Damn, I'm sorry to hear that! :(

In my decades of being on this earth, I learned not to put too much trust into like... 99% of people you meet. Either they will turn on you and treat you like shit, or never had good intentions from the beginning and just want to use you for something.

how tf do they even end up conclunding that this is right and that its right to not even give reasons?

I dunno. I thought things were okay.
At no point was there hostility or even awkwardness. I assumed things were fine and bam, ignoring me and unfollowing me and its like....
the fuck did I do? It's like the 9th time this has happened and 3 of them has been on this website.

at least tell people why i would say. its pretty much just good manners to do so.

That's what pisses me off so much. At least tell me what happened. But no, they just...fuck off. Like holy shit.

idiots..

This. Very much this.

I'm just not a big talker. :x

I feel like it's always when people claim they want to be friends rather than just casually let it happen is how most people get ghosted. Or maybe they're just socially inept. Sorry you have to go through this, though.

I know the feeling... I had the WORST time at internet dating. Despite all the b*tches who were convinced their sh*t didnt stink and they were miles out of my league i eventually found my soul mate and we've been happily married for almost 10 years. 💖

The internet gives wonderful opportunities for meeting people, but it also has a wide range of ways for them to be hurtful. If they're acting like this online, they aren't people who you would like to be around in real life. Stick with it, be yourself, and people that appreciate you for you will stick around.

That's deeply depressing to hear. In your situation, I'd probably make the same decision. And the painful thing is, I go out of my way to be the kind of person that I hope people will be to me. I'm always checking in on friends and artists, and yes, sometimes I'll check in just for the art, but if the artist is having a bad time, I don't have to fake my concern or sympathy. I really do care. I wish more people did the same.

Needless to say, you don't have to count people as friends so readily. I feel like a lot of them just want you for your art, and people around here don't really know boundaries. I've been the target of that kind of manipulation myself, being treated as a piece of meat and dropped when I don't want to provide. It really sucks.

If you need to build the wall higher and only interact with people on a business level, then that's what you should do. But I'm sure you'll meet an actual friend or two eventually. Just give it time and be wary until you know for yourself that someone's worth you opening that window of trust again.

Jesus Christ, I'm sorry to hear that.. Usually my efforts to chat and talk to artists get ghosted lol. But, I hope you don't fully give up on making friends online. Definitely suggest to ease up on things, try to get a feel of the person before you give them the benefit of your care. Take your time with it.. Sadly there's far too many people out there who just want to friend an artist to get free lewds.

I've made friends with.. Four artists, give or take. Constant contact with at least three of them, too. It's not easy to find those genuine people out there, and I'm very sorry it's been so difficult for you. No one deserves that kind of unwarranted treatment.

It is hard, building long internet mutualships turning into friendships is hard. Especially if you never met IRL, because there is never be a "ancient tribal trust" between you and your mutual - so it happens easier that contacts dry out and turn to dust, often influenced by IRL events you don't know or changing interest. In our life we meet many mutuals, or on-off relations to certain people. True friends are rare, and almost impossible to keep, if you don't meet them IRL from time to time, since through a monitor, you are equal to the TV news host for their inner mind.

In terms of ghosting, some people are honestly not big talkers, especially with newer friends. But yea, it gets really annoying, especially if it's obvious they are avoiding you. But hey, don't let some bad apples spoil the pie.

It's fine when its newer people or you hardly know each other. Its another when they tell you that you can always talk to them and that how important you are to them and then out of nowhere they throw you to the side with not even an explanation.

Ye, those kind piss me off. Double if you got a comm from them and they ghost you after.

Well see, that is a different thing. Getting a comm from an artist doesn't automatically equal friendships. I am not talking about something like comms. I am talking about actually being friends and being close and it just abruptly ends for no reason.

