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My grandma passed away
4 years ago
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a couple of days ago.
To be honest, it was expected, but this is no less sad, of course. She was 85 years old, had dementia, as a result - she was acting strange sometimes, didn't want to talk to me on the phone or was hiding when I visited. But in her normal state she was a nice person, and I loved her. It is good that she didn't suffer and passed away calmly.
I don't like to share too many details of my personal life on the Internet, sometimes my artwork speaks for me anyway. But I want to clarify a couple of things this time. Since 2017, every year or two, I have to bury someone. Another grandmother of mine (but the relationship with her wasn't good, and her death was accompanied by a wild family drama with blackmailing and other "cool things"), my beloved cat Myava, right before covid - my dad, and now it is my grandma from my mother's side. Grandfathers passed away many years ago. I don’t know what to say here, except that it's hard every time. In different ways, but it is hard. Although time heals, it's true. And a lot of good, really important events also happened during this period.
Grief is a delicate thing. Everyone goes through it in their own way, but the essence is always the same - you have to get through it if it happens. You cannot try to deny it, as if nothing had happened, put pressure on yourself and pretend that everything is fine when it is not; and also you shouldn't fall into the endless despondency, lie on the couch for years while going crazy. It's not good for you.
So I'll get through it and everything will be fine. I just need some time to recover.
To be honest, it was expected, but this is no less sad, of course. She was 85 years old, had dementia, as a result - she was acting strange sometimes, didn't want to talk to me on the phone or was hiding when I visited. But in her normal state she was a nice person, and I loved her. It is good that she didn't suffer and passed away calmly.
I don't like to share too many details of my personal life on the Internet, sometimes my artwork speaks for me anyway. But I want to clarify a couple of things this time. Since 2017, every year or two, I have to bury someone. Another grandmother of mine (but the relationship with her wasn't good, and her death was accompanied by a wild family drama with blackmailing and other "cool things"), my beloved cat Myava, right before covid - my dad, and now it is my grandma from my mother's side. Grandfathers passed away many years ago. I don’t know what to say here, except that it's hard every time. In different ways, but it is hard. Although time heals, it's true. And a lot of good, really important events also happened during this period.
Grief is a delicate thing. Everyone goes through it in their own way, but the essence is always the same - you have to get through it if it happens. You cannot try to deny it, as if nothing had happened, put pressure on yourself and pretend that everything is fine when it is not; and also you shouldn't fall into the endless despondency, lie on the couch for years while going crazy. It's not good for you.
So I'll get through it and everything will be fine. I just need some time to recover.
If you feel the urge to cry, do NOT fight it. Mourning is natural. It's not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of a bond.
When ever their memory brings sad tears shed them. As time progresses, the tears will lessen, and soon their memory won't being sadness
At least not that level. There will be regret of loss but, there is also relief.
If you're one to believe in the afterlife. Then it's all the more reason you must mourn. As no loved family/friend, would want their memory
to cause you pain. So shed, those heavy tears. Let each one that drop take a small bit of pain and sadness with them. Till it doesn't hurt as much
Time will take it's toll on how many tears you must shed. It's up to you, to decide how long/much you'll need to.
So take as much as you need. We your watchers/fans will be here when you get back
Yes... take all the time you need. Celebrate their life, and memory. it's the best thing to do.
you have a beautiful mind, and they all helped make you what you are.
What's important is she was surrounded by loved ones, and that she's gone to a better place
Take as much time as you need
I hope you and your family recovers from this. It's never easy to lose someone in the family, whether they are distant or close. Take your time. Be strong for her, Natalie.
My mom had dementia and while it was a mild form, it caused her to do some very odd things, which made me angry with her, because she seemed so reasonable otherwise...and now that she's gone, I feel guilty about the way I behaved toward her. But I know she's in a better place now, no longer suffering from confusion and the loneliness that comes with old age. I don't know what your beliefs are about an afterworld, but your grandma is at peace now. And you can love her just like you did when she was in the next room.
I am sorry you and your family have been going through so much hardship.
Take all the time you need.
I want you to know that I lost my mother a year ago and I offer my condolences.
and please take all the time to you need dear
You said it right already, mourn and take your time, it's a healthy thing. Be patient and honest with your feelings. I wish you can be with your loved ones, and that you can support each other. You'll be in my thoughts.
*sending a hug*
Be well.
Dementia is hard. Very sorry.