Okay, been wanting to write something like this all day, finally going to take a shot at it. Apologies if it comes off as long-winded or anything. Also, as the title says, this isn't a light-hearted topic, so don't expect that. Potential trigger warning also, given I'll be talking vaguely about ideas around rape. So. Here we go then. Oh, I'm also assuming that if you're reading this it's because you're watching me, and therefore know that TF = TransFormation, and the TF-fandom being, well, people who like that sort of thing. Anyway.

I realised I wanted to say something when I was working on my latest story and it struck me it was about TF'ing yet another attractive young woman, seemingly against her will. Now, I've got a tendency to work in the realm of what I'd call "magical consent"; which is to say that while the girls often don't explicitly consent to being TF'd - and sometimes don't consent to having sex - they always enjoy it more or less immediately, and, given the option later on, they wouldn't choose to do anything differently. As fantasy, that works. It can be hot to have someone being overcome; being overwhelmed by both the TF and all-consuming lust despite their best efforts to resist, and having them explicitly consent first can get in the way of that (hence why in the Shortcuts series, which is all about a woman very emphatically consenting to be TF'd by a SCIENCE! guy, the actual TF scene involves them basically roleplaying what it would be like if she was unawares and hadn't consented).

My point is, as a fantasy, that can be fine. However, as much as it's fun and fine to indulge those fantasies, something I'm at least touching on whenever I write stories that include non-consentual situations, you shouldn't let those ideas carry over to the rest of your interactions.

I should say, this isn't directed at anyone in particular, and it's not even from anything I've encountered personally. I'm a young, white, straight male - meaningful discrimination or harrassment isn't really something I've faced. But I was reading something on this topic elsewhere (although that was in the context of the gaming community), and I realised that what I was writing risked making the TF community less awesome by setting quiet standards of "this is how it is acceptable to treat women - as sex objects, whether they want it or not", which is not something to be encouraged. Women can absolutely be sex objects if they want - I know some positively wonderful women who happily refer to themselves as sluts, and several men too for that matter - but it's not a role to be thrust on them merely because they happen to be women, nor is it something to be annoyed at them for if they seem to enjoy doing sexual things, but don't want to do sexual things always, with everyone.

So, uh, the women in my stories often are, or become, sex objects, and they want to be, and they enjoy it. Liking that concept as a fantasy isn't bad or wrong. But in real life women don't automatically want that, and if they don't then they in turn are not bad or wrong. On FA I guess this comes down mostly to what it's appropiate to say to other people, either in comments or notes. Try to be aware of the line between appropriate and not, and if you don't know the person then it's best to err on the side of caution. Again, I can't say too much from experience here, because I can't recall getting anything I found offensive myself, but just be aware that different people have different tolerances. And, if I can make an assumption of something carrying over from the gaming side of the internet; yes, it might be hot that there's a girl on the internet doing something that you consider to be arousing, but even if what she's doing is actively making adult material, that doesn't necessarily mean she wants to know about how aroused it is getting you. She might! Some people are perfectly okay with that as a compliment. But if you assume she wants to know, and wants you to talk about it specifically and in detail, then you're treating her as more of a sex object than anything else, and if she doesn't want that then it's not a good feeling to have that thrust onto you. Best not to assume that without good evidence (like, say, you know her already, or she's stated that she's fine with that), and to err on the side of caution. If in doubt, ask, politely, and don't be offended if someone doesn't share your desire for sexual things to occur.

Again, this isn't focused at anyone, or due to any encounter I have had or seen. It's just, for better or worse the TF fandom is one that I'm invested in, and despite writing stories about women becoming and being used as sextoys, I don't want to help create a culture that is okay with casual misogyny or the like. I don't know if that's something that's present, or a risk, or whatever - for someone who says he's invested in the fandom, I really do have very little direct interaction with it, aside from putting my stories out like messages in a bottle and occasionally getting a few comments floating back. But I guess that's the point - given that my stories are my main method of interaction, I don't want to risk them setting a precedent I'm uncomfortable with.

(tl;dr/short version: Non-consentual situations like in some of my stories can be fun fantasies, but I don't want them to accidentally contribute to a negative/misogynistic culture. The TF fandom should be full of accepting people being cool to each other just as much as it's full of awesome stories or pictures of folks bustin' out of their clothes for sexytimes, so just hoping to do my part to make both sides of that equation a reality)

Hope that was coherent, sorry if this seemed rediculously self-evident or anything, and for the length (to those who successfully made it through). Be awesome everyone, hopefully another story from me within the next few days, which, as you might have been able to guess from all this, is about TF'ing someone into an eager sextoy. Fun!