Discord servers are pretty good places I have found.

How do you find such servers?

Mostly from artists that I follow here who have public servers. SixthLeafClover being one of them. Missy has one too.

Finding friends through shared hobbies is probably the most effective way.

when you figure it out, let me know :/

everywhere & nowhere

If it makes you feel any better, that got a good laugh out of me.

I remember hearing about an app that supposedly is for friends or dating and I can't imagine why anyone would combine the two. :') Unless you can opt to have your profile only shown to people looking for friends, I would imagine it would be a waste of everyone's time, but even then, it just seems weird.

I believe the same app would have 2 or 3 modes for what you're specifically looking for: hookup, relationship, or friends. I believe Bumble does something like that. Tinder does not.

I belong to a few good Discord Servers, Tee. I can recommend if you'd like.

I am way too shy for Discord servers. You gotta be active to make friends, and I end up falling off after awhile, no connections made :[ I'd prefer smaller stuff

Fair point. I'll keep my eyes/ears open for you though!

I'm wondering the same thing.

Talk to people I guess. Most of the online friends I have started with random conversations.

While it may sound cliche? Shared interests.

Game, art, media or what have you communities that spring up can have a lot of good places to look and most friendships are born on whatever connection two people can find. Lot of my friends are met via communities for games or writing and the like.

Honestly, it's hard to make casual friends online. Most of the people that use the internet daily tend to expect consistent and steady gratification. Most sites I've known that try to hook people up for casual friendships have fallen through, mostly because the users quit using it when they become disillusioned with the results.

As for myself, most of my best online friends I've met through either roleplay websites like F-list, or got matched into games with them and developed friendships after. Some were even friends of friends that I met through things like discord servers or being invited to their game night, etc.

Lots of my online friends I either made through gaming, or forums. If you have a topic of interest like anime or gaming and there's a sidebar chat it gives you a realtime chance to get to know people.
I would also keep in mind discord, telegram, or chatzy servers for a wider reach outside your hobbies or interests.
That said, chuck me a note if you wanna chat and I can share my socials, maybe invite you to a few of the places I frequent :3 I promise I don't bite too much :P

If you find out, let me know.

I usually find friends through gaming, it doesn't always have to be over voice. I have a few friends that i've never heard speak before, but they'll join the discord call and listen to us and just type responses.

I wish there was an easier way to make friends irl... I honestly miss having someone to hang out with and drink coffee with or just do random stuff with.

Well whatever you do, don't use anything even remotely close to Tinder. Even if its just platonic or for meeting friends. It won't end well I promise lmao

Theres no easy way to find cool people online, it just happens and it just takes a lot of trial and error. Some of my favorite people ever I have met online were purely by chance, and on many different various platforms (FA, online games, etc.). They will come to you if you have the patience for it! Could always try Second Life or something like that too

Not wanting to chat over voice could limit potential people though if gaming platforms is gonna be your medium

I'll chat you up. :3

Look out for Discord servers for artists, or any hobby your into, really. If you lurk, maybe you'll see someone you find an interest in. Honestly, Discord really is great for just hitting someone up for a quick convo if you want it.

I'm in the same boat with ya. My friend base nosedived once I became homebound, and all but disappeared once the pandemic made everything ridiculous. I'm trying to put myself back out there, but physical disability/mental health stuff makes the going a tad rough.

I can relate to what your saying. I am not fond of my state, the town I live in sucks and so does the surrounding area. I'm kinda an introvert so talking to people is a thing i try to avoid. I'm most social on FA here and Discord, which finding rooms can be a bit tricky.

I know it's not strictly online, but furry conventions are an excellent way to start friendships that span and spread online!

I got many playing VRchat. plus the ability to use a custom avatar make the personal meeting less "anxiety inducting", sadly, nowadays, with the COVID shit, the platform got overpopulated, by trolls and "normal"people, and overall, Kids whose parents bought them META Quests, to not have to care of them... and it made public worlds be less populated because cringe, squeakers, or crashers ruining the people fun there.
personally i am not a social person, and I only keep a condensed friends group. but I generally stay silent and enjoy my lonelyness.

Some of the best friends I have ever had were online. 🤷‍♂️

Some of my best friends stretch back to 14.400 modems. If you have interest in crafty things makings things nerdy things etc. I'm happy to converse. Strictly platonically. I have one SO that is enough :p

We could chat about tea and stuff if you'd like. I'm always up for new friends!

Met many on here, TBH. I’m also in some Telegram groups and have friends through there. I have friends in my aviation circle and talk about flying and stuff.

I am very similar. I've always had a hard time in groups so discord servers don't work for me and I'm a very low maintenance 'don't talk for a week' sort of person.

I'm an extrovert so I make friends everywhere I go...

However, I find that games like VR chat are a pretty good way to get out and meet people.

And a nice thing about VR chat is you can block and mute annoying people xD it allows you to basically combine both extroverted and introverted friend-making.

Not a perfect solution but I've made several great friends there

Mmm, as a quiet and kept to a small corner of the world type person I could maybe pitch in my own ways I've gone about such. It also depends on how many or what kind of friends you seek as well. There is the talk your ear off kind and the like oneself quiet and talks time to time type.

I've have a few talk your ear off kind of friends before, but I couldn't keep up with them as I'm not really able to think that fast as subjects change often or about things I don't really know. So I keep to as you call it low maintenance but deep long thought out conversations kind of thing. Which the key there is finding like minded friends who share some similar hobbies and interests.

