My mom has had multiple miscarriages, which is why she never had any other kids. So my advice to you is to be like incredibly careful. ^^; Any time someone really wants a baby and they get pregnant...i'm always worried. I am always constantly wishing you two all the best in the world. Honestly, i've told everyone I know, hoping to spread you good fuzzy will.

thanks hon ^_^ My mom had miscarrages too. I had one a while back too... but like... I was worried as well... but hearing that heartbeat... for the first time... god I cried... I was so happy. If you make it into the second trimester with no problem, your chance to carry full term goes up 90%

Huh. Well, I know that there were a couple where we heard the heartbeat and had ultrasounds. Two. And she lost those. But she also has some hormone issues and things that make it difficult....so....I'm sure you'll do much better. ^___^ Tis the season to have babies! It seems like everyone around me is starting a family, just as I was beginning to get some maternal feelings myself. *laughs* <3

Oh man when I lived in PA, two of my friends were three weeks apart from each other... and I was the only female of that age not preggers. We saw each other every day and I was like... but now... its my turn.

And with Patricks Family... Brandi Prime had her baby, then Brandi 2, Franny will be having hers in August, and now me! All thats left is Candi, the newest wife. But we'll wait till Franny has hers and I"m bigger, cause thats how it goes LOL. Papa Kelley started yellin at me and Tim today (the youngest brother, the newest married) about how we can't do this! We have no more room on the mantle for pictures! Stoppit!

*laughs* Aww, thats so cute. You have such a big and loving family! You're so fortunate! The baby will have lots and lots of love around him/her. It is rare that I actually get to be seriously happy about someone being pregnant since the last two pregnancies with friends of mine were unwanted, sooOOOoo... >>;;

>< I'm just so like OIERJOWIERJ Yay for you. *laughs*

I didn't have morning sickness, not all people do.
I had a pretty easy pregnancy(aside from the quitting drugs and being homeless stuff) most of it was spent finding more 7-11 hot dogs with mayo. I adored them.

Uhm... I never got pregnancy clothes, you never wear them again unless you have more kids. I wore sweatpants and such then used them for pajamas or cold days to wear under jeans after I had Angel.
Keep up to date with your doctor to make sure all goes well.
Don't buy clothing for a certain gender because 99% chance you'll have the other.
Don't over-do it, rest if you need it and try to avoid high stress situations.

All those lotions on your stomach to avoid stretch marks I don't believe but it's not like it will take much effort if you wanna try it.
Get sleep in now because when the baby comes sleep will be a thing of the past.


If you have any questions don't hesitate to ask, I'll answer what I can.

this is great, thank you... I like all these tips. I think I'll just buy more clothes with draw string and elastic... but I did find some gorgeous green pregger pants that I want. They're pants/capris if you roll em up to the button spot... and like... even NOW I find them comfy...

Do you have a suggestion on lotions? And I'm glad i dont smoke or drink or have to stop any bad habits. The caffeen cut was the hardest but since dark sodas don't taste right anymore... it made it a little easier...

I heard cocoa butter works great for stretch marks but then again... I dunno.
It works awesome on my feet though and I walk around barefoot(damn hippie) a lot so I'd assume it would help.

They have lots of different types actually meant for stretch marks but again, never tried em.
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Yea, draw string clothing=awesome I wish some of my clothes had them now with the weight loss and such. Nothing fits me anymore. I've seen some pregnancy clothes that I'd so wear even if not pregnant to hell if you like em enough to wear them go for it. I've been below the poverty line for so long that eve now that my rent is free and I don't have to work while I'm in school I still can't buy anything without weighing what useful things I can get for that money. Usually the other things win and I lose out on more clothes for myself. :/
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Indeed on the bad habit stuff. People tend to think getting pregnant will make them stop their habits but even if you're pregnant if you don't actively work at it you won't stop anything.

NO DARK SODA! Caramel color is bad! Lol.

Oh, and no Sunkist either, bastards put more caffeine in there then should be lawfully right for an orange soda.

I can only do sprite, gingerale, fresca, and like... the occasional dr pepper sometimes.

Hmmm... That probably shouldn't be too bad. Though whenever i would drink the soda with aspertaine in it during pregnancy, I'd feel sortof off kilter.

Diabetic...

Oh, I know. You've told me *hugs* The splenda ones didn't make me feel as bad as the aspertaine.

Man, you can't even do the whole juice thing. I guess you're stuck with milk and water.

I'd recommend staying the hell out of the Dr. Pepper. It's got more caffeine than Coke and Pepsi, but not quite the level of Mt Dew.
Plus I'm wary of it, I became violently allergic to Dr. Pepper and 7-Up when the company switched to using corn syrup instead of sugar all those years ago. Anaphylactic seizures fucking suck. Since you say you're diabetic too, that means no Dublin Dr. Pepper either.

well when I mention soda I am mentioning the diet versions. I do not drink regular sodas.

EAT PLENTY OF Vitamin B! You better see your doctor about it.



