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The state of things as of 2022
3 years ago
(copy/pasted from my Twitter)
Things in life are moving quite rapidly since the start of this year... and honestly, I'm at a loss of what to do.
Earlier this year, mom accidentally fractured her sternum and was taken to the hospital, on top of that, we also learned she may have early stages of cancer.
The fractured sternum gave her difficulties in breathing as liquid filled her lungs. She had to go back to the hospital last night because she had trouble breathing again, she's doing better now, but I can't help but be worried throughout.
Medical bills aren't the concern, as mercifully our insurance has been covering much of it. My older brother's also been vigilant helping mom out as well with whatever she needs that I can't provide.
I just can't help but feel helpless as I try to keep my anxiety levels down.
It also doesn't help I'm still unemployed as commissions only pay so much while living here is so expensive...
Originally, I wanted to talk mom into selling the house so she could move somewhere more comfortable, and I finally can start my life, but this complicates things.
I'm honestly at a loss... I've debated on wanting to start a GoFundMe since I guess this does qualify as an emergency of sorts.
My meager commissions I'm still catching up on, plus mom's retirement money can only do so much.
But even if I do that, what amount would I even ask for that sounds reasonable?
What factors should I put into account?
Would I get flack for even doing this knowing how social media can get when it comes to donations?
If need be, I could share publicly what expenses were made using the money donated to mitigate whatever people might think.
I'm aware of and know how these donation things can get messy... trust me, I was there when Beast's Fury was doing their campaigns.
I guess selling the house is out of the question for the time being... which means me being stuck here for even longer, but for how long, I wish I knew. Plus, there's also the added guilt of knowing I'd leave mom all alone with her current physical condition if I moved now.
So, for anyone curious why I've been mostly quiet, at least for the past few months, this has been what I've been dealing with. I can't really keep it to myself much longer or risk going even crazier than I have been with worry and frustration.
Things in life are moving quite rapidly since the start of this year... and honestly, I'm at a loss of what to do.
Earlier this year, mom accidentally fractured her sternum and was taken to the hospital, on top of that, we also learned she may have early stages of cancer.
The fractured sternum gave her difficulties in breathing as liquid filled her lungs. She had to go back to the hospital last night because she had trouble breathing again, she's doing better now, but I can't help but be worried throughout.
Medical bills aren't the concern, as mercifully our insurance has been covering much of it. My older brother's also been vigilant helping mom out as well with whatever she needs that I can't provide.
I just can't help but feel helpless as I try to keep my anxiety levels down.
It also doesn't help I'm still unemployed as commissions only pay so much while living here is so expensive...
Originally, I wanted to talk mom into selling the house so she could move somewhere more comfortable, and I finally can start my life, but this complicates things.
I'm honestly at a loss... I've debated on wanting to start a GoFundMe since I guess this does qualify as an emergency of sorts.
My meager commissions I'm still catching up on, plus mom's retirement money can only do so much.
But even if I do that, what amount would I even ask for that sounds reasonable?
What factors should I put into account?
Would I get flack for even doing this knowing how social media can get when it comes to donations?
If need be, I could share publicly what expenses were made using the money donated to mitigate whatever people might think.
I'm aware of and know how these donation things can get messy... trust me, I was there when Beast's Fury was doing their campaigns.
I guess selling the house is out of the question for the time being... which means me being stuck here for even longer, but for how long, I wish I knew. Plus, there's also the added guilt of knowing I'd leave mom all alone with her current physical condition if I moved now.
So, for anyone curious why I've been mostly quiet, at least for the past few months, this has been what I've been dealing with. I can't really keep it to myself much longer or risk going even crazier than I have been with worry and frustration.
id say, priority is always to yourself, as selfish as it sounds. it sounds like your bro is handleing your mom as best he can, altho more help never hurts. but you need to find the right direction to focus on. preferably a way that benefits the three of you.
my best advice is to keep asking around. im sure some people would be able to give you more solid advice on a direction to take man.
Between all these issues, we understand if you open up donations. I hope your mom will get in a better shape soon.