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My Heart Aches
13 years ago
Herpa Early this morning, I was visiting Jeff to see how he was dealing with the news of Wesley's confirmed suicide. He was on the phone with his uncle, Wesley's father. Well...the information Jeff received about Wesley's motive to take his own life...is disturbing, at the most.
Apparently, Wesley had been dealing with a bully that transfered to his school last year. It seems that the bully had decided to take out his frustrations on Wesley. And from what Jeff has told me, it sounds like the bully took it too far the week before Wesley took his own life. Of all the cheerful, happy and mellow teenagers I've met, it's hard to believe that a bully would have been able to break Wesley. It isn't pleasant to know that bullying is a very big problem in schools not just in America, but worldwide.
News like this is difficult to hear news about a young student taking their own life as a result of being bullied. It's very difficult to accept the fact that bullying happens everyday aroud the world in many schools of all age levels; elementary, junior high(or middle school), high schools, and colleges. And hearing news of a young student taking their own life as a solution to get away from their bullying problem at school is...just absolutely heartbreaking. I work with many students who have learning disabilities, K-5. As a teachers aid, it absolutely hurts me to hear about bullying that goes too far.
My heart hurts a lot...I don't know how Jeff is going to cope with this knowledge about Wesley. But I know that he's having it harder than me, as he was much closer to Wesley than I was. Those two were almost like brothers. However, I still feel the pain he feels of his loss, as I not only met Wesley two years ago, but Wesley also asked me to help him with his summer reading project paper. He was such a sweet kid, and his Australian accent just added to his cuteness factor. I don't think I'll ever forget those charming blue eye's of his, his very large freckles, and his long, messy red hair. It truly is a shame and heartbreaking that he became the victim of a bully, and even more heartbreaking to know that he took his own life to escape it.
I just wish that something would be done already about bullying in schools, because there's just been so many students who have taken their own lives due to bullying in the last year. As a teachers aid, I don't think I can handle another story of a student committing suicide.
I only hope Jeff is able to overcome his depression. He obviously hasn't been this depressed since he lost his own little sister. I also hope Wesley's parents don't beat themselves up for not noticing the signs of Wesley being bullied. I hope no one here on FA will ever have to deal with news like this themselves. I hope those of you who have children of your own recognize the signs that your child is being bullied, sit down with them or your childs school administration, and have the bullying resolved. No one should have to go through a tragic event like this. No one, not even new parents.
Dani
Bad parenting leads to bad kids and bullying problems....Bad parenting is on the rise but it is the most highly ignored problem as it is constantly procrastinated and the blame gets thrown around because adults of this generation are so ignorant and fearful of their flaws and decisions, that they can't come out of the closet in their own inability to raise a child properly. That's why you see video games getting blamed, movies being blamed for violent behaviors in youth, GTA isn't to blame for this one bully, or for his thoughts of being mentally morbid so young in life. It's either the bullies head is fucked, or the Parents are fucked.
Either way, I know how bullying is, it drove me to many problems, I survived and not because I got help, my will power fortunately/unfortunately in many cases just persevered much longer than normal, many close calls, but, I remain as I am today, still vaguely hurt from my childhood but I also moved on. Not many are as lucky, many dear with it worse, I had my teachers as well bully me back then, and my parents never believed anything I said, was harsh times.
If I had a Death Note--...Oh my that would be wonderful.
til then, the only real hope anyone has is to do yet another, 'Awareness' campaign that cynically to me, they never really hit hard to reality because Ignorance never settles a question, the ones to be blamed ignore it and block it out and hide.