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Back to good health. Also, a response to babyfur article
12 years ago
Good news! I'm feeling healthy again. Back to the storyboard I go!
Before I start writing again, I wanted to reply to an article that a watcher of mine sent to me:
http://adjectivespecies.com/2013/07.....-be-a-babyfur/
When I was introduced to the fandom at 14, I also discovered the adult baby/diaper lover community almost entirely by accident. I tried my best to connect with people who had similar interests to mine because I wanted friends. Then I wanted a romantic relationship. Then I wanted to be part of the "babyfur" community in a large way -- and yet I was perfectly comfortable being anonymous. When I went to conventions, not many knew that I identified with the "babyfur" label, but I never felt the need to shout it to the mountaintops. However, people who knew me for my interests began to view me as a devious character more than a person who just so happened to have "babyfur" interests.
Therein lies the problem. You can be open about being a babyfur or any kind of -fur, but naturally, the more you're open about it, the likelihood that you'll be known for your intimate interests increases. I'm not saying, "Stay in the closet and hide your fetish," but I think people should focus on developing relationships based on the strength of their character and personality more than the fetish. You can be open enough to connect with other furries with similar interests, but by publicly identifying yourself as a "babyfur" as your primary objective -- for instance -- will devalue your personal identity to a sexual characteristic. Whether the general, mainstream perception is good or bad, you're limiting yourself and potentially the fandom at large.
In years past, I've been very vocal about the "fringe element." My views have changed over the years.
In life, there will always be people who push the envelope to intensify their satisfaction, sexual and non-sexual. We cannot rule over those people unless they completely and wholly infringe on our personal space. If a babyfur dumps a dirty diaper in a hallway at a convention hotel, that's not a personal, intrinsic harm. It's not sanitary and it's definitely not a smart thing to do, but it happens -- and we can't control that nor should we try.
We can't judge people harshly without harshly judging ourselves. The more time we spend denouncing other people for their behavior and practices, the more we marginalize the fandom we all belong to; our hypocrisy diminishes credibility in mainstream culture and counterculture. At the same time, you don't have to embrace what you personally find objectionable. Embrace the concepts and principles that bring us together.
The article is a great read and I encourage people to comment on it. Very enlightening!
Before I start writing again, I wanted to reply to an article that a watcher of mine sent to me:
http://adjectivespecies.com/2013/07.....-be-a-babyfur/
When I was introduced to the fandom at 14, I also discovered the adult baby/diaper lover community almost entirely by accident. I tried my best to connect with people who had similar interests to mine because I wanted friends. Then I wanted a romantic relationship. Then I wanted to be part of the "babyfur" community in a large way -- and yet I was perfectly comfortable being anonymous. When I went to conventions, not many knew that I identified with the "babyfur" label, but I never felt the need to shout it to the mountaintops. However, people who knew me for my interests began to view me as a devious character more than a person who just so happened to have "babyfur" interests.
Therein lies the problem. You can be open about being a babyfur or any kind of -fur, but naturally, the more you're open about it, the likelihood that you'll be known for your intimate interests increases. I'm not saying, "Stay in the closet and hide your fetish," but I think people should focus on developing relationships based on the strength of their character and personality more than the fetish. You can be open enough to connect with other furries with similar interests, but by publicly identifying yourself as a "babyfur" as your primary objective -- for instance -- will devalue your personal identity to a sexual characteristic. Whether the general, mainstream perception is good or bad, you're limiting yourself and potentially the fandom at large.
In years past, I've been very vocal about the "fringe element." My views have changed over the years.
In life, there will always be people who push the envelope to intensify their satisfaction, sexual and non-sexual. We cannot rule over those people unless they completely and wholly infringe on our personal space. If a babyfur dumps a dirty diaper in a hallway at a convention hotel, that's not a personal, intrinsic harm. It's not sanitary and it's definitely not a smart thing to do, but it happens -- and we can't control that nor should we try.
We can't judge people harshly without harshly judging ourselves. The more time we spend denouncing other people for their behavior and practices, the more we marginalize the fandom we all belong to; our hypocrisy diminishes credibility in mainstream culture and counterculture. At the same time, you don't have to embrace what you personally find objectionable. Embrace the concepts and principles that bring us together.
The article is a great read and I encourage people to comment on it. Very enlightening!
Alfador
~alfador
My method: I introduce myself as Alfador the fox. If someone flips through my badges and notices "Hey there sure are a lot with you in diapers... are you a babyfur?" My answer will be yes. On a few occasions, I've surprised people with how "such a normal furry could be a babyfur." In at least one case, I know the opinion of the person on babyfurs changed toward the positive through knowing me.
lionstories
~lionstories
OP
You're doing it RIGHT ;)
Alfador
~alfador
Thank you! I had hoped so. =^_^=
MiaKoda
~miakoda~
here in town i'm the babyfur of the community. but even those who don't like it persay are still friends with me because i'm not JUST a babyfur. i'm more than that and they know it. they see past the things i enjoy wether sexually or not. yes there is teasing but it's all in good fun. they know me as the babyfur, but they are friends to the person behind the character.
