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[Question] Do you Roleplay?
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I'm seeking some advice here.
Roleplay has been something I've done and been interested in since I was a kid. Even back before I had access to computers, I'd come up with characters for my toys and stuffed animals, give them backstories and personalities, etc. So it was just natural for me once I started using the computer and going on websites (Neopets, GaiaOnline, IM clients) to take those characters and write stories with others involving their characters as well.
Now that I'm older, some of those roleplays have on occasion taken on a sexual connotation, sometimes leading to downright explicit content, though that was not the original intention of starting the scenario. I'm asexual so I take very little pleasure in the situations when they happen, but they can be quite a powerful catalyst for drawing ideas/illustrations.
My question to you is: Do you roleplay? Do you roleplay in a NSFW setting? When you do, is it a thing you reserve specifically for your significant other, or is it something you do with others casually as well? Does someone you are dating have a right to be jealous about text roleplay of the NSFW variety? Do you have an SO and specific arrangements with them about how you roleplay?
I've personally roleplayed with a variety of people and characters, but usually the characters are not ones I use to represent myself (i.e. Ink). They're generally a character I separate from myself, and just want to learn more about their personality, how they act, etc. through putting them together with another person's characters. I can learn a lot about how I want to build a character based on the things that are done and said by another character, and having to respond to them. I also don't see any harm in NSFW content with any person, though I reserve roleplay in general for those I know somewhat well and am comfortable conversing with. AS the characters I use are not *me* I see no harm in letting the content get a little racy, because we can both walk away from it and point fingers at the characters and go, 'they're cute together, this is a good thing' without being like 'we're cute together, this is a good thing'.
edit; let me also clarify when I say roleplay I mean writing long paragraphs between myself and at least one other participant to create a scenario where multiple characters interact. I'm not talking yiffy RP or RP JUST for the sake of the NSFW content. I roleplay for very different reasons than that.
What do you think?
Roleplay has been something I've done and been interested in since I was a kid. Even back before I had access to computers, I'd come up with characters for my toys and stuffed animals, give them backstories and personalities, etc. So it was just natural for me once I started using the computer and going on websites (Neopets, GaiaOnline, IM clients) to take those characters and write stories with others involving their characters as well.
Now that I'm older, some of those roleplays have on occasion taken on a sexual connotation, sometimes leading to downright explicit content, though that was not the original intention of starting the scenario. I'm asexual so I take very little pleasure in the situations when they happen, but they can be quite a powerful catalyst for drawing ideas/illustrations.
My question to you is: Do you roleplay? Do you roleplay in a NSFW setting? When you do, is it a thing you reserve specifically for your significant other, or is it something you do with others casually as well? Does someone you are dating have a right to be jealous about text roleplay of the NSFW variety? Do you have an SO and specific arrangements with them about how you roleplay?
I've personally roleplayed with a variety of people and characters, but usually the characters are not ones I use to represent myself (i.e. Ink). They're generally a character I separate from myself, and just want to learn more about their personality, how they act, etc. through putting them together with another person's characters. I can learn a lot about how I want to build a character based on the things that are done and said by another character, and having to respond to them. I also don't see any harm in NSFW content with any person, though I reserve roleplay in general for those I know somewhat well and am comfortable conversing with. AS the characters I use are not *me* I see no harm in letting the content get a little racy, because we can both walk away from it and point fingers at the characters and go, 'they're cute together, this is a good thing' without being like 'we're cute together, this is a good thing'.
edit; let me also clarify when I say roleplay I mean writing long paragraphs between myself and at least one other participant to create a scenario where multiple characters interact. I'm not talking yiffy RP or RP JUST for the sake of the NSFW content. I roleplay for very different reasons than that.
What do you think?
I am asexual as well, and I generally don't allow NSFW content with the characters who represent me, as it makes me uncomfortable.
I will go more in depth later, but I've gotta clock in at work soon XD
I'm not sure I'd ever be comfortable roleplaying Ink like, at all even. My other characters though I don't attach myself to or I don't personify myself as, so I'm a-k with that if it happens, I'm just generally not the one to drive the story toward that type of content.
Have a good time at work :3
Do you roleplay?
Yeah! I roleplay on a lot of hubs! Mostly MMOs like FFXIV and WoW, but I did do forum stuff for the LONGEST time too! I love it and seeing characters interact and develop. It's a good time!
Do you roleplay in a NSFW setting?
Only with my SO!
When you do, is it a thing you reserve specifically for your significant other, or is it something you do with others casually as well?
We made an agreement to keep it between us because we feel more comfortable that way and people have had a habit of getting out of hand OOCly and blendy. If there's implied NSFW interactions it fades to black!
Does someone you are dating have a right to be jealous about text roleplay of the NSFW variety if it's done with characters that are not considered your 'personas' and therefore do not represent you?
I think at that point it's kind of a breach of trust for us, because neither of us really want that. If we're being honest I'd feel not only a little bit jealous, but sad and upset if that ever did happen to occur. I don't see it ever happening though! So I'd totally get it if my SO did feel jealous or anything else about me doing it with someone else!
