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12 years ago
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For art done from other artists. (empty) I have some rather bad news. I probably jumped the gun on the big announcement..but everything at the time I was being told pointed in the direction of everything being safe to tell people. But, apparently it wasn't. I went in for blood work this past Monday and Tuesday I got part of the results (had to have more work done Weds). The doctor called and had me come back in Tuesday to check for some issues that concerned him. When I got there they ran some more ultrasounds and comparing that with past U/S plus bloodwork from the past confirmed the doctor's suspicion.
While my body was very much pregnant and preparing to support a baby, there was just one minor little problem...there was no baby. He diagnosed me with something called "Blighted Ovum" - information can be found here.
For about a week -and the cause for me going to the ER before my first appoint, I had been having some problems. I won't go into details - but at first I was told it was all natural. However, I was concerned as this was a first time thing for me. Apparently the problems I was having were signs of my condition. Of course, those issues only happened for one or two days and stopped..but started up again after my first appointment. After I went in on Tuesday the doctor explained to me that my pregnancy was not viable. He explained to me what was happening and then said that I shouldn't be surprised if I start cramping and going through serious pain. He also said don't be surprised that I would start bleeding. Which, that night, I did. The pain wasn't bad at first until I woke up the next morning. I still had to do bloodwork on Wednesday to confirm the condition - as it was still possible there was still an actual pregnancy.
The tests proved that the doctor was right. I spoke with the nurse and she told me that because of my numbers, they highly recommended something called a D&C surgery. I told them I would think on it...and after discussing things with my family and my fiance (
iceblueeyes) I agreed to the surgery. I also asked that they go ahead and plan to remove a cyst they found inside my uterus.
They set me up for surgery on the 2nd this upcoming week. They estimated that the surgery will take an hour and thirty minutes for both and recovery will be about a week. They said I may be released the day of the surgery depending on how well I recover.
I'll admit, I am scared. THe day I found out about my condition I did break down and I cried just about all day. Ice/Claude was there to support me...it was not easy. We were preparing for an awesome happy change in our lives - just as my family and friends were - only to have it taken away. It sucked. After I cried for the good majority of the day, I slowly grew to accept it. I don't know how or why I am so strong during this...I only assume it is because Ice has been there for me the whole time. And because....as much as it hurts, no baby was actually lost. The idea of one was, but not an actual child. I took some comfort in that...as well as knowing that there was nothing that Claude or I did to cause this. Nothing we could have done would have stopped or fixed it. The doctor assured us of this as did all my research into the problem. I also found out this happens in 50% of miscarriages and that this particular problem doesn't typically repeat itself.
Claude and I aren't going to stop trying to have a family. I will obviously need lots of time for my body to recooperate from this...as right now, I am in a lot of pain..and I have been bleeding. Thankfully the bleeding isn't severe to where I have to go to the ER...but what I'm feeling and going through is nothing like I've ever felt or dealt with before.
It sucks. It really, really does. I can't even go to work to try to take my mind off it - as it hurts to be on my feet for too long. I haven't been getting much sleep at night because that is when the pain is worse. Doctors said I can only take tylenol and it is only working so much. Thankfully during the day the pain is not as severe..but it is still there.
I don't know what to expect during the surgery. I am scared and nervous..but I'll have Claude and my family there with me.
Wish me luck guys, I will need it.
While my body was very much pregnant and preparing to support a baby, there was just one minor little problem...there was no baby. He diagnosed me with something called "Blighted Ovum" - information can be found here.
For about a week -and the cause for me going to the ER before my first appoint, I had been having some problems. I won't go into details - but at first I was told it was all natural. However, I was concerned as this was a first time thing for me. Apparently the problems I was having were signs of my condition. Of course, those issues only happened for one or two days and stopped..but started up again after my first appointment. After I went in on Tuesday the doctor explained to me that my pregnancy was not viable. He explained to me what was happening and then said that I shouldn't be surprised if I start cramping and going through serious pain. He also said don't be surprised that I would start bleeding. Which, that night, I did. The pain wasn't bad at first until I woke up the next morning. I still had to do bloodwork on Wednesday to confirm the condition - as it was still possible there was still an actual pregnancy.
