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the REAL Rex Wolf
13 years ago
Most people that know about Rex Wolf don't know anything about the real Rex. Just third and fourth hand stuff put out there to slander him. What second hand info people have is usually from people that are obsessed with hating Rex for reasons that I can't understand.
Instead of going into what is false about what it said about Rex, I will go into the truth about him.
I met Rex online in the summer of 09. After talking for a while, I was getting tired of living with my parents, so planned to go for a trip. My first stop was to meet Rex. My memory is a bit foggy on what happened, but I believe we went to the movies.... Anyway when I got back from my trip, I went to visit Rex again. It was Halloween. We had fun. I stayed over there for about a week, and then went to my parents' house.
I noticed that at my parents' house, I didn't feel at home. After talking to Rex, we decided that I should move in. I moved in with Rex on the last day of November. I moved in with the agreement that I would keep the house clean, and I wouldn't have to pay rent. I did get food stamps, which allowed us to get some really good food. He let me use his laptop, and overall was very nice, even when I didn't keep up on the house. We did have a few arguments, though. Namely about me not keeping the house clean, or when one of us was stressed due to external things.
At one time, he had someone over to see if she would work as a replacement for me. He didn't tell me why she was there, just that she was going to visit. The moment she walked in the door, I knew something was wrong about her. She was all happy and nice at first, but the moment that Rex was out of the room, she would criticize me on how bad the house was, and how she would do a better job. This wouldn't have bothered me if it was true, but she had already done a load of dishes, and I had to wash everything again, because there was still food on the dishes. Later Mike asked me to do the dishes, and she jumped up before I could answer, She said she would do them and went to do the dishes. I tried to think of reasons to not let her, without telling Rex about her previous washing. I didn't want to be rude and criticize her for her work, even though it was worse then my work, and she did just that to me. I ended up getting so frustrated that I went for a walk to get out of the house. I ended up having several problems with her there, and I tried several times to be friends. But in the end, she just wouldn't really give me a chance. Rex got really upset because while she was there, I didn't clean anything but dishes. He didn't realize it was because she was there that I couldn't work. Later, this woman invited Rex to go to a convention. When she was there, she spent a lot of money on other people. So much that she didn't have the money to get home. She ended up being mad at Rex for not helping her get home, which wasn't agreed upon at all. They stopped being friends soon after. Rex thought about what happened when she visited and realized what happened. Now, anyone that knows Rex knows he's stubborn. He doesn't like to be wrong, and often wont admit it, I understand though. I'm the same way. But after this he came and apologized to me. The most heartfelt apology I've ever seen.
I know that he can come off as harsh. But if you really get to know him, he's a caring person. You can see it much more now then you could when I lived with him.
I eventually started to want to look for someone else to live with. Not because I wanted to move out of Rex's house, but rather to find a significant other. I did find someone I wanted to meet up with. I went to visit him for about a week, and when I got back, I was having some trouble keeping up with the dishes due to my job. I didn't have much free time, and I wanted to relax a bit so that I could get through the work day, and not just work all day at home, then go to work, and work all night. Rex got upset at me because of this. I was planning on telling him that day that I was wanting to move in with the person I met, but because I was upset with Rex, I started to pack the stuff I didn't need. While doing this, he saw what I was doing and got mad at me. I ended up packing all my stuff and leaving. I moved out that very day. I had to move in with some of my co-workers for a week before I was able to move in with my significant other.
While this was happening, Rex was trying to move. He was afraid that he wouldn't be able to survive where he lived much longer. He didn't have enough money so tried to take me to small claims court. I was unable to make it, and was unable to call because I have a really hard time with phones, so it defaulted to him. Most people would have been mad, or would have fought it, but I knew that something was up. I could just tell that there was something to it that neither of us saw. it took a while, but Rex got to a point where he needed money. He contacted me about coming up with something. When he contacted me, I knew I had two options. I could fight the case, and remove the debt by getting it thrown out, as there really wasn't grounds for it, or I could invest in a friendship. I knew that everyone else he had live with him ended up being less then expected, and that most of them turned around and hated Rex. I wanted to show him that even though I left on bad terms, I held nothing against him. This was a way to show that. We agreed to trade cars, mine was worth a lot more then his was, and that would settle the debt.
After a while, we started talking here and there. Not too long ago we started talking a lot more. and I eventually went to visit him. We got along very well. He's got a new outlook on life. He's not as harsh as he used to be, granted, a lot of that wasn't unreasonable with what he has gone through. Even if you have had some negative experiences with Rex, you should take a look again. People change. For better sometimes, and for worse sometimes, and Rex as a better person now.