And, Id be lying if I said I didn't enjoy it, but Im very burnt out on it, and now especially, its all about the super kinky rapy, BDSM master/slave/pet play with Cubs/Underaged characters, and fucking silly unrealistic Breast, ball and dick sizes. That's not what Im looking for, even in a smutt RP, but even CLEAn Rp, I just don't have the patience, mindset or hardly even time for it anymore.
I miss having good RPers to play with.
NSFW rp is very casual to me, no more personal than reading it in a book. My SO and I view it the same way and there for have no restrictions or qualms about it together or with others.
As for NSFW stuff, I never avoided it, but I certainly didn't go into roleplays with that in mind. I never liked rushing your character into a romantic relationship with someone too fast. It was usually the long term goal, but not just 'omg hi i love you so much'. And since I've been in a relationship I haven't roleplayed, so I can't comment on that, but my SO if fully comfortable with me getting NSFW art involving others of my sona, so I can assume that sexual roleplay would be fine too. He knows that even though my character is me to a point I myself don't have those relationships or thoughts with people so he doesn't mind.
I think where it's something generally started when you're young people grow out of their original styles/sites, or the sites change in all manner of ways that can make roleplay difficult/not an option, and it's just hard to find a new one maybe?
There is a bit of a phenomenon of people having used to roleplay but dropping it as they get older.
As for the questions regarding relationships and rping: I think it's something to discuss with your partners about what they're comfortable with you doing, but you have every right to express that it's something you enjoy and feel there's no harm in it, especially if it's something that can help you develop as a person, whether it's inspiration for art or polishing story ideas or just General life things, getting you to think outside of your comfort zones, etc etc. Everyone's different, so communication is key when it comes to that
I have yet to have a person say they're actively roleplaying, myself included, which I find interesting!
As for NSFW content and relationships. To me it is honestly no different than any other form of play. i have similar enjoyment with a good bondage setup for a partner as I do a good world. What I enjoy is the creativity and not so much the RP to masturbate or something. So, really its just another form of fun to me.
Not sure if I missed anything, and I was very late since work.
Whenever I roleplay, I usually keep it borderline NSFW as I tend to lose interest in sex driven roleplays... that and when my partner doesn't spell out a proper paragraph.
Do you roleplay?
Yes, quite a bit nowadays.
Do you roleplay in a NSFW setting?
Many are definitely not safe for work by design, but I have also played in settings that relied on the players to make that conscious decision for themselves and others need not do it.
When you do, is it a thing you reserve specifically for your significant other, or is it something you do with others casually as well?
It might be if I had one. It would be something we would discuss. Right now, it's very casual for me.
Does someone you are dating have a right to be jealous about text roleplay of the NSFW variety?
Potentially. Again it would be up to myself and the other person. I see it as fiction and a good writing exercise that might even let me come up with ideas to surprise a partner.
Do you have an SO and specific arrangements with them about how you roleplay?
I sort of did with my ex. She was a bit hypocritical about it. Truth and trust are the cornerstones for any relationship. NSFW RP and a relationship can work as long as the player and their SO are honest and willing to work out what they feel with the other.
I started roleplaying online shortly after I started writing. Naturally I was shit at it, but I stuck with it along with a small group of friends and it's become one of my favorite activities. I didn't do anything NSFW for years (as it should be considering I started at 14) but I eventually got into that as well. I've never viewed erotic roleplay (ERP) as being a personal thing between partners, though I have done so with all of my partners in varying capacities. Most of the time those I ERP with are simply good friends of mine, same as with any RP. I've never had any of my partners take issue with me ERPing with other people, and if any did then I don't think things would work out between us. It gives me kind of a creepy feeling, like the people on Second Life who take virtual marriage and sex way too seriously.
At its core, though, all RP, erotic or not, is still writing. For me, the point of it is to explore the nuances and emotions of the characters involved. If you know your RP partner well, and you're both on the same page in regards to what you want, you'll almost definitely have a blast. That's been my experience.
Not to whore myself out, but I can and have RPed for pay as well. I would like to see more SFW RPs, but that sort of thing just isn't in demand. Except in this comments section, I suppose.
This is exactly what my roleplaying experience developed like and exactly how I'm feeling about the situation. But I think part of the problem is he didn't even know I was a roleplayer (through text anyway) until this issue came up. Though it shouldn't be surprising, I moved from text/online RP to tabletop roleplay gaming, I'm an avid costumer, character and world builder, and I love to write when the mood strikes me (though I in no way profess that I'm the greatest at it).
Thanks for sharing with me, even if it was late! I still appreciate it c:
I actually share in that I started online RP and then got into tabletop RP. Sadly I've fallen out of the latter since moving away from my main RP group but it's still lots of fun when I get the chance. As for your situation in particular, given your calm and rational approach I don't see any issues between you and any SO as long as they're the same way. It's one of those things that's only a big issue if the other party makes it so.
Thanks for the response! I admire your work and thought-provoking journals like this. ^^