PS.I hate children.

I have a really good pre natal I'm on thats got lots of Vitamin B 1- infinity it seems, as well as iron and other good stuff...

p.s. shit you don't tell new mothers. Just not nice.

I'm not nice >:O

Coconut butter or Bio oil is fantastic for stretch marks.

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Mum's various tales of her pregnancys to 'prepare me' [rolls eyes, "kinda need a guy first, Mum"] warn that more than likely you will get horrendously consipated. This can lead to haemorroids. Not good. Good way to treat it is to cut up little pieces of raw potato and... well.... 'put them up there'. Its the starch in the potato which makes things a little... 'easier'. It'll come out with 'everything else' when it does its job.

oh uh... wow...

Also... yeah I know about the constipation thing... I eat a lot of fresh fruit and if I get "stuck" lots of fresh pineapple for me works.

one thing I have seen time a time again is how quickly kids learn, even as a babies. like if you like to let your baby sleep in your bed with you, do it very sparingly, if you don't they will do it for a long time. It is like the old saying, "give them an inch, they will take a mile"

oh, baby only sleeps with me if I pass out and need a nap. Night time sleeping and their naps are in their crib/bed. I know about that whole "Oh I want to keep an eye on him" but with the way I ... uh... if something touches me wrong I strike out... and night terrors... I know better. Also prevents me rolling over onto said baby.

while the baby is small (which doesn't last nearly long enough) use a bassinet or something like that and keep it next to your bed, that way you can "Keep an eye on him" but not give the habit of sleeping in bed with you

I don't know anything about the pregnancy, but I HAVE lived with my sister when both her kids were little. As soon as they can walk well...NEVER take your eyes off of them, and NEVER let go of them in the store. Toddlers are VERY fast for their ages, and some apprently think it is funny to drive you insane by running around the store while you chase them. @.@

carts with saftey belts... for the win. Also, not afraid of the "If you don't stop, we'll leave" and then LEAVING even if I don't get what I need to show them I'm serious

YAY! We need more moms like you.

Do not see Orphan. That is all I can tell you.

but... scary movie... do want!

Okay, then it will be simple for you.

I can tell you this, if I were a woman, I would immediately get a sex change after watching this to be sure of not having the possibility of becoming pregnant. Ever.

D: Now I REALLY wanna see it! Goddommot!

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Ugh....>.<

I never thought pregnancy was to be bad.....nvr expected all the nausia.....

When i get through eating, I have to lay down so i can digest properly and not get sick....

This is my very first. And Im about 3 to 3 1/2 months i believe. Havent been to the doctor yet......

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We're about the same place. You need to see a doctor hon, even if you go to a planned parenthood. I was not sick that much so far... and its my very first too... would you like to be my pregger buddy? I can try and help you out with information and tips I get...

Sure ^^ That would be great.

Well, one of the things thats preventing me from going to the doc is that i have no insurance, in the process in getting some that has a policy for Pregnancy Care and Baby Care till the baby is 24 months old.

Raven and I have already picked a girl name, Christina Lyn. The first name is his late grandmothers and the Middle name is an adaptation of his late aunts name Lynda.

Beautiful name. Make sure to pick a boys too.
We picked Danielle Karen ( Danielle being his favorite girl name, Karen being my best friend since I was 2 and the Irish in the name) and Ardon Joseph (Ardon meaning High Asperations and the Irish in the name, and Joseph as the boys name he wanted for the middle)

we cant come up with a boys name....Raven reeeeaaaallllyyy wants a girl (hard to believe when most men want boys).

Im prolly gonna have to look in name books or research old family names that would be decent for our time (like im gonna name my son Icabod or some weirdness like that)

Patrick wants a girl too, I dont find it that crazy

well...i dont find it too crazy....i kinda expected it since most of his family is girls...

Never had kids here, but I has advice: Get in the water.

I used to teach preg water aerobics, along with baby swim classes (and swim classes for older kids/adults, and pretty much anything else relating to pools).

I had so many ladies in my class say that *this* pregnancy was so much easier than their previous ones, and they chalked it up to taking water aerobics. Its good gentle exercise, it keeps you moving so you feel happier, and it lets you relax and hang out with other happy preggers like yourself.

And when the nublet is born, take baby swim classes. Its great bonding time, and will pave the way for confidence and safety in the water later in his/her life.

that... is awesome advice... I just have to find a pool around here. Swimming in Lake Altoona this weekend... >_> wasn't a bright idea...

Ummm... rub cocoa butter on your belly to reduce stretch marks XD That's about all I know... oh, and epideral is a good word to know XD

oh gods I feels to excited right now. I love you so much. I can't wait to get home to you and our on the way little one.

Welp, one good bit of advice is to watch your diet. Don't let "eating for two" become an excuse for binging out. Apart from that, your body will do a pretty good job of telling you what it needs.

I get the impression you're gonna make a pretty good mommy.

