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Had to cut ties with another so called friend
3 years ago
Hello my floofs
First the drama from last year and now this. Unfortunately, I had to cut ties with another so called friend who I've known since my brony days. I won't mention his name just to avoid witch hunting. Anyways, this happened about a month ago. He was a huge Sailor Moon fan, he has recommended it to me, I watched it, it was good. I invited him into my discord server just to bring my friends together and help my group grow. For a while he seemed happy being there. He was always a sad sac, constantly depressed, I tried helping him feel better by introducing him to my other friends in the server. Things were pretty good. Until one day he just randomly left, and I was left there wondering what I did wrong.
I privately DMed him asking him if I did something in the server that upset him. Then I saw his tagline saying he was tired of seeing furry art. That really upset me. I can understand a lot of people don't like furries, but that shouldn't be a reason to leave. He was into Sonic the Hedgehog, so I assumed he was already into that cause Sonic characters are furries. He told me he was feeling left out and wanted to talk about Sailor Moon. If I'd known he was feeling left out, I would've slowed down on posting so much furry art. I didn't know it, because he didn't tell me.
I thought about cutting ties with him from there, because I didn't wanna hurt him anymore then I already have. But he kept begging me to stay so I gave him another chance. Unfortunately, he kept getting all depressed and whining about how someone is "bashing" him for liking SM. It was getting to the point where it was becoming very repetitive. I had enough, so I had to be honest with him that I was getting tired of hearing about this so called "bashing" him over SM. The anime itself is not the problem, it's him constantly whining about his issues was the problem. I tried to sound as calm as possible, I guess he saw it as a personal attack, so he removed me without a single word, I didn't find out until a few days later.
That really made me angry. Instead of communicating with me like an adult, he ran away like a coward. Removing someone just because they're annoyed with your repetitiveness is just very childish. I said my final words to him in a DA note. I told him I was done with his shit, he had an opportunity to make new friends and threw it away. I will admit I did F bomb him and called him a cunt, only because he handled it in a very childish way. I'm usually not that harsh, but his attitude left me no choice. After I sent that final note, I blocked him and this time, we're never being friends again. I gave him one too many chances and now it's too late.
About a day or two later, I was informed he posted a screenshot of my note in public, even mentioned me by name. He plays the victim card acting like I treated him badly when he himself dug his own grave, even saying my artwork sucks. Wow, shaming somebody's art just because you don't like the person. Very mature. He's no professional either so he has no room to talk. He mentioned he removed me because I made him uncomfortable. I don't know how I did, I assume it's cause I told him I was tired of hearing about SM and lost interest. I was. He could've told me, it's not like I was gonna lash out.
In the note I did say he was being fake. It's not just because he left the server, it's the lack of communication that made him fake. Real friends would communicate with each other, fake friends would not say shit and go behind your backs. That's exactly what he did. I loved the part where he said, "I bet that's why Dawn isn't with you anymore!" He makes it sound like my ex dumped and cut ties with me but in reality, it was the other way around. I dumped and cut ties with Dawn because he made me unhappy and lashed out at me. His logic sucks.
He also makes it sound like I "forced" him to be a furry. Again, due to him being a Sonic fan, I thought he was already one. He must have some screws loose or something. I get he wants to find other SM fans, but someone not liking the anime is nothing to get depressed over. I love furries and do I get depressed over someone hating it? No. This guy is just a man-child. He's a grown ass adult who whines and complains about SM bashing. I'm beginning to wonder of those people who "bashed" him were just as annoyed as I was. I tried to be nice to him, but he made his choice and now he's got no friends left.
Even manipulated his followers against me because they only got one side of the story. Even got one calling me a whore. Good job. What are my final thoughts? He's just as manipulative as my ex-friends from last year, and that's saying a lot. At least they don't mention people by name, but all that he did was just beyond childish. All I can say about him now is I am disgusted and disappointed. I'm just done playing therapist with someone who doesn't even listen, talking to him is like talking to a brick wall. It's not worth my time associating with people like this. If they refuse to cooperate, why be around him? Last thing I wanna say about him is good riddance and goodbye.
I privately DMed him asking him if I did something in the server that upset him. Then I saw his tagline saying he was tired of seeing furry art. That really upset me. I can understand a lot of people don't like furries, but that shouldn't be a reason to leave. He was into Sonic the Hedgehog, so I assumed he was already into that cause Sonic characters are furries. He told me he was feeling left out and wanted to talk about Sailor Moon. If I'd known he was feeling left out, I would've slowed down on posting so much furry art. I didn't know it, because he didn't tell me.
I thought about cutting ties with him from there, because I didn't wanna hurt him anymore then I already have. But he kept begging me to stay so I gave him another chance. Unfortunately, he kept getting all depressed and whining about how someone is "bashing" him for liking SM. It was getting to the point where it was becoming very repetitive. I had enough, so I had to be honest with him that I was getting tired of hearing about this so called "bashing" him over SM. The anime itself is not the problem, it's him constantly whining about his issues was the problem. I tried to sound as calm as possible, I guess he saw it as a personal attack, so he removed me without a single word, I didn't find out until a few days later.
That really made me angry. Instead of communicating with me like an adult, he ran away like a coward. Removing someone just because they're annoyed with your repetitiveness is just very childish. I said my final words to him in a DA note. I told him I was done with his shit, he had an opportunity to make new friends and threw it away. I will admit I did F bomb him and called him a cunt, only because he handled it in a very childish way. I'm usually not that harsh, but his attitude left me no choice. After I sent that final note, I blocked him and this time, we're never being friends again. I gave him one too many chances and now it's too late.
About a day or two later, I was informed he posted a screenshot of my note in public, even mentioned me by name. He plays the victim card acting like I treated him badly when he himself dug his own grave, even saying my artwork sucks. Wow, shaming somebody's art just because you don't like the person. Very mature. He's no professional either so he has no room to talk. He mentioned he removed me because I made him uncomfortable. I don't know how I did, I assume it's cause I told him I was tired of hearing about SM and lost interest. I was. He could've told me, it's not like I was gonna lash out.
In the note I did say he was being fake. It's not just because he left the server, it's the lack of communication that made him fake. Real friends would communicate with each other, fake friends would not say shit and go behind your backs. That's exactly what he did. I loved the part where he said, "I bet that's why Dawn isn't with you anymore!" He makes it sound like my ex dumped and cut ties with me but in reality, it was the other way around. I dumped and cut ties with Dawn because he made me unhappy and lashed out at me. His logic sucks.
He also makes it sound like I "forced" him to be a furry. Again, due to him being a Sonic fan, I thought he was already one. He must have some screws loose or something. I get he wants to find other SM fans, but someone not liking the anime is nothing to get depressed over. I love furries and do I get depressed over someone hating it? No. This guy is just a man-child. He's a grown ass adult who whines and complains about SM bashing. I'm beginning to wonder of those people who "bashed" him were just as annoyed as I was. I tried to be nice to him, but he made his choice and now he's got no friends left.
Even manipulated his followers against me because they only got one side of the story. Even got one calling me a whore. Good job. What are my final thoughts? He's just as manipulative as my ex-friends from last year, and that's saying a lot. At least they don't mention people by name, but all that he did was just beyond childish. All I can say about him now is I am disgusted and disappointed. I'm just done playing therapist with someone who doesn't even listen, talking to him is like talking to a brick wall. It's not worth my time associating with people like this. If they refuse to cooperate, why be around him? Last thing I wanna say about him is good riddance and goodbye.
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