So for a very long time, I've only told a few select people that I am extremely close with about the goings on and how unhappy I've been in my relationship. Which hurts more because I have two kids with the person that has done the abuse.

Now...it has not been physical abuse, not by far. But what he has done is Mental and Emotional abuse. And That has been going on for a VERY long time, it started after our first child then just got steadily worse after the second. He refuses to let me get a job, that's right folks. HE will NOT let me get a JOB and KEEP IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! when I went out applying to places after my second child was born. BEHIND his back because I KNEW he'd BITCH if he knew I was putting applications ANYPLACE. He did find out, because Yeah I got hired at Mcdonalds that lasted a whole 3 months before I quit because I was so TIRED of hearing HIM every single time I'd get home

He'd bitch about my job being shitty, my job not paying enough to even START covering a fraction of the bills, it didn't pay enough this way, that way, He wanted me to have some 15-20 dollar job that a person with a college degree/working on a degree would have!

Okay then whenever I try to work on anything art related, he has to peek over my shoulder, look at what im doing, and make biting remarks about my drawing, or the things I am drawing. When I was pregnant with my second child, I was friends with a guy in London, he had a girlfriend. I would talk to him on skype, via cam and mic. My partner accused ME OF cybersexing this GUY WHILE I WAS 8 1/2 months pregnant. Well I ended up cutting off ties with my friend in london, because of my partner being such an asshole.

Whenever I have a LITTLE bit of MONEY he wants ME to spend it on everything, Milk, syrup etc etc. THEN when I ask for money, HE'll whip around and start going 'what do you need it for' 'why do you need it' 'How much do you need'

The shit he's done it just keeps piling up, and then yesterday after I had gotten home from doing stuff with my mother and grandmother. Today, I call him out on everything, unload with both barrels. Bringing up the whole it's a burden for him to be home with the kids by himself, what does he say? YES it is a BURDEN to HOME with them by himself.

He called me a bitch today, walked out. Came back later and DEMANDED that I APOLOGIZE FOR calling him abusive! or it was the end of the relationship. Well instead of apologizing for telling him the truth. I started reading off signs of an abusive person/relationship. HE just got madder, and madder and madder telling me to STOP it. So he stomps off again saying 'you better call a lawyer.'

So yes...I did it, I finally fucking did it. I got sick of the shit to the point I stepped up and TOLD him about it, I know my life is going to be pretty chaotic moving forward from this point but, I don't think I care..I just am going to be happy to be OUT of a shitty relationship/abusive relationship, and taking my kids away from it too.

So yeah that's my life right now, and I know other people have dealt with abuse, or are dealing with it currently. It's hard to escape it, it's hard to feel you are brave enough to take the steps TO get away, but trust me..you can do it, research, have a good support circle, and have a plan of action/escape.

-Spark