Not at all Hun, I know exactly how you feel.
It's just the way we are made *hugs*
As long as you have a understanding mate, things will be fine :3

If it's a sexual interest you get for females periodically there's nothing to worry about, sex isn't love and love isn't all about sex.

You should get a toy, instead of thinking of thoughts that are disloyal to your mate.

That is an Idea hehe I do have one BD toy a small Gryphon. Ill

It's not disloyal if he's being honest about it though.

The action of desiring other people when in a relationship is disloyal, regardless of it is cthonic in your thoughts, or not. Simply admitting to them implies a prerogative towards the libido, not towards the lover: you should mind these sort of things more.

I'm affraid I have to disagree with you. When you get into a relationship and make it clear you are bi, your mate is aware of what you like and that you have some needs he will never be able to fullfill completely. This doesn't mean he loves him less, it just means he's being honest.
It's human, simple as that, and keeping it for yourself just increase frustration, and frustration in a relationship is never good in the long term.

Honesty is in fact significantly different than the open admission of wanting a 'plaything', a morally abysmal action. If you have come to the point of having such a lascivious consideration openly, to 'everyone', then you should consider rethinking priorities. The fact is, the open admission of wanting another individual to satisfy a pleasure that should in fact come second best to your physical and mental well being, as well as your relationship's stability, is lecherous and not prudent. Keeping thoughts to your-self can in fact build frustration, but this type of thinking that Rega has demonstrate could be detrimental if it persists.

I personally don't see why it is morally wrong to get a "plaything" as long as everyone is ok with it. I mean, what's wrong about wanting "a pleasure" if it doesn't hurt anyone? Why is it more condamnable than any other activities you would do with friends? Because it is sex? But heck, if you and your mate have no problems with it, this is not being disloyal, this is not wrong, this is just sharing fun with consenting people.

The key in a relationship is trust, not the place you put your thing in

obviously you've never heard of an open relationship, different people have different views on morality and loyalty, you cant just state your opinion on them as facts.

The act of restricting sexual desires. Which the media is all too good at doing, creates more problems.

If we were all born in a society where we were all unclothed and nude. Fetishes would be very very limited, Proven fact that is buried by more media. But because we are deprived and taught that sex is a bad thing since birth, we all develop crazy fetishes and have more of a urge to sleep around. Dont blame him blame society for not stepping up to the plate to change and advance.

it was that kind of thinking that made my previous relationship end. Unfortunately, you're talking about fighting genetics, which is an endless and impossible fight to win. my previous girlfriend would get jealous if I even LOOKED at someone else or complimented someone on their appearance. by your logic I am not allowed to find anyone else sexually appealing. That is impossible.

Whore!

:-P

Yeah suck's sometime's I know.

maybe you should find a playmate that you both can enjoy

Honestly, I think that you should get a RL female playmate, athough I am also still in the mist about your mated-relationship to dear Exterio, because I don't want to screw you both over by helping.

In my opinion, it is best to talk to your mate. He would understand that there are some needs and urges he simply cannot do. Heck that is part of the thing with cheating and why it is done. Only you arent doing it behind his back, no lies, nothing messed up. He is aware before it and he could understand were you are comig from. They wont go away, and there has to be some side urge he has that you may have helped break the ice into something he had wanted to do. So asking could be mutual for both of you. And asking first could do no harm to a relationship.

Smeaking someone in your house or over there and then the guilty secret to be discovered and break the trust is what would be deestating.

But best of luck, hopefully i helped you make a choice.

Always talk to your mate about things like this. Me and my mate are both Bi? So occasionally we will go out on a whim and flirt with people. I know he's not taking them seriously, he just needs to work it out of his system. And every thing he flirts, I know he will come back to me. (And always has!) So just get it out in the open with your mate. You never know what might come of it!

I'd talk to your mate about it. Like a serious sit down talk. If your mate is also bi, he may understand. just make sure he knows you love him lots.

Welcome to the party hun. X3

i say: chastity. xD

or just a good dose of orgasm deprivation to get you loving your mate all over again.

you can always have a toy just to ease up a lil