I miss doing art trades as well. Baring in mind that I do work slower than other artists--Would you like to do one with me, or maybe do a collab?
Your feelings on the term, and your role, as "little" are valid.

Hello Kitty,

I hope that you are having a good day. I am glad to hear from you and see some more of your art. I completely understand about what your feelings about calling yourself a littlefur. I think that it is best to be yourself and regardless if you call yourself a littlefur or not, we will support you fully and understand. You are a super talented artist, but more importantly you are a super nice person and a good friend. I always love to see your art and chat with you. You are an awesome person and I am so proud of you in everything you do. I hope that this helps.

I would definitely love to write another story for you in the future. Kitty is the cutest and coolest polar bear sona ever. I love her design and personality. I definitely enjoyed the first story I wrote for you. If you ever want to do a story collab/trade with me in the future, you can note me of what kind of story you want and all of that stuff and I try my best to write a good story for you. Of course, you don't have too if you don't want to. I am glad to hear from you. I hope that you and your family are doing well.

Hi Austin, it’s so nice to hear from you again. I hope you are doing well! Your comments always make me smile. I’d love to do a story together when I get through the few things I’m working on now. I loved the last one with the different cakes and dresses hehe.

I am doing alright, Kitty. Thanks for asking. I am glad you are doing better.

Your drawings and your comments always makes me smile as well.

Sure. Take as long as you need and you can note me whenever you want to do a story together. You can also give me an idea of what you want in the story if you want to do that. I will wait until then.

I can't wait to see your other art trades as well. Take as long as you need before we work on the story together.

Hopefully Austin will be wearing a King outfit and have a baby throne made completely out of cake for him to sit and eat instead of him wearing a dress and having a tea party, lol, jk. I am so glad to hear from you and I hope that you are having a good day. ^^

I don't really like the term "age regressor" or agere terms that much, either. I find those communities are more often than not filled with minors who throw a tantrum when you tell them to stop using terms used/coined by kink communities. I know lots of ABDL, etc. who aren't sexual but don't want to be lumped in with agere, etc. (like me). It just feels weird and uncomfortable.

You'll do great, Kitty! That DnD campaign sounds really exciting, especially since carnivals are one of my favorite themes.

I agree tons about the whole label dilemma.. I haven't seen any recent labels come out, so if anyone asks I just say that I'm a "little" since most people generally know what it is.

Thanks!! I love fairies and carnivals so when they announced the campaign book I /had/ to get it. Excited to finally get to read through it. It’s got a lot of fun elements. I saw someone call it D&D for theater kids and it totally is.

ive been trying to do more art trades and fun things like designing characters together with friends since i miss it a lot from back in deviantart days!!!

As for the little terms n stuff i feel ya its so hard to keep up with all that stuff n seeing what kinds of ppl fill a community n how you might be seen using it after awhile bc you dont keep up. I barely use any terms like that now bc its too much trouble, and ppl find other reasons to dislike me anyway idk LOL Honestly you don't really owe anyone an explanation or label for yourself if you cant think of one, they can figure it out from your interests and what you draw and stick around if they want to. I only make a stance or label on things now just to keep ppl from being mean to me or harassin me i guess

i had problems with agere too, it made me feel so guilty for not being able perfectly separate my interests and wants and hobbies into two separate boxes of "adult me" and "regressed me" im just me

Saaaaame. Honestly as much as I loved drawing for other people as commissions I really miss the joy of drawing with/for friends ;W; I miss the dopey little art memes too.

Tbh I think FA might be the last place I have myself labeled as a “littlefur” now that I think about it. Most places I just go with a vague “bear cub” LOL

The segmentation is hard to deal with. I still have a hard time talking about some of my hobbies in depth because they aren’t “wholesome” enough?? Which is really, really silly. I’m a person not a product.

Oo I would love to do a trade with you if you've got trades open

I need to finish off my current list, but I'd love to do one in the future with you Ari!

yay yay yay

I somehow totally missed that journal from you, which is weird because I usually go out of my way to read when you post 🙈 That’s both reassuring and disheartening that you feel similarly. I just really felt like I needed to get it down somewhere. You’ll notice I’m to tired/nervous to post something like this on Twitter.

I’m only here because of ddlg. I had a ddlg blog a year or so before this account existed. I don’t use the term often because of the large stigma that comes with it these days.

I have no malice towards AgeRe. There are many using the term who are kind and wish to have a way to describe that they aren’t interested in any sort of associated kink. Which is totally a fair thing to want. It just feels kind of dehumanizing to be admired for my art and then shunned in other ways when the folks who are very critical of communities I participate in follow me.

