common sense that my work is not indestructible and know that they need to take care of their suit for it to last (and i am sure there are also plenty of people who just plain appreciate that my work is not in the $2000+ range just yet...)
btw my beastcub bodysuit has seen TONS of use in the last 2.5 years because it works with 5 different heads and so far has only needed one tiny hole in the arm pit sewn. and the beastcub head is just as old and is in tip top shape and i use it 6 times a year (2 cons, 2 ren fairs, 1 fantasy festival, 1 halloween event)
Even calling a fursuit makers work indestructible is high praise, it makes me worry for the makers if something were to go wrong, even if it's purely the customer's fault. @.@ Where there are dragons, there also be idiots.
And very impressive. 6 events would be a pretty hefty schedule for most suits.
I do love your equine suits, and if I was one, you'd probably be who I'd go to if I had the funds.
Hope things get better, keep strong and just do what you do :]
tonight reading dogbombs
i just hope that the reputation of the quality of my current work will eventually drown out the word of quality issues of my old work...though i know that is doubtfull, people are far more likley to complain about something than compliment...
Can I ask, are the people who are bashing you, suit makers themselves? If so, I would like to see them produce something half as detailed and elegant as you do :P
I hate it when people forget artists/suit makers are still human. You are allowed to fuck up too! xP
You are one of the most successful suit makers around, your work is admired by so many. I think most of your commissioners/watchers have the utmost respect for your work, so don't let a few whinge bags make you think you have a bad reputation :]
i pride myself in doing all i can for customers, i don't care if my work just honest to gawd had some thing that out-and-out fell apart i can do what i can to help make the customer fell better...but only if they will let me!!!!
i have done refunds and discounted replacements and extra bits. for example the owner of the ferret head was not 100% happy but sad the head was accpetable but not perfect and was kinda insistant on a discount, so i made them the red bat head for $100, (which meant a $297 profit loss vs full price) to help make up for the fact the ferret head was not 100% up to standard.
and another example; today darklurker Jrs mom contacted me to say the wings broke. now i did not even build the frames, i painted and re-sold a premade set of wings from a halloween costume, BUT they were still sold under my name, so i have purchased and fully paid for a replacement set of non moving wings, of equal value, to be sent from http://www.specterstore.com/store/c.....gon-wings.html so that is $70+ (+shipping cost) out of my pocket to rectify the situation.
so if you want some one to talk to you can PM me :)
Take a vacation, go to the Bay and mess around at the Wharf, or go junking at the San Jose Flea Market
Han in there! *Hugs*
One thing that has astonished me for years is how nitpicky clients are about their fursuits. In a way I do see it, they've put down several hundred to a couple thousand on a suit so I think they expect it to not have any quirks.
But each piece really is wearable art, and it's not like it's come from a manufacturer.
It blew my mind several years ago when I was just geting into making suits, I'd be in the fursuit lounge at a con telling someone how beautiful their suit was (made usually by one of the top few makers) and they'd inevitably say something about the shoes being a little loose, or they'd be upset about wear and tear that is completely normal on a fursuit.
I hope you feel better soon
Thank you so much for taking my commission and working the payment process with me. I'm very grateful for you doing this for me.
And please don't listen to people ragging on you for you creating your own art. If they don't like this kind of art then their opinion shouldn't effect you at all.
*huggles*
... but despite the fun break i still broke down last night :C
The harvest-wolf, Shade I believe was/is the name? AC2010 at the dead dog dance he had rainbow LED christmas lights wrapped up around the arms.
Also all those chaotic/swirly Second Life Crux suits at AC this year, are the other obvious target, espectially the pink one.
So, yeah. Only way to fight bad rumour is outweigh it with truth and open honesty. It'll just take time, and patience, now.
To use an old turn of phrase differently, "Keep up the good work!"
As far as the monthly thing goes.. I am on it too, in fact while I was reading your journal my boyfriend was being a dick head so I turned around and yelled this shit outta him. It's frustrating and near to impossible to let the little things slide. Just think, when this time is over you'll be back to your normal happy giddy self. Seems there are a lot of people that support you Beast, you'll be alright. ^^
But I always manage to make it and I know you can too. I always said if there's something you really love to do and do well, and it's within legal limits, you might as well make money on it. And honey, you make it very clear how much you adore doing what you do, not only by telling us, but by the time and effort you put into each individual piece. And as for how well you do it....well, I've seen your stuff in person and it was the most beautiful thing I've ever seen in this fandom. So that's not an issue. I think it would be a major, catastrophic loss both for me and for the community if you stopped putting your stuff out there.