To any friends of the people who started spreading negative things about Rex, do you really want friends that will talk bad about people to the point of stalking? I've seen accounts made just to harass Rex. Many of these people used to be friends of Rex. I wouldn't want a friend that has betrayed previous friends, and continues to harass them. It doesn't take much to see the potential for problems there.
Now, Rex has been through a lot, which leaves him in a state where he is paranoid, and tends to prepare for the worst. I witnessed some of these things myself. I've seen a judge break the law, I've seen him harassed by people for literally no reason. I've seen him threatened to be killed, I've seen people that were his friends turn on him, I've seen him discriminated by the people who are supposed to help him. All of this stuff, I saw first hand. I don't know of anyone that has the right to tell him that he has it easy. His life is harder then anything most people could handle. Yet, people still have the nerve to try to ruin his life further online. The ED page of him is an example. When someone says it should be taken down, the response people have is that it's just a site to create drama, people don't take it seriously. Yet when I say that the ED page is just that, people say that if he has an ED page, then he must have done something. This double standard, about what is serious and what isn't, makes the whole situation worse.
If you really want to know what Rex is like, try to imagine a person that had it all, lost it all, was kicked while he was down, then tried to help the people like him, the people that don't know him, and the very people that caused him pain. In the entire time I knew him, he never once did anything for personal gain. He did things to either help many people, or he did what he needed to to survive.
I will answer question sent by note, or in the comments.
Instead of going into what is false about what it said about Rex, I will go into the truth about him.
I met Rex online in the summer of 09. After talking for a while, I was getting tired of living with my parents, so planned to go for a trip. My first stop was to meet Rex. My memory is a bit foggy on what happened, but I believe we went to the movies.... Anyway when I got back from my trip, I went to visit Rex again. It was Halloween. We had fun. I stayed over there for about a week, and then went to my parents' house.
I noticed that at my parents' house, I didn't feel at home. After talking to Rex, we decided that I should move in. I moved in with Rex on the last day of November. I moved in with the agreement that I would keep the house clean, and I wouldn't have to pay rent. I did get food stamps, which allowed us to get some really good food. He let me use his laptop, and overall was very nice, even when I didn't keep up on the house. We did have a few arguments, though. Namely about me not keeping the house clean, or when one of us was stressed due to external things.
At one time, he had someone over to see if she would work as a replacement for me. He didn't tell me why she was there, just that she was going to visit. The moment she walked in the door, I knew something was wrong about her. She was all happy and nice at first, but the moment that Rex was out of the room, she would criticize me on how bad the house was, and how she would do a better job. This wouldn't have bothered me if it was true, but she had already done a load of dishes, and I had to wash everything again, because there was still food on the dishes. Later Mike asked me to do the dishes, and she jumped up before I could answer, She said she would do them and went to do the dishes. I tried to think of reasons to not let her, without telling Rex about her previous washing. I didn't want to be rude and criticize her for her work, even though it was worse then my work, and she did just that to me. I ended up getting so frustrated that I went for a walk to get out of the house. I ended up having several problems with her there, and I tried several times to be friends. But in the end, she just wouldn't really give me a chance. Rex got really upset because while she was there, I didn't clean anything but dishes. He didn't realize it was because she was there that I couldn't work. Later, this woman invited Rex to go to a convention. When she was there, she spent a lot of money on other people. So much that she didn't have the money to get home. She ended up being mad at Rex for not helping her get home, which wasn't agreed upon at all. They stopped being friends soon after. Rex thought about what happened when she visited and realized what happened. Now, anyone that knows Rex knows he's stubborn. He doesn't like to be wrong, and often wont admit it, I understand though. I'm the same way. But after this he came and apologized to me. The most heartfelt apology I've ever seen.
I know that he can come off as harsh. But if you really get to know him, he's a caring person. You can see it much more now then you could when I lived with him.
I eventually started to want to look for someone else to live with. Not because I wanted to move out of Rex's house, but rather to find a significant other. I did find someone I wanted to meet up with. I went to visit him for about a week, and when I got back, I was having some trouble keeping up with the dishes due to my job. I didn't have much free time, and I wanted to relax a bit so that I could get through the work day, and not just work all day at home, then go to work, and work all night. Rex got upset at me because of this. I was planning on telling him that day that I was wanting to move in with the person I met, but because I was upset with Rex, I started to pack the stuff I didn't need. While doing this, he saw what I was doing and got mad at me. I ended up packing all my stuff and leaving. I moved out that very day. I had to move in with some of my co-workers for a week before I was able to move in with my significant other.