No I mean getting a comm from a friend XD

By my honor code, I will NEVER ghost you. ^^

On the matter of unfollowing/blocking out of the blue: It's happened to me, and I've done it to others. I can't speak for anyone else, but my reasoning for the few times I've done such a drastic silent thing has been growing apart.
Contact becomes less regular over time, my personality and interests change as I learn more about myself, their personality and interests change likewise.
The longer such distance continues, there's less reason to get back in contact, since we're not really the same people anymore, at least in the topics and opinions that mattered for that to happen in the first place.
Sometimes the pain of addressing such changes is what causes it, or the thought of having a final conversation, or even just logging in after a long time to see the person you thought you knew championing something awful IRL.
I've never enjoyed doing it, I still regret such acts. Over time, I just try to be nice, make some boundaries known, and to give people a chance or two, but to not trust anyone too much or too quickly, and always keep a block list at hand where possible; Basically never trust anyone, on the upside it makes rare nice moments rather special.

These are just my experiences though, as I said, I can't speak for anyone else on their reasoning. Sorry to hear you're on the recieving end of such a thing.

I'm sorry to hear that :(

It's been the polar opposite for me in many occasion. I try pretty damn hard to befriend some artists I respect and admire, and almost every single time, they have absolutely 0 interest in being friends. It's why I gave up on it. It's not worth my time and energy into trying to build a friendship with someone who just doesn't want to open up.

However, if I know you are, well WERE, open to the idea of making friends, I would at least try to make something of a friendship with us. If you are interested, of course...

well i am to a shamed i did not get a chance to talk to you much even when i went out of my way to be friend you on discord , and even then i did not talk with you much as i wanted since you are a cool guy to talk with , i take all blame since i dont socialize to much even when talking on discord , but i still enjoy your work and still enjoy the drawings you make so ill never unsub or unfollow you , do your best Sui and sorry i didnt do my best to talk with you more .

Yeah, ghosting people imo is a no no. Poor social edict tbh.

That's rough buddy

I am sorry to hear that. There just so many people that take advantage of online social settings to be jerks.

I was like this. When I was 14. If this behavior is going on if you're in your 20's, that isn't ghosting, that's just an asshole and isn't worth anyones time. I do understand your position but, if I may offer some advice from experience, keep the friends you have already close and only make an acquaintance when you're sure the person isn't a drip.

Damn that sucks. Sorry that people are like that.
But just know that I think you are pretty great

Sorry suir
I've been in this boat before and your right. It's no fun. Especially when you actually want that connection

All too familiar to me sadly.

I'm sorry this has happened to you, it's happened to me too. ):

JFC I hate people that do that, honestly

Aw man, if we were chatting, I'd never ghost you, which is what I never do with people even if they question my opinion on politics or my religion. I'd make sure that we'd stay friends no matter how hard things get!

Though that isn't to say I don't understand what you're going through, because I do! In fact, each time I ask out a girl, once I get home they don't say a word to me even through text. One time I almost had a girlfriend, but then about a week later she stopped talking to me. I just want a single relationship to work out, even a friendship.

Make a Discord or something

Welcome to the club.
I had some REALLY close friends that out of nowhere just... vanished.
No closure. No explanation.

I'm lucky I have like... 2 that've stuck along the years, but most just left with no warning, and it sucks.

I'm in the same boat...

I'm very sorry to hear that Suirano, That really suck. They could at least tell that person why they stop talking to them.

It's fine. Just validates I can't trust a damn thing anybody says.

I feel this resentment. Sorry you have had to deal with it too.

well hgey man i love to hang out with you or play some games with you??? if your free??

I can't speak from experience but it sucks losing a random connection with someone. I've had isntances where I had to block people for being annoying but I try to save blocks as last resort options to end a toxic relationship or to prevent toxic people from entering my life. You are very obviously neither and it sucks you're on the end of that even though you've done absolutely nothing wrong and I wish there was something I could do to help.

what about the people you're chill with that you don't exactly make time to talk to as well? surely they're not being screwy with you? hopefully none of them have have ghosted/blocked you either

Its fine when people are busy. I don't mind that. What bothers me is when you unfollow/block me out of nowhere, clearly open my DMs but ignore them, but talk to others and act like everything is fine disregarding me for months then years. It happens so much for no reason.

