i think you need to have a little talk with him.. that is just sad he spends your money that you saved.

I know exactly how you feel. Been there done that

What ended up happening in your situation?

I kicked him out. I don’t appreciate being taken advantage of, being lied to, and worst of all having my personal things stolen.

you need to report him to the police and have him arrested and charged with thieft.

did you get my christmas card i sent you?

hugs tightly you know were always here for you

*growls* Kick him out!

Awwww... Holly! Just before the Holidays too. That hurts. Yes. Alcoholism IS an addiction, and it can be cured, but rarely overcome. I don't know how I got through the years of dealing with my Dad's alcoholism, but just like his Smoking, he never gave it up, even to his ding day.

My, oh my...

ita more the just drinking.. now its stealing on top of lying.

Uh huh. I understand. Is there a group like Al-Anon or some other support group you can talk to?

I need to get some sort of help. He has insurance. He went to rehab. He is on Anti depressants and Anti Anxiety medication. Obviously hes not taking the Naltrexone which is anti drinking med. He says hes not drinking but you can smell the alcohol.

I am angry all the time cause it really started to get bad after my Mom died.

Anything I or anyone could do to help you sweetheart??

*hugs... AA works Holly...

V.

he went to rehab in Jan .. going to AA .. still drinking...I didnt think he would steal from me to get the boose

having lived with addicts in our family ever since I got married (not us) I know that anything is possible. We still hide the valuables when certain people come to visit. For the addict, it is a personal struggle - that's what AA is all about. The others going there understand.

There is always hope.

V.

Not being able to trust is the worst. I should be able to trust my stuff and now... I dont. I dont know know what he is going to do next to get his fix.

He starts this half projects all over the place. I am done being quiet about it. I am not perfect, and I just cant handle everything.

I asked him just to end the relationship and choose the boose. It will be far more peaceful for him. He will get the fix he wants and be away from the negativity. He keeps saying he wants things to work.. very stubbern but why? What's the game?

You gotta get a better hiding place for your cash.

no kidding

Ask Santa for a hollowed out book.

well that sucks
I admit I drink but not to excess noooo
I love mine & life in general

Be very careful foxy, if you confront him about it, I'd figure a way to record it somehow incase something happens and he hurts you. If you can afford to I'd also say you need to find another place to move too. I'd help you if i was still out there but I'm in TN so hard to really help. But do be careful, I know how drunks can get so gotta time your talk just right.

I had a dad who was that and gambled..

I'm so sorry dear.

Hugs

Bunners

that is bad

*hugs* I'm sorry Holly, I'll be praying for you

Sorry to hear that sis. :>(

The problem when dealing with someone who will go so far as to steal and lie to get there fix is they will take it to the next level.
Be very careful how you deal with this situation.
Take care of yourself first. All others second.
My recommendation is to separate if you can. If not be looking for an out ( IE family/Friends or other resources )

That's terrible news. That really undermines the trust you have in someone living with you.

Ideally, he should be getting therapy or be thrown out, but if you're just gonna cope... might I suggest opening an old-fashioned savings account at a local bank/CU (one different than your checking). Without a debit or check card that could be "borrowed", it would be exceedingly difficult for your cash to be accessed without your permission. (Note: Savings accounts typically have a limit of ~6 withdrawals per cycle, so this isn't for your everyday spending money.)

very good idea..

Unfortunately I have to cope. The house is big and there are multiple rooms. If I leave I give up the house. I just have to stay until the end because that's what you do when you have assets.

Being a drunk is one thing. It’s a sickness. But stealing and lying indicates that he doesn’t want to rehabilitate, or he is a weak individual.

i wouldnt put up with him tbh he stole from u

Damn, that is the worst.