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Words CAN Hurt
14 years ago
"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."
That is how the phrase goes, I took it to mean that one can do all kinds of physical harm to another, but words can never hurt another person's spirit.
I found out just now that this is not the case. Words CAN hurt, especially so if one goes thoughtlessly carrying about. Just as in the real world, once words have left your screen once you hit that send button, they are out there. Like a tube of toothpaste, as one person said, you can't put the paste back in the tube. For good or for naught, its out there in the world.
Someone today gave me a very thoughtful and heartwarming gift; in turn I gave an overly harsh criticism that didn't reflect my true feelings on the matter. I grew up with ADHD, and it still affects me as an adult. I do things that are stupid in social situations. I make faux pax, a great number. Yet each experience helps me to better myself, so that I don't repeat the same mistake.
Today I was, I very much was an asshole, which disabled or not, I have no right to be.
I love the work, I truely do. I appreciate the heart and soul that went into the piece and I hope still to see it come to completion. I know my words caused hurt, and I can't undo what I said. All I can do is work to prove that one statement made in haste does not equal my whole feelings on the matter.
If you are reading this, once again I am sorry for my hurtful words earlier. I hope that we can work to rebuild what I so selfishly trashed, so that we can continue to be friends.
EDIT: I am keeping this up here as a marker, perhaps a bit of wisdom that can be a reminder to myself and to others about how thoughtless comments can be hurtful.
That is how the phrase goes, I took it to mean that one can do all kinds of physical harm to another, but words can never hurt another person's spirit.
I found out just now that this is not the case. Words CAN hurt, especially so if one goes thoughtlessly carrying about. Just as in the real world, once words have left your screen once you hit that send button, they are out there. Like a tube of toothpaste, as one person said, you can't put the paste back in the tube. For good or for naught, its out there in the world.
Someone today gave me a very thoughtful and heartwarming gift; in turn I gave an overly harsh criticism that didn't reflect my true feelings on the matter. I grew up with ADHD, and it still affects me as an adult. I do things that are stupid in social situations. I make faux pax, a great number. Yet each experience helps me to better myself, so that I don't repeat the same mistake.
Today I was, I very much was an asshole, which disabled or not, I have no right to be.
I love the work, I truely do. I appreciate the heart and soul that went into the piece and I hope still to see it come to completion. I know my words caused hurt, and I can't undo what I said. All I can do is work to prove that one statement made in haste does not equal my whole feelings on the matter.
If you are reading this, once again I am sorry for my hurtful words earlier. I hope that we can work to rebuild what I so selfishly trashed, so that we can continue to be friends.
EDIT: I am keeping this up here as a marker, perhaps a bit of wisdom that can be a reminder to myself and to others about how thoughtless comments can be hurtful.
