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Worst day of my life, Dad on deathbed due to fatal stroke :(
10 years ago
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[EDIT] Dad's condition is worsening and multiple organ systems are failing, so we decided as a family to withdraw life support on Saturday afternoon after my mother arrives, she is flying in from China to see Dad one last time before he passes. It's fitting that on July 4, my dad will claim his independence from the physical world and enter the spiritual as his suffering will end.
Just received the worst possible news today, that my father suffered what looks to be a fatal stroke a day after his surgery. The stroke was around the brain stem, which is the most severe stroke possible as he has completely lost all motor function. His heart and organ systems are starting to weaken and at best he only has a few days more to live. They could keep him going longer in hospice care, but I don't believe my dad would want to suffer anymore.
I just went into see him, his eyes are able to open now and he stares into your eyes, but when you speak to him, he can hear but he cannot respond due to his brain damage. To see him in this state, I don't think I've ever cried so hard in my life. My dad means absolutely everything to me and this is the worst day of my life. He is the most kind, generous, loving, supportive man I have ever known and deserved to live longer than 74 years.
My family and I are in shock right now as just recently as 8 days ago my dad was happy, healthy and sharing dinner with us. And just like that, he's on his deathbed.
He is a deeply religious man and I know the Lord is awaiting his arrival. He has helped so many people in his life and saved many people from drug and/or alcohol addiction and just been a second dad so many other people, not just me. He really taught me how to give back in life, which is why I'm so active in the fandom, organizing events, trying to inspire people through videos, and doing work like starting a nonprofit organization.
I want to take the time to thank everyone for all the well-wishes, prayers, support and messages people have sent me over the past week. It means so much to me and my family, and we'll need continued strength to continue on with life as he passes and deal with the aftermath.
Just received the worst possible news today, that my father suffered what looks to be a fatal stroke a day after his surgery. The stroke was around the brain stem, which is the most severe stroke possible as he has completely lost all motor function. His heart and organ systems are starting to weaken and at best he only has a few days more to live. They could keep him going longer in hospice care, but I don't believe my dad would want to suffer anymore.
I just went into see him, his eyes are able to open now and he stares into your eyes, but when you speak to him, he can hear but he cannot respond due to his brain damage. To see him in this state, I don't think I've ever cried so hard in my life. My dad means absolutely everything to me and this is the worst day of my life. He is the most kind, generous, loving, supportive man I have ever known and deserved to live longer than 74 years.
My family and I are in shock right now as just recently as 8 days ago my dad was happy, healthy and sharing dinner with us. And just like that, he's on his deathbed.
He is a deeply religious man and I know the Lord is awaiting his arrival. He has helped so many people in his life and saved many people from drug and/or alcohol addiction and just been a second dad so many other people, not just me. He really taught me how to give back in life, which is why I'm so active in the fandom, organizing events, trying to inspire people through videos, and doing work like starting a nonprofit organization.
I want to take the time to thank everyone for all the well-wishes, prayers, support and messages people have sent me over the past week. It means so much to me and my family, and we'll need continued strength to continue on with life as he passes and deal with the aftermath.
My thoughts are with your family and you.
I once wondered why the good die before it seems they should.. and well.. when picking flowers, you pick the most beautiful ones.
You've grown to be a wonderful person and I'm positive he couldn't have asked for a better son.
I wish you all my best~
Thank you
Stay strong but when you need the support you can turn to us
May the God and Goddess hold him lovingly in their embrace.
Blessings to you and your family Kijani.
HUGGGGGZ Kristine
Thank you *hugs*
At a time like this you and your family will find strength in coming together, and in the recollection of the good times had with your father. May you all find solace in one another as you part with your beloved father and family member.
Stay strong, my friend, and I wish you and your family all the strength, condolences, and love a person and friend can offer.
I can't wait to see you in a few days, my friend *hugs*
This is absolutely heartbreaking.....
I'm very sorry and my condolences to you with your family.... *Hugs*
I'm will try my best to be there for you.
*hugs and pets the lion gently*
Prayers and thoughts with you and your family.
For what a stranger's sympathy is worth, you have my most sincere condolences.
Here's wishing you nothing but the best.
You remain in my heart and in my prayers, and I wish the best for you on your path to once again meet your dad. The Lord will surely bless someone as giving as yourself, and I'm sure your father will smile down on your for all the great strides you make.
With love,
Fenris *big Panther hugs*
Bless Your Family and Bless You Big Guy
Will see you soon.......... HUGS
My thoughts are with you and your family.
*offers hugs*
If you don't mind me asking (and you really don't have to answer if it's too distressing), but do you know what his last words were, before he lost his ability to respond?
Either way, I send my condolences and best wishes to you and your family. And, hearing how spiritual your father is, whilst I don't know what happens when we die, I truly hope that there is somewhere wonderful where your father will be.
Take care!
Thanks for your condolences and my father will be going somewhere wonderful indeed *hugs*
I'm not sure of your religious preference, so I hope I don't offend when I extend my support to you.
I don't know what's happening in the moment, of course, you have my prayers.
You are very loved by your family, your friends, and the people here, including those you have yet to meet, like myself.
Whatever happens, please know that there are many people are thinking of you and yours.
Please stay strong.
I wish I could do or say something more helpful and supportive. Kijani, I am so so sorry.. I'm so sorry that all this has happened and that you have to go through all of this.
If there is anything we can do for you, please let us know.
Thank you for your condolences and support, it means a lot. I really hope I get to meet you at a con someday. *hugs*
I just saw this journal, and I am very sorry to hear this. I've been busily in my own little world for the past several weeks, mostly offline, just happened to get on here for a quick check and then saw this. I was just thinking about you a couple of days ago.
Sounds like your dad was a super guy. I am glad to hear he gave you such good influence. The world needs more people like this. Thank you for sharing this news with us in this difficult time for you and your family. Please keep us posted. May God grant his peace to you all! *hugs*
Thank so much for this wonderful message and your kind words, it means so much right now *hugs tight*