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So ADISC still exists...
12 years ago
I logged back on to ADISC despite telling myself I never would. Even after months on not being on the site it still saddens me to be reminded of what happened. For those who have no idea what I'm talking about ADISC is a support community that used to be for everyone AB/DL/BF/etc.,but went 18+ last year, which means good meaning people like me were kicked out without a word in edgewise or even a goodbye.
What's odd is that I'm only a few months away from being able to use it again, but that brings up the new question. Should I? Should I take a moral stand and not go on, voicing my belief that what they did was wrong though abstaining my use of their site? Or should I go on? And if I do, what do I do? My goal was to help the teens on that site, and now they're gone.
I think I'm just rambling now because I'm still sad about it. It was the site I considered home for years, in some of the darkest times of my life, but on the other side of the coin the owner of the site, and many of the members who were for the decision, hurt me badly; hurt MANY people badly.
I want to say I'm ready to forgive them, to do the things I learn about at church. Turn the other cheek, forgive, let go of the hate I held.
But I cannot say that, because I am not a liar.
What's odd is that I'm only a few months away from being able to use it again, but that brings up the new question. Should I? Should I take a moral stand and not go on, voicing my belief that what they did was wrong though abstaining my use of their site? Or should I go on? And if I do, what do I do? My goal was to help the teens on that site, and now they're gone.
I think I'm just rambling now because I'm still sad about it. It was the site I considered home for years, in some of the darkest times of my life, but on the other side of the coin the owner of the site, and many of the members who were for the decision, hurt me badly; hurt MANY people badly.
I want to say I'm ready to forgive them, to do the things I learn about at church. Turn the other cheek, forgive, let go of the hate I held.
But I cannot say that, because I am not a liar.
A while ago I did give you a login, if you were interested to see what was going on or anything like that.
I would say don't bother going back. Its sad that many people like you who were valued contributors will probably be lost forever from that place, but there really is no point anymore. But at the end of the day its your choice. Just see how you feel about it when it comes to that time. (Just so you know all your past posts have been removed now, they were still there until about a month or 2 ago)
Also, as for the 18+ bit that everyone hates Moo about, All I'm going to say is I found out some more info on that, and its not all what it seems. The option of letting people say goodbye wasn't really an available one at the time of the ban back in November.
I never used it. Don't want to see of what it's become.
Great to know that all my hard work was for null. That is just a kick while I'm down. Thank you for telling me.
I knew there wasn't a way to say goodbye, but that doesn't excuse him for not giving any sort of compassion to those who lost their line of support. The only remnant of compassion anyone banned can find is a little note at the top, all in red, explaining how they'd been banned, and at the end of the little not it says that their not alone and they will be welcomed back. I was the one who suggested he put it up.
I find it really spiteful that they deleted our posts, I mean, come on! What was the point of that? Was there actually a good reason for it or did Moo just want to wipe all traces of us being there. A lot of us (like you and I) did put a lot of effort into the community. Still, I guess that getting rid of us also killed our work there.
Did you get an eMail like that?
Skar - Thats what I just said. I found out more info recently (sadly I can't share the truth, but what he did had good reasoning). It really wasn't possible to let people say goodbye and exchange E-Mail addresses and stuff. If that happened on Moo's site he would have landed himself in deep shit. The reason he did it the way he did was to avoid the chance of people getting that final connection on there.