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4 years ago
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So. Kay so Alruic and I have been engaged since 2018, we wanted a wedding but with Al's brother passing in 2019 then Covid we havent had a chance to and funds are tight.
We decided we just are going to call ourselves married cause we can't afford a massive reception but we will get rings and stuff and that's totally fine. I'm happy with what we have without it being "legal".
One of Al's sisters, has been in a relationship with a dude since 2018 she moved in with him so fast and the three of us lived together previously so she cut her lease with us to move in with her boyfriend.
They moved really fucking fast and of course the family was ecstatic to have him in the family and I've been jealous because I've never gotten that treatment.
It came to light because when Alruic's brother passed away, because the boyfriend of his sister got his guitars and they barely knew each other even though I've been in the family for wayyyy longer. (I'm sour at the principle of the situation, Idc about material objects )
Hes gotten way more privileges then me in this family and we found out they (sister and bf) got engaged and the family made it into a huge deal, everyone posting congrats and reposting their pics and stuff and it's just... we feel horrible, I don't even want to go to the wedding.
I should be happy for them but I wish we would have gotten the same privileges. I just want to be loved and accepted here.
I havent even wished her a congrats because of how she treated me when I talked to get about proposing to Al and that she barely even reacted to when we actually got engaged. (I'm petty I know but I'm just tired.)
I'm sick of everyone thinking of us only when they need something. At least that's what it feels like. Alryic and I deserve better then that.
This may not make sense as much cause I'm a little under the influence but I hope it makes enough to understand.
We decided we just are going to call ourselves married cause we can't afford a massive reception but we will get rings and stuff and that's totally fine. I'm happy with what we have without it being "legal".
One of Al's sisters, has been in a relationship with a dude since 2018 she moved in with him so fast and the three of us lived together previously so she cut her lease with us to move in with her boyfriend.
They moved really fucking fast and of course the family was ecstatic to have him in the family and I've been jealous because I've never gotten that treatment.
It came to light because when Alruic's brother passed away, because the boyfriend of his sister got his guitars and they barely knew each other even though I've been in the family for wayyyy longer. (I'm sour at the principle of the situation, Idc about material objects )
Hes gotten way more privileges then me in this family and we found out they (sister and bf) got engaged and the family made it into a huge deal, everyone posting congrats and reposting their pics and stuff and it's just... we feel horrible, I don't even want to go to the wedding.
I should be happy for them but I wish we would have gotten the same privileges. I just want to be loved and accepted here.
I havent even wished her a congrats because of how she treated me when I talked to get about proposing to Al and that she barely even reacted to when we actually got engaged. (I'm petty I know but I'm just tired.)
I'm sick of everyone thinking of us only when they need something. At least that's what it feels like. Alryic and I deserve better then that.
This may not make sense as much cause I'm a little under the influence but I hope it makes enough to understand.
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In other news CONGRATS on your marriage who cares of its not legal! Marriage is marriage and as long as you two are happy together the rest of the world be damned!
If they didn't bother to give a shit about y'all when you were engaged then honestly fuck em, be petty af in return. They're not entitled to your well wishes yunno?
and ye! what sly said, congrats on you guys' marriage! <3 I know having things legal and official is probably super validating but the biggest and most important aspect is you and al sharing each other's lives together and being happy! The other stuff can wiat!
But I say congrats! If your legally or not, if you both are happy then nothing else really matters! ^.^
that sentence describes my entire life, every single second of the last 47 years.
*hugs*
While it's not the best advice, and can tend to backfire under certain circumstances, simply ignore them. If they invite you to functions or events, just don't go. Don't accept. Only communicate with them on the strictest and most mundane of topics, and don't give them any more than they deserve. If they ask how you two are doing? Fine. They don't need a 30 minute story of how your last 2 days have gone. Deny them every opportunity to be involved in your lives.
It's clear that they do not, and will not consider your feelings as individuals in a relationship. In a way, this is giving them a taste of their own medicine. But like I said, it's a 'tread carefully' situation, especially if they're currently helping you two in any capacity with living arrangements.
You and Alruic need to be happy for yourselves. I know it's not fair, and you feel down because of the family cold-shouldering you both, but at the same time, if they're not going to be happy for you, you two need to be happy for yourselves. You got a small group of friends who are always around to support you and do what they can to help and lift you guys back up. It's okay to lean on you friends from time to time. Let them be your second (or third) family. You know?
I'm proud of you for pushing yourself to get your work done and to move towards getting your balance back. Don't let this hit you too hard. You two are a married couple now. You gotta both roll with the punches a bit but everything will be fine :)
Chin up, both of ya. And congrats again~!
Also 🎉CONGRATS🎉🥳 My cousin gotten married all they had was a small chapel wedding. The main part is that you both love each other and is there for each other 😊.