Besides, just think. You may have to deal with assholes a lot in this business, but at Walmart you have to do it in person. XD
oh gawd, i know just what you mean D:
ugh emotional stress is no fun, just think though, if you were preggers it would be 10 times worse with extra hormones floating about as well.
sometimes these extra hormones can be a good thing if you can channel them into creativity though.
I hope ye feel betters soon :3
issues with thinsg like claws and teeth happen with any maker, they are the most fragile parts of the costume and the stick out! even on the human body it seems ones toes and nose are subject to more harm than the rest of the body because they stick out. and suit looking gross and matted means they are not cleaning and brushing it! *faceplam
hence, SUPER GLUE HANDY
and of course it will get matted, its fur, you brush your hair to keep it nice right? this being all said, I still can't afford a suit for myself, but still that just makes me realize how expensive they are and when I DO get one I'll have to take good care of it
I know one friend who has a special room just for ventilating suits out, he takes THAT much good care of them to keep them from smelling
I'm sorry that you feel that way with the 2 yearold costume situation but I personally think your work is beautiful. I only wished I could afford to commission you lol. You shouldn't let you bother them because it's probably just b-tards making fun of it and b-tards opinions don't matter. Though that's life I suppose, no mater what you do in life you're going to get people who absolutely love what you do and you're going to get the pricks who tell you should stop and what not.
Maybe you should take a couple days off - or even a full blown vacation some where nice and don't even think about fursuiting and just relax. o3o;; I'm sure what I've said has already been said but I thought I would throw in my support...ish... comment. Hope you feel better soon.
And.. Hm, this probably won't help, but how about a disclaimer on how it might happen that some claw falls off or something? I've no clue if you have that somewhere but maybe talk about such things with your clients first? Also, I don't know what drama exactly happened, but I can imagine and I can also imagine how much that hurts. I had people telling me my art sucks lots and fails too and that made me depressive for like.. Quite a while.
Well, all in all this advice probably is neither new nor super awesome but you shouldn't waste your talent there anyway, would be sad to see that. So, uh, keep it up? After a break, I'd say?
if you don't get over it, you're going to be miserable, end up in a job you hate and be miserable there. your choice.
I dont mean to sound like a bitch here, but its true.
but i think the stress of how much drama has been followng me around lately, on top of the stress of being overbooked and working all the time, all piled on top of the stress about my cat having a serious health problem (more on that later, i want to get the name of her condition right and research it more before i do a journal on it) all have me at the end of my rope right now.
it'll get better <3
Some people just CAN'T be pleased.
I hope that you'll continue working, if you take break. I still want to get a suit from you!
You don't know me... but I've been watching your work for a while and simply, absolutely LOVE it.
I dream of the day that I can have the funds have you make a fursuit for me.......
I've considered asking you for tips but you're probably busy and all...
All that drama can really mess things up.
I really.. REALLY hope things get better for you.. I hate seeing a fellow human being in pain, even if I don't know them.
*Big, snuggly, comforting hug*
I'll send positive energy your way.
I feel for you. Commission drama is why I rarely do fursuit commissions. People are stupid, really stupid, and should be understanding when it comes to how fursuit making works.
What I do is put a disclaimer that says "my fursuits are not perfect, they may not fit exactly right, could get damaged, etc etc, you have been warned". And that way if they find something to bitch about I'm like "well, I warned you".
Buuut anyways. My time of the month is starting also. And I have chemical depression and tons of anxiety so I feel how you described in your journal almost every other day sometimes...mostly when I'm not even ON my period. It's been better lately but I def know how you feel. :C
I love your work. It's beautiful. Hope you feel better soon.
Once more we love you. -hugs-
and i do plan to fix it for him for free once he finds time to actually use the suit again.
from what i know it needs a zipper replacement, the tail attachment needs to be secured, and the leg padding is loose, all easily fixed within a day (once i get the suit)
make sure u watch for picks of the crux at ac btw :3
i opted to take a 3 inch long tan fur and air brush it to match the orangeish brown color so that your tail can all be made from 3 inch long fur and thus look like its extra fluffy (vs just fat looking if i had used the 1 inch fur)
normally i'd charge a little extra but its a freebie for ya because i felt it would look that much better :3
Oh, and even if born out of venting, your gore art is beautiful, as much as your costumes are.
Please don't close comissions >_< It would be a huge loss to the fandom if you stopped :( I wanted you to make my realistic Thylacine suit someday.