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"Dear ____" Open Letters to our Abusers
12 years ago
Mikey here! (
) I had a wonderful idea that might help some of you in this group; My therapist taught it to me and its helped more than I thought it would. Basically, you write a letter or note to someone who has hurt you or wronged you. Its perfectly fine for you to write one to yourself as well, if you feel the need! There will be a short list of rules below, to help protect users and avoid flaming.
Let me explain this a bit further for those of you interested~ Post a comment below and start it with "Dear abuser/self/ect" And fallow it out like you are writing a letter to the person you are directing it at.
Here is my example :
"Dear Abuser,
I hate what you did to me - how you treated me for years. You made me feel like crap, and I let you because you promised you'd be better in the future. I know now that you lied. You used me. That was your plan the entire time, wasn't it? You knew I was young - that I trusted you. I wish I would've seen it back then. But Im ok now. Im stronger now, too. Ill never let you do that to me again. Do you hear me? NEVER.
I hate you with a burning passion,
Signed- Mikey"
Now for some rules (im sorry, but I have to </3)
1. Be polite to everyone posting. This is a place to let our past wounds begin to heal
2. Don't comment on anyone else's post unless they specifically say that it is ok. Then, only comment with support; no negativity, please! This also means don't send someone notes or shouts about their posts here!
3. Try not to curse too much when typing. We understand that you may be upset from the pain, but some people may be offended by too much bad language
4. Never ever post real names or usernames! That would be considered flaming or trolling and we will hide your post
5. Rules may be added/deleted as time goes on to make sure everyone is content and happy
PS. you may post as many time as you need to <3
) I had a wonderful idea that might help some of you in this group; My therapist taught it to me and its helped more than I thought it would. Basically, you write a letter or note to someone who has hurt you or wronged you. Its perfectly fine for you to write one to yourself as well, if you feel the need! There will be a short list of rules below, to help protect users and avoid flaming.Let me explain this a bit further for those of you interested~ Post a comment below and start it with "Dear abuser/self/ect" And fallow it out like you are writing a letter to the person you are directing it at.
Here is my example :
"Dear Abuser,
I hate what you did to me - how you treated me for years. You made me feel like crap, and I let you because you promised you'd be better in the future. I know now that you lied. You used me. That was your plan the entire time, wasn't it? You knew I was young - that I trusted you. I wish I would've seen it back then. But Im ok now. Im stronger now, too. Ill never let you do that to me again. Do you hear me? NEVER.
I hate you with a burning passion,
Signed- Mikey"
Now for some rules (im sorry, but I have to </3)
1. Be polite to everyone posting. This is a place to let our past wounds begin to heal
2. Don't comment on anyone else's post unless they specifically say that it is ok. Then, only comment with support; no negativity, please! This also means don't send someone notes or shouts about their posts here!
3. Try not to curse too much when typing. We understand that you may be upset from the pain, but some people may be offended by too much bad language
4. Never ever post real names or usernames! That would be considered flaming or trolling and we will hide your post
5. Rules may be added/deleted as time goes on to make sure everyone is content and happy
PS. you may post as many time as you need to <3
I bet you didn't know that years later I would be suffering because of you. All of the out-casting you put me through heighten my fear of failing and lowered my self esteem. I know I ultimately need to get over it by myself, and its my fault for drowning myself in your words, but you definitely didn't help.
The words you would throw at me every day hurt. Youd all run from me when I sat on the swings. I just wanted to swing and feel the breeze. When I couldn't read because of my dyslexia, and you all laughed and called me stupid. Did you know id go home and cry? Did you know id rip the skin off of my hands? It was the only way I could calm down. I didn't even know what self harm was yet - I was 6 years old when your bullying started. You kept to it till I moved years later.
Well, did you know my IQ is higher than any of you thought back then? Did you know I scored a college junior level in math when I was only a sophomore in high school? I bet you didn't know that. That I'm smarter than you all thought. One day, ill become something. I hope you remember what you did to me when I'm living out my dreams.
With love,
-Mikey
I went through a lot of bullying and I learned something that I can see you are starting to learn... Bullies bully because they hate themselves. Seriously, can you think of any logical reason a happy person would try to bring someone else down? Have you ever wanted to make others suffer after a really great day? No. Nobody does. Happy people want to spread their happiness, so what kind of person do you think wants to spread misery?
I was 12 you POS, I was a CHILD and you had no right. Not with me and not with anyone else you may have hurt since me. Children deserve to be children, they deserve the chance to not think/worry about adult problems. They have the right to develop at their own pace. No one has the right to take that from anyone. You didn't have the right to take that from me. I know the things that have happened to you since you were in my life. I want to be able to say I pity you, I want to be able to say that no one should be made a victim, but I choke on the words and start laughing. You took a huge part of me and ripped it to shreds and I'm still putting it back together. I still don't remember, my brain still has a wall up to protect me from you 20 years after the fact. I hope you remember all of what happened to you. I hope you never forget it. What happened to you, what you did to me, I wouldn't wish it upon anyone, but I didn't wish it, so I guess it's ok. I never wished it, not on this earth at least. I used to daydream of heaven and hell and how you would suffer, but I guess I was good enough and earned a BIG favor from karma (not that you didn't equally earn what she gave you) and I got to know that you knew my suffering, that you had to belittle yourself and degrade yourself for a rent free roof over your head. I know you had to and maybe that is my gift.
Fuck off and burn in hell
Sincerely,
Megan
Stop lying to me and please put me out of my misery. You don't love me. You never truly did, did you? You felt bad for me, was that it? All these years feel like broken promises and lies. Some of them were. Im still waiting for that flower you promised to buy/pick for me 3 years ago. I feel so alone. Even with my friends helping me through my pain, I feel alone. I hope you mean it when you say you love me. When you say you want to be with me. But you arnt showing it. Not even a little. I cant help that I have to keep undergoing surgeries and doctors visits. I cant help it when I end up in the ER. Im sorry its stressful for you. But think about how I feel. Just once, can you put me first? Can you suck it up and help me? Can you please just be there when I need you? My friends who live states away are more help than you. You don't even act like you care. Do you care? I don't like having to beg for your attention. Im alone. Im scared. Im broken.
Sincerely yours,
Mr. Perfect