I never had morning sickness either, but from what I've seen from women who did, you are not missing anything. You've got a good head on your shoulders and have gotten some good advice from others so far. I can say lotion will help though not completely prevent stretch marks. Coco butter or Udder cream is good to use.

You will get weird food cravings, but as long as you don't get Pica (wanting to eat non-foods like dirt, soap, grass, etc) you should be fine. Oh, and once the baby gets here, don't listen to any doctor who say "You can't feed them ANY solid food until they're X months old." (I think my pediatrician said like 9 months old) The baby will know when he//she is ready for solids and so will you.

I slept, a lot. I would go to bed at 8pm and get up at 10 most of the time. There's really nothing to combat the fatigue. You can't really have caffeine, and too much sugar is a no no.

Lotion never helped me, I still got stretchmarks. But, if you want to try, don't just focus on your belly area- your back, butt and upper thighs need the treatment too. The skin has to come from somewhere.

Moodswings are normal. Raging to hug me to everything in between.

Watch out for UTIs both times I got bad ones around the 25week mark and had to go in, get treated for the infection and then get treated again for premature labor.

The nausea (it felt like a constant pressure in the back of my head, down my throat) went away for me sometime into the second trimester, or it just alleviated enough for me not to notice (i would still barf on short notice like if someone said Peanut Butter.).

Mostly you'll just get bigger and bigger and once the baby starts taking up too much room, you'll want it out... though you'll probably have 7 more weeks of kicks and hiccups and it rolling around. Lol.

haha well luckilly I dont have the nausea...

and my butt.. she is expanding

I currently am being treated for a UTI and i'm trying to manage my sugars so I dont make a big huge baby... you know... but yeah.


Thanks for all the advice!

*hugs* I'm glad it finally happened! You've been trying for quite some time.
You're gonna be a wonderful mommy.

Oh, and don't microwave on plastic plates, if you eat the food it makes baby boy's junk tiny.

WOOTS! Congrats!

I, uh, don't remember much. it's been 10 years since there were babies involved in my life, and I was NOT the one doing all the hard work

matter of fact, I was only there for the fun part, and the support role

You are going to be great. =^^=

I only had what could be considered morning sickness when I was either already feeling bad (a headache usually) or if I ate too much :p I wore stretchy pants from about 6 weeks on...i just felt weird with anything on my tummy (I guess it was mama protection kicking in early). At first I was good with the lotion...but towards the end I got lazy about it >_< I got a few little stretch marks, but nothing terrible. Also, I'd recommend eating a little probiotic yogurt each day. As gross as it sounds, the hormone surges can make your digestive tract stop dead i its tracks-and it only gets worse as there is something actualy there squishing your insides LOL. The worst part (and it wasn't really bad per-say) was being super duper tired...I slept SO much...didn't get anything done...but hey, you're making a person! That's hard work and you deserve a nap whenever you want! Like everyone else has said, you can ask me anything anytime!

oh man sleepy mc sleepyson I has been! The constapation has been on and off but I'm working with fresh fruit and all to help keep things moving. I can't stand yogurt >_<

fresh fruit works just as well i think :3 I'm so excited for you X3

Just please be careful Tangy. I'm sure you've been told this but cocoa butter is really good on stretchmarks...the morning sickness may or may not go away after your 2nd trimester...it really depends on the person. I was sick the entire time I was pregnant. I do very much hope the best for you hon. Keep us updated about the pregnancy and know we all love you.

I've not had morning sickness LOL Everyone seems to miss this!

lol mostly for me it was nausea...but like I said it depends on the person...sorry I didn't read all the comments before I said something...btw congrats sweetheart.

also tums are awesome....in your second trimester be ready for heartburn...if you don't have it alerady. Tums are the best for it b/c they have calcium in them...just make sure you take care of yourself dear.

as far as the pain goes when you sleep. never take asprin or anything that has asprin in it. it's best you rest on your right side...it takes the stress off of your heart and if your back is hurting try putting a pillow under your belly when you lay on your side and put one around your back as well..body pillows are awesome

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for your uti...even though you were treated...I want to suggest something b/c I know it helped me...try peach white cranberry juice...even though it will make you go to the bathroom a lot it will help keep you from getting another uti

Im typin this think you unblocked me, but there someone that we both know who has alot to tell us. I'm not above asking him.

I am going to as soon as I see him on. I'm trying to get as much advice here as I can so I can help other new mothers as well...

So far everythings been good for me... which makes me happy after years of people telling me that me having a baby could be very complicated and dangerous.

I hope you've been well

Hadn't talked to chris in forever but im sure u could get touch with him somhow
:mazz: and :selucia: both have babies and they could better tell you what its like to carry a baby though.

hehe mazz and I have been talking... as well as some of my other friends on here that have babies. Between this and Facebook... I got lots of buddies giving me advice. Two of my sister in laws just had babies ( thanksgiving and christmas) and the other is due this month ^_^ My mom gave birth to six kids, and my mother in law gave birth to five. I have lots of differeing sources to get info from.

P.S. if you're interested in new beginnings, I added you on my AIM