The tests proved that the doctor was right. I spoke with the nurse and she told me that because of my numbers, they highly recommended something called a D&C surgery. I told them I would think on it...and after discussing things with my family and my fiance (
iceblueeyes) I agreed to the surgery. I also asked that they go ahead and plan to remove a cyst they found inside my uterus. They set me up for surgery on the 2nd this upcoming week. They estimated that the surgery will take an hour and thirty minutes for both and recovery will be about a week. They said I may be released the day of the surgery depending on how well I recover.
I'll admit, I am scared. THe day I found out about my condition I did break down and I cried just about all day. Ice/Claude was there to support me...it was not easy. We were preparing for an awesome happy change in our lives - just as my family and friends were - only to have it taken away. It sucked. After I cried for the good majority of the day, I slowly grew to accept it. I don't know how or why I am so strong during this...I only assume it is because Ice has been there for me the whole time. And because....as much as it hurts, no baby was actually lost. The idea of one was, but not an actual child. I took some comfort in that...as well as knowing that there was nothing that Claude or I did to cause this. Nothing we could have done would have stopped or fixed it. The doctor assured us of this as did all my research into the problem. I also found out this happens in 50% of miscarriages and that this particular problem doesn't typically repeat itself.
Claude and I aren't going to stop trying to have a family. I will obviously need lots of time for my body to recooperate from this...as right now, I am in a lot of pain..and I have been bleeding. Thankfully the bleeding isn't severe to where I have to go to the ER...but what I'm feeling and going through is nothing like I've ever felt or dealt with before.
It sucks. It really, really does. I can't even go to work to try to take my mind off it - as it hurts to be on my feet for too long. I haven't been getting much sleep at night because that is when the pain is worse. Doctors said I can only take tylenol and it is only working so much. Thankfully during the day the pain is not as severe..but it is still there.
I don't know what to expect during the surgery. I am scared and nervous..but I'll have Claude and my family there with me.
Wish me luck guys, I will need it.
*gives all the hugs* Did they say why you can't have ibuprofen at all? Advil/Ibuprofen is the only thing that cuts cramping pain for me... :(
While the pain is dreadful and its hard to do stuff, it's not unbearable. I've been checking the bleeding frequently and it hasn't gotten super bad. I've been keeping myself hydrated - drinking I don't know how much water, and resting. Every now and then I get up and walk around to stretch my legs...but for the most part it feels better to just stay laying down and curled up. I tried to sit up and draw earlier but it wasn't comfortable.
Maybe a hot water bottle can help ease pain?
I hope your procedure goes well with no complications, and that in a few months you'll be able to tell us all that you're properly pregnant :)
Also, thanks for the advice and everything. All the support is very helpful..
-Jovo
This'll bring you and IceBlueEyes closer together as you work through the recovery and future attempts. Good luck with it all. I'll be praying for you.
And it already has. He's been so supportive of me...I had to go to the ER last night and he went straight there after work. I was in so much pain I could barely move prior to getting picked up by my mom. Doctors sent me home with percoset though and said to talk to my OB. Which is pointless because their office is closed on the weekend. I would have to call him on Monday to inform him of the ER visit and then Tuesday is the surgery anyway. Stupid ER doctors...I swear they never know what they're doing.
I know what you mean. Some ER docs just don't seem to know what day it is most of the time. Be careful with the percocets. They can make you really loopy if you're sensitive to oxycodone. They'll at least help with the pain. Take it easy and rest when you can. I look forward to hearing of your fast recovery.
P.S. How would you like some gift art? i've been on a sort of artsy kick lately so why don't you pick something and note or IM me the details and i'll see if i can knock out some kind of "get well" sketch or something? i know it's not much, but if i'm drawing anyway, i could use the inspiration!
Also, aww! I rarely get gift art....so when people say they want to do it for me, it always makes me happy. I'll throw some characters your way and let you pick. I'm really not picky typically..even when it comes to commissions. I like giving the artists choices so they can draw what interests them and not be forced to do something they may not really want to do or are interested in. Thank you for the offer though, it really means a lot. =)
Also, feel free to add me to any messengers I have. Just note me what your SN is so I know its you lo
My Yahoo by the way is the one synced to my cellphone, so you can contact me whenever, even if it says i'm not online. You know, just in case.
Anyway, yeah, leave me a message on one of those or note me here with whatever ideas you have for the giftart and i'll see what i can do, m'kay?
Terribly sorry to hear this is happening to you, and a speedy recovery after you surgery.
And thanks, the surgery can't get here fast enough
Definitely gonna wish the best for you two.