Everything seemed fine, there were no issues. They always said how they'll be there for you and how important you are to them and then do this. You never learn what caused it. So many people do this to me and to this day I still have no idea what I did if anything

And by no means am I saying I am perfect. I am not. I have communication issues. But I don't just abruptly end everything out of nowhere without a warning.

I know the feeling, man.

The biggest rule is to not trust anyone, you never know who can turn on you in a dime.

Also, I honestly want to make new friends with some artists, but I'm just scared that if I say the wrong thing I might piss them off. So, honestly, I'd love to talk to you!

Geez, that's rough :/

I have a few "chat once in a while" acquaintances, not quite friends, so not hearing from people for a long time is normal enough - I'm a bit of an introvert, so that's okay with me, but I understand it would be nice to have regular chats with friends. (Finding decent friends can be tricky) I hope you're doing okay.

I feel ya on that, fam
I'm also personally tired of all the shit too
I hate that I tend to want to have long lasting friendships when it's never mutual. I'm sick of this online shit where we get dumped out like trash whenever things go slightly bad. Uuhg

First time eh?

I've already had maybe 8 - 9 years of it at this point.

Not first time, more like 10th. I have dealt with this a lot and its the reason I am incredibly distrusting of people online. But people always come up and say things that makes you think that maybe they are actually good hearted only to backstab you years later like the stupid fool you are.

Hey I don't blame ya, sfm community pretty rough too. There were some pony sfm peeps I even once looked up to, and they all just eventually start crap with me for one reason or another. It just happens unfortunately :/ I've learned to not give it too much thought, keep doing what I enjoy doing.

tbh just text chatting online doesnt make you friends, its better to try to start up a thing where you voice call with a group each day or a few times a week, play games together or watch videos, or just be in the call together without needing to interact the whole time, at that point you will be in the presence of other people rather than feeling like you are only half interacting with them, if you get on woth them well youve made friends.

people drifting away is not unusual irl either it just happens, people sometimes just put focus on other aspects of thier lives and dont have the time to interact with you anymore, i never feel that this is anything to be upset about however since you also go through life eventually you might catch up with them and reminisce. but existence is fluid.

as for the blocking and such, theres no real way to know what the cause was but again text chat only goes so far they might be going through a rough patch irl or anything really.

voice calls, video calls, gaming together watching stuff together and irl meetups are where you will form strong lasting bonds. text chatting allows people to heavily sanitise what they say and act how they wish to be perceived as, instead of being perceived how they actually are. and you need to know someone as they truly are if you intend to trust them without getting burned with the realisation they arent what they claimed.

we all feel like this online at times like we are alone surrounded by other people who are alone, but yeah try asking people if they wanna call or play a game. i speak from experience that the fastest way to make someone feel alienated is to berate them for not talking enough especially if you have not been sending them messages yourself regularly
ive tried asking people if they are okay since they have been quiet lately and suddenly you find they open up and share what has been going on.

psa im awful at all this social stuff anyway so take it with a grain of salt.

I stopped being social because the same reasons. Tried to talk to ppl but have problems engaging. How do you make a conversation with someone these days? It’s truly challenging.
And about eh ghosting thing, you probably have heard this a lot but those ppl just aren’t worth it. It hurts every time and I understand, and sometimes it’s good to just have a break about socializing. It can be so exhausting.

I would love to know you or more ppl, but experiences in the past (like the one you posted about) prevent it.

Sometimes is better just to contemplate the fandom or ppl like cinematographic reel in front of you.

I know how you feel

I'm sorry this happened

I often don’t know what to say, so I say nothing. As for blocking for no discernible reason, I have been on the receiving end of that too.