Hey this is Noble,

Pretty much the same thing as your example message. And add the fact that my boyfriend gets onto me when i say that i feel like a girl sometimes.
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Hey Noble,
I personally know how this feels and am going through something similar but to help I do need to know a few things, does he ignore you for games all the time, not voice with you or have any sexual interest? What does he say when about you feeling like you are a girl? Is he mostly silent around you?

Usually hes on the computer 24/7 when i am there at his apartment playing games or talking to his firends on teamspeak or skype...when.o bring this up to him he tells me that if i went in there and sat on his bed or asked him to get off he would....but he dosent....hes not really silent cause he loves to speak his mind. But when i do im just told to shut up and be silent. The last time i ever told him i feel like a girl or called myself female he went on a rant telling me that theres no way in hell and that id never be a girl even if i tried

After reading all that and going through something similar I guess you have to first weigh up the pros and cons. More than likely there are going to be more bad things that are happening. You have to ask yourself if you are really happy? Why do you stay, what is the real reason do you still feel much love for this person after they put you through all of this? Would you normally let yourself be treated this way? I think you need to come to the realisation that you deserve to be treated well, to have someone that makes time with you, shows that they love you for who you are and what you want to be. I and anyone else can easily bash what he is doing but you probably hear that from all your friends, I believe there is only two ways out of this.

You need to give him an ultimatum say that he needs to listen to you, list all the things he is doing and just ask him to look at it from a different stand point. IF he would stay with someone that was doing all this? Basically things need to change they can't keep being like this.

Or cut your losses now, do you still love him? does your heart ache at the thought of leaving him or is it more the fact you are now used to this treatment and are just going through the motions? If it no longer hurts and you can see life without him I strongly suggest leaving.

And sexual intrest wise...hed rather be on skype with his yiffing rp people who propbably dont give two ***** about him

there really isn't any way I can post my problems without going into RL info beyond a generic "fml" posting...

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You are fine going into RL issues I just don't want you to post addresses so that you don't get stalked or anything. So feel free to use first names and stuff

stalkers don;t bother me. I have a disgruntled former marine brother, and I'm an over the road truck driver.
we're both heavily armed :3

besides, if the stalker is cute I'd invite them along for a couple weeks... seriously, it's been over 9 years since the last time I had a date, and 15 years since my divorce. I'm one of the nicest, sweetest, more loving people I know and I can't even get a dam DATE >.<

Well if being stalked isn't a bother to you feel free to talk about your issues you wanted to say in the first place. I'll listen.

Well heck yes cute stalkers are always welcome unless they are bat shit crazy! Well from what you said I'm surprised about the not having a date thing. Are you mostly on the computer when you are not truck driving? Do you have much of a social life? Because unfortunately being social is the key to finding romance/dating.

I work 70 hours a week every week. I get 2 days off every other weekend, and while I've lived in Wisconsin for over 8 years now... I hardly know anyone because after being over the road for 8,000 miles the LAST thing I wanna do is have to drive ANYWHERE.

I've wasted 15 years trying to do the internet dating thing, and the internet find friends thing. I think the operative term in WASTED.

I had problems with my mate, when she found out I had a particular interest in wearing certain clothing, she thought I was gender and sexually confused. Her friends thought the same thing which is basically being ignorant on their part. And I feel she is becoming distant from me because of it. Is there anything I can say to her?

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Hey Dono,
Just because someone likes a certain style of clothing does not mean it is to do with your gender nor your sexual orientation. It is a pretty tough situation due to most girls being more attracted to guys that are how we say less feminine then them (Not all girls think like that) She may be thinking you are wanting to be a girl and that you also might not like girls any-more or that you are changing abruptly in front of her that she maybe worried about you and her. I would suggest you talk to her tell her why you like those sort of clothes be honest with her and reassure her it changes nothing between you two, that you love her still and very much attracted to her that it doesn't change who you are that you are the same person and it doesn't change your gender or orientation. Hopefully this works but do not smother or change what you like or who you are for anyone. Hope this helps!

Thank you for the advice sweetums, I never saw it that way^^

Not a problem, sometimes you need someone that isn't one sided and attached to the situation, let me know how it goes!