While this was happening, Rex was trying to move. He was afraid that he wouldn't be able to survive where he lived much longer. He didn't have enough money so tried to take me to small claims court. I was unable to make it, and was unable to call because I have a really hard time with phones, so it defaulted to him. Most people would have been mad, or would have fought it, but I knew that something was up. I could just tell that there was something to it that neither of us saw. it took a while, but Rex got to a point where he needed money. He contacted me about coming up with something. When he contacted me, I knew I had two options. I could fight the case, and remove the debt by getting it thrown out, as there really wasn't grounds for it, or I could invest in a friendship. I knew that everyone else he had live with him ended up being less then expected, and that most of them turned around and hated Rex. I wanted to show him that even though I left on bad terms, I held nothing against him. This was a way to show that. We agreed to trade cars, mine was worth a lot more then his was, and that would settle the debt.
After a while, we started talking here and there. Not too long ago we started talking a lot more. and I eventually went to visit him. We got along very well. He's got a new outlook on life. He's not as harsh as he used to be, granted, a lot of that wasn't unreasonable with what he has gone through. Even if you have had some negative experiences with Rex, you should take a look again. People change. For better sometimes, and for worse sometimes, and Rex as a better person now.
To any friends of the people who started spreading negative things about Rex, do you really want friends that will talk bad about people to the point of stalking? I've seen accounts made just to harass Rex. Many of these people used to be friends of Rex. I wouldn't want a friend that has betrayed previous friends, and continues to harass them. It doesn't take much to see the potential for problems there.
Now, Rex has been through a lot, which leaves him in a state where he is paranoid, and tends to prepare for the worst. I witnessed some of these things myself. I've seen a judge break the law, I've seen him harassed by people for literally no reason. I've seen him threatened to be killed, I've seen people that were his friends turn on him, I've seen him discriminated by the people who are supposed to help him. All of this stuff, I saw first hand. I don't know of anyone that has the right to tell him that he has it easy. His life is harder then anything most people could handle. Yet, people still have the nerve to try to ruin his life further online. The ED page of him is an example. When someone says it should be taken down, the response people have is that it's just a site to create drama, people don't take it seriously. Yet when I say that the ED page is just that, people say that if he has an ED page, then he must have done something. This double standard, about what is serious and what isn't, makes the whole situation worse.
If you really want to know what Rex is like, try to imagine a person that had it all, lost it all, was kicked while he was down, then tried to help the people like him, the people that don't know him, and the very people that caused him pain. In the entire time I knew him, he never once did anything for personal gain. He did things to either help many people, or he did what he needed to to survive.
I will answer question sent by note, or in the comments.
And like I said. People do change. and Rex has changed a lot since then. He feels really bad about both situations. I have a good feel for people, and Rex is a good person, that due to things outside of his control, caused his self-preservation skills to go into overdrive.
*hugs*
Thank you.
I have learned a great deal about myself these past years. I suffer from a condition called "Dyesexecutive Syndrome." It is a suite of symptoms caused by the double brain damage I suffer from; both transient from black mold toxin, and from the lead and other heavy metals I inhaled and absorbed during the house fire in 2004. The black mold toxin was the cause of the fire it turns out.
I still have significant issues as my ability to control my emotions still isn't quite there. And I also realized that when I lost my life's memories, I lost the vocabulary and language I would have learned could I remember what it was. As a result, I am not actually a native English speaker. But being American, having been here all of my life, and looking and acting and talking like an American; I come of as strange in a way that people cannot readily place, and as a result, I am seen as an outsider and shunned or shut out. A lot of this is also because I was bullied as a child and ostracized from every aspect of American culture. I am an outsider.
Fortunately, I am also now outside...of America.
In the past 15 years, not one single American ever told me they wanted to spend time with me or enjoyed my company - that I can recall. But the first person I meet in Mexico, who crewed for me from Bahia Tortuga to La Paz via Cabo San Lucas, told me he enjoyed being around me because I'm so smart. Smart in America is a curse. When that can be seen by Americans, America will start on the path towards being a country that has actual freedoms. Pardon the soapbox, but that I see what others do not does not make what I see any less true. I had tried desperately to take others out of America because of what I see coming, what I know is coming; but my disabilities proved too much to surmount to be able to explain what I see.
Thank you again for the kind words. I will be enjoying myself in Mexico. You are welcome to email me at disperser.wolf at Gmail and I also have a Mexican cell phone now and could provide the number if you wanted. Please be sure to tell our mutual friend hello. I haven't had a chance to dig up his email address and had lost his phone number when I dropped my cell phone in the water in early October.
Take care. Please consider visiting me. I'll be in Guaymas for two years; a quaint working fishing village that is also the best place in the world for oysters; if you like that sort of thing.
-Wolf