Where did I find them? The old friends and some new are from online gaming interactions, for I do text only as voice chat isn't possible for me. A small bit of talk and of interests lead to more talking, a sort of snowball down a hill. Modern day it's from being invited to small Discord servers (and old day Skype groups), lurking and learning about the people there and who may share interests I do. Doesn't mean I ever talk though, but I have mustered up courage to sometimes. Few times I have lurked on FurAffinity/DeviantArt profiles to learn about a person and bravely contacted them out of curiosity. It is no easy thing though for I'm severely anxious of a person and it's nerve wrecking when I initial contact someone. Outside of that, I've often been the one contacted instead which I'm quiet happy with as I'm able to comfortable handle that better. Am I a shy person? That's hard to say, but probably could safely say that.

So with all that, I couldn't say how Twitter or "platonic" friends seeking apps could be like. Though I doubt any apps out there are decent and any "gems" you could find will be super rare. VRChat I've seen a lot of and been asked to try it, but I'm by far too nervous (and shy) of a person to go near that, more so given it's best with voice chat which I can't do. I wrote this to the best I could, but maybe you can obtain some ideas from it. I'm not really good at this kind of topic myself, but thought I'd write this out in hopes it can be helpful.

I just start talking to people and hope for the best. It doesn't always work because as an introvert who works retail, I often times get burnt out social wise. But I still try!

Discord servers and mutual friends is where I got my best of friends tho.

Discord servers don't always have to be about voice chat, I primarily use it for text chats and I'm a huge lurker in the servers that I actually am in. I can always reach out in a DM and let you know which games I'm playing and if any of them are similar we can always text chat in game if it would make you feel more comfortable. I also have Line, which is a text app that has fun stickers and customization options. I don't think you can really search out friends on there but I'm there if you happen to have it.

I struggled with making this post here as I am super shy myself, but I just thought I would say you aren't alone. I feel like that too. It's hard to make lasting friendships now and I don't know why, but yeah. I wish you the best of luck

I wonder the same. I guess a good way to start is to find people who share the same interests than you, like video games or TV shows.

I mean I typically just find people with similar interests as me and see how the chemistry works out. What kinda games you play? Who's your favorite band? I typically start off conversations like this X3

You have some older chat programs like imvu or second life, that might be useful ? Or if you run into people anywhere you could always invite to add them over on discord and grow a meaningful friendship from there?

I'd be happy to be a friend lol, I need more anyways. Peanut is a great app for meeting other mom friends, other than that I stick mainly to facebook groups related to my interests.

VRChat. (Which doesn't require VR)

:0 And here I am saving up money for a computer that can run VR chat lol

Have you tried with the current one? In desktop mode, many potatoes can run it.

I've wanted to try this too I haven't found a single feline avatar that looks nice and I don't want to be a dogogen. And I'm too lazy to model.

Not even rexfelians?

Can you link an example? I don't remember the titles of everything.

I'd really have to take a pic from inside the game or show you around in the game itself. Most of the avatar thumbnails are not fully informative. It's a set of cats based on rexouium, which are the super-fox-looking avatars with the quill/feather hair most often. Drop me a line and I'll see about showing you some options in different styles. Mmmm... Here is one example of a rex based cat https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EdjyZ0NWAAAPyLx.png

This one looks alright for a cat but I don't think it'd fit for a medium/larger feline.

Clarify what you mean by medium/larger?
That is just an example. There are a lot of avatars out there after all, and even the ability to make your own - which can easily be done with premade models and packages available to modify to personalize.

As in any larger feline species that have a defined strong muzzle: https://sciencetrends.com/wp-conten.....5/big-cats.jpg (quick google image for reference)

Ah. Widemuzzle. Best suggestion I can provide is find somebody to take you around avatar hunting on VRC and see if you find anything. There's a lot of variety, and a lot of people are friendly. Even if you don't find an avatar shape that is Very You immediately, you can still make friends and get closer to the best avatar for you as you go. After all these months, I still don't have Very Me, but I'm learning to make my own and doing decently. :)

As a person with multiple anxiety issues that barely leaves the house and has a hard time keeping up with people, making friends is hard... o.o

Please share the secret if you ever learn of such a place.
I... don't think I have any friends left. Everyone, online & off, has drifted away and ghosted me.

Now, there's nothing left but watching from the sidelines as an outsider, and playing single-player games. :(

Ajna, you solved this problem. Right now.

By posting a request how to find friends on a plattform with kindred souls. Look at the answers of this very journal. There are quite a few who also wishes to have more friends. Why not starting with them? FA has a Note system for the beginning. First task is a introduction and on which messager you guys want to talk. Then you can talk about pets fursona or whatever is at your mind.

The only problem of a bunch of introverted shy people is finding one who takes the first step. And keep going is also a bit more of a challenge as for others. But i am sure, you guys can do it. You are good people.

It is hard these days, I'm not sure if it's age or just how things are now.

It used to be: find friends who have the same hobbies and there was only a handful of them, now the internet is full of furries and artist and furry artists and whatever niche hobby you're into there's hundreds and thousands of people and most of those are better at being friends to each other than you and me are. And then when you finally meet some people, you both end up being too busy with life shit to actually ever do anything.

I WANNA BE YOUR FRRRIIIIEEEEENNNNNNNND 8D

It's hard socialising as an adult XD

A question I have been asking myself for quite a while.