I agree and once again, thank you for the advice sweetums^^

Kind of um.. odd question I guess? I'm 18, starting college in the fall, and living at home with my parents (college is close so I wont be moving out). For a long time now I've always wants to shave my legs because they're very hairy and I don't find it very attractive, at least from a femboy standpoint. People who I spend enough time with notice how hairy they are. The reason I haven't shaved them yet is because I'm really worried about I guess like what the standard is for guys and their legs. My parents don't know that I'm gay and I'm pretty sure my mother is homophobic, but besides my parents I also don't know how my friends or people at school would react to me shaving my legs without a reason like being on swim team (I don't swim). Would shaving them start posing unwanted questions towards me or start thinking of me differently or would there be no difference at all? Is it even worth the risk do you think? .w.
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Hi Foxy,
In the situation you are in with not being out about your sexuality and with how you want to be this is a tricky situation, the fact people pay attention to your legs due to them being hairier than normal if you shave your legs it will attract attention and people often react jokingly making fun off an others would start to question things.

You care what people think, what they say and due to you not ready to be out I would suggest it wouldn't be worth the risk. You need to know who you are, not care about what people's opinions are and are ready to face consequences to do this in good faith you will face questions, insults maybe but you may be surprised some guys don't care and will still accept you.

IF you really want to go through with this experiment places no one will see such as the thigh, inner thigh try little places and see how it makes you feel this will help you decide if its worth the risk.There are excuses you can make such as its too hot in the summer and shaving it lets the air get to you and you are less likely to have rashes. Or you can have and start wearing cargo pants to the ankles, cargo pants are very light and airy so you won't get hot and they conceal most of the leg. I hope this helps!

Yeah, I was thinking the same about this, I think I just needed a second opinion. For now though I think I'll just shave where people don't see, at least until the day I move out on my own or with others where I can shape who I am better. Thank you very much though, I appreciate this c:

Hello Jaegar,
First of all do not feel embarrassed you have done nothing wrong but try to be there for a close friend as much as you can and you should not feel like an idiot at all it is really unfair of this so called "friend" to put you into this situation in the first place. I'm sure he is a nice person but this behaviour is inexcusable don't worry too much about hurting him, he's already doing this to you and stressing you out. He knows what he is doing, he is doing this on purpose and he obviously does not respect you and can't be just a friend.

You should tell your boyfriend, I know its embarrassing and hard to say but you should never hide things, this person could be vindictive and try to accuse you off things to them. Let them know what's going on that you tried to turn them down.

I personally think it is best to drop him, it doesn't seem like he is going to change if this is a constant occurrence even after you telling him no. But if you want to give him one more chance you need to sit him down (make sure he knows you are serious) once again and say that he needs to back off and respect your boundaries, you are currently with someone and that is not likely to change but even if it were being so pushy would make you less likely to want to be with them. He is a friend and if he can't stop making you uncomfortable and putting you on the spot that he doesn't deserve to be your friend.

Hope this helps you out!

How did it go dear? Did they make themselves worthy of the last chance?

Dear Femboi,

I have recently became a femboy and I wanted to be a part of this group, but to do that, I have to post the icon. I'm not asking how to be a part without posting the icon, because rules are rules and I wish to respect the rules. But here's what I'm concerned about. My older brother lives with me and my mother, but no one knows about me becoming a femboy but my friends online. What I'm scared for is my brother finding out about it since he has FA as well and watches me on FA, and I fear he might tell my mother, and things will go downhill from there. I'm 18 years old, btw, but what I want to ask is should I just post the icon or wait for a while?

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Dear luci~<3

ive recently become a femboy, and alot of problems have arraised from it. alot of my family has pushed me away, and a lot of my friends treat me differently, ive done stupid things because of it. and honestly...i just need someone to talk to, not a counselor or a super cheery person that say everythings all right when its not. if that wouldnt be to much to ask for.

Hey Soliace,
I am so sorry that it has taken me ages to get to this as I have been busy in real life. I am by all means not a counsellor and although I'm a derpy random person I am not super cheery nor will I tell you everything is going to be okay, There isn't much you can do about your family other then just do what you do, let them have time to let it all sink in. If being a Femboy is important to you, part of yourself don't ever sacrifice it for anyone. For your friends I would advise talking to them, telling them you know they are treating you different, say how you feel about it and you just want to be treated the same, that it doesn't change your personality. You are still you. If they are friends worth having they would accept you and be good friends.

So I have always had a thing for girls clothing. I dont dress up because of parents but i am curious about how to start buying clothing. I am still a bit shy about it. I wear my sisters old buckle down purse almost everyday and my parents hate it. But i want to start buying slim shirts and other clothing but i am still to shy to go out and buy for myself and don't know where to buy online.

Ahh the thing we all go through, the trouble of finding where to get feminine clothes, I only know a few sites myself but I would suggest starting small, see if you like the things you buy, get things you love the look of, what clothes would make you happy to be in. I also believe doing it online will be your first bet for the first time! What I may do is do a journal in a little bit talking about female clothing for guys and seeing if we all can pool our knowledge into the comments and come up with lots of links. That way you can look through it and find stuff to suit you. How does that sound?

Hey, I'm rather new to the furry community/fandom and in it have found myself enjoying many things I'm not particularly into in real life with fembois being one of them and I have even been designing a femboy OC for roleplays and maybe even art. The primary reason I'm making this comment is because I was wondering if you think a lot of people may dislike/hate me or be offended by this despite it not being my intent I merely enjoy it and wish to make new friends within the community as most of my current ones don't really know about any of this. I don't hate any groups or anyone based off of sexuality or lifestyles but I have a mild fear many people may see it that way, and I was wondering if my fear is mostly misplaced or if most people may react that way and that I should get rid of said in progress OC. Thank you for taking the time to read this and I'm sorry for if any of this was at all offensive or anything along those lines to you or anyone else who may see this comment, feel free to hide it as the page owner if this is at all the case.

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Hey sorry if this is annoying with using a reply for this I'm not sure how or even if I can edit a comment but I just realized I may have made it seem like I was implying people to be easily offended once again may be over reacting but I feel I should clarify myself better with things. I just have a really bad record of people misunderstanding my intention for things namely people thinking I'm hitting on them when I'm not, thinking I'm insulting them when I say I don't like more than as just a friend. I've also had people pretend to like me in the past and I just want to avoid accidentally hurting anyone with any of this as I've been kind of screwed over with my own poor wording and general luck of things in the past and the reason I said "most people" is because it's obvious that at least some people may feel the way I'm worried about but you really can't do anything without the Internet's endless supply of keyboard warriors going off. Once again terribly sorry for if any of this came out wrong and for anything that may have been annoying or offensive in the original comment.

I will write a reply soon I have been in hospital with bad hands and need to heal up a bit but don't want you to feel ignored :3

I was wondering how I could indulge my feminine side without really showing it, my surroundings don't really agree with my preferred lifestyle but I'd still like to express it for myself in some way.

I will write a reply soon I have been in hospital with bad hands and need to heal up a bit but don't want you to feel ignored :3

that's okay, I wish you good health and a speedy recovery ^^

Looking for a femboy mate
I live in Massachusetts, open to ldr
Bisexual and 24 years old
Hobbies:Paintball, bowling, mini golf, video games, hiking and camping

Dear Femboi,

Do you have any general advice for someone who is just into this like myself? Ways to safely exlpore different aspects of it without putting oneself in danger? And any way to be an attractive femboy to females?

I've hid it for quite some time and I would like to explore my feelings without getting myself into a dangerous situation.

Thank you!
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Dear Femboi,
I really like femboys and i wish i could be one, though i don't especially think i have the physique... i am on the taller side of the height spectrum. also, although i am quite effeminate, i don't really have any femboy-ish clothes (though i would like some). I have some anxiety so i'm slightly scarred of what my parrents might think if they knew, so i'd rather keep it on the more discreet side at the moment. how (if possible) could i be a bit more femboy-ish, but still keep it more discreet ?
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Heya, I'm Stormcloud!

I was wondering if Trans Fembois were valid as well? I just wanted to know if I could call myself a TRUE femboi after a Transgender transition (ftm)?

Almost the same as your example (again XP), but I'm in a long distance relationship currently, and often, my bf seems to ignore me on purpose, but is actively chatting with friends, who even told me he doesn't do this regularly. He often has bad mood and also playing lots of video games, but it just feels like ghosting. I seriously question my own behavior, whether or not I might be too jealous, paranoid or pushy. Also, the previous long distance relationship failed and my ex acted similar over time, slowly becoming more distanced and detached, but never admitted to me he broke up until he talked to a friend about what an awful person I am. Sorry for the long story, also English is not my first language.

Dear Femboi, I am quite confused and insecure about telling people that I'm a femboy and it's honestly a problem that I don't have anyone to turn to that can help. Is there anything I can do?x

Um hi I've did some soul searching and I found out that I wanted to be a femboy since age 16 or 18 but I didn't realize it till this month on the 7th, and I'm actually scared that my family would make fun of me and reject me any ideas?

And I have four supporters that want me to be a femboy since I told them there my best friends