It’s been a problem for years with me predating AgeRe mixing into furry. You would not believe some of the things people have said to my face at cons 🙃

I’m glad you’ve been finding joy in other groups. I saw you took up kayaking! That’s one of my favorite things to do. I made a Twitter/Tumblr/AO3 for my fandoms and it’s been quite excellent. A good chunk of tumblr is reading Dracula right now and I’ve been having a lot of fun with that. (And obviously I have been *very* busy offline as well haha. Someone is starting to crawl)

I know how that feels. It's hard not to be ashamed of an aspect of identity that doesn't hurt you or others when summertime feels the need to insult you or others for it. You can't imagine the things people have said to me about/for being autistic.

Never be ashamed of who you are, friend.

I never really bothered with titles other than furry, so the struggles of people reflecting on being a little or a caregiver or the like has always escaped me but I can emphasize with being unsure about oneself and their identity. As for whether or not children will see your work, it's an inevitable downside of the internet that someone can lie about their age and trespass into a website they are not old enough to otherwise visit, regardless of whether or not the users they frequent are safe or not (either SFW or otherwise). At the end of the day, some people see the escapism of ageplay as sexual, some don't and some do but lie to themselves or others. It's hard to tell who feels and who means what when there is such amnesty involved. Just know that I like your work and I want the artists here to not feel pressured or unhappy.

Also, I'm game for an art trade.

I have so much of the same feels on the last bit of this.

It seems like every time I use a term to describe who I am, it gets co-opted and twisted by other groups. (Who usually already HAD their own terms. >:|) Not just the babyfur, littlefur, kidfur, etc community but beyond that even.

It's like even saying I'm SFW doesn't translate into what I intend it to anymore.

I think at least some of the AgeRe vitriol is coming from that sort of mental space. It's frustrating for me being as un-kinky as I am to feel like I'm constantly being confused with other people who are uber-super-kinky. XD

So I kind of understand that people who are as un-kinky as I am are getting upset and angry when those who they perceive as 'kinky' people want to follow and interact. Even when nothing those particular people post is actually anything 'bad' or even remotely questionable. It's like they've just learned that "Some X's are Y's, so ALL Y's MUST be X's." And it's not true, not even a little, but it's what they've come to believe.

(Just saying: Being kinky is fine. I don't care. I just don't 'get it' myself and don't want to participate. LOL Aside from maybe making a wisecrack about something once in a while.)

(Also bonus points for when you point out that a term isn't meant to describe something and get told something along the lines of "Don't gatekeep! D:<" )

It's hard! Labels are helpful sometimes in that you can find similar groups. You know me Woozle, I really only post SFW art and interact with other primarily "SFW" artists. But the lines between SFW and NSFW are super blurry. I'd like to mention in passing that I have a caregiver and other mundane parts of my littlespace but to me that *is* kink related even though it isn't sexual at all.

Really at the end of the day all that matters is that I have found friends like me and other people who enjoy my art c: It was a major relief to me when I found out I was not the only person who primarily drank out of sippy cups haha. I just worry that someone would get the wrong impression of me as terminology shifts.

Yeah, I have that fear, too. To be using a specific label and then the meaning changes for the thousandth time and suddenly I'm being yelled at for something I never did. :P

Sometimes I feel like just telling people: Look, I'm just a little smol bean who likes sippies and coloring and wants to play with all the toys she collects. XD

Haha too shy to start trades.

Anyhow. D&D is so cool. Getting together with friends (or online) and talking a bit, finding sides of each other, I love to DM adventures.

For the first time we are adults with okayish income so I bought an army of figurines and they will provide paint. I will do an awful job painting but it's part of the fun

Good to hear from ya again! Twitter is kind of a toxic dump but I have such a following and activity there that I still hang there despite knowing better. I do really like FA a whole lot.

As far as your role and influence. You are blankit first and foremost and anything else doesn't matter. You're my friend and i've known you forever and you're just awesome.

AGRE and associated movements are iffy with me. I never want to shame kink but I also want a nice and safe place to be in little space without seeing the tons and tons of porn level material. (Of course, we're adults and we can handle that but, the kinky side has been way louder in places like twitter that's for sure.) Nothin wrong with kink! It can also sometimes be awkward when I want to put focus on the nostalgic or little factor of writing or commissioned art, but other viewers only see the crinkle pants (lol)

I'll try to reassure you by letting you know "littlefur" / "lilfur" has history way before the advent of tumblr. We're going way back to the days right before LJ. Me and a few friends were in a IRC group called "Lilfurs" and basically we were littles who were a bit older than the babies, diapers were ok but not the focus and otherwise we were just a subset of the existing babyfur subculture. I'm talking 2003-2004. Kidfurs came about when people wanted to be a little older and kind of distance themselves away from the tiniest of tots. It's kinda silly we all want our own spaces sometimes. You've known me for years, I've often left labels off of my profiles since none of the common ones ever fit.

I wanna hear and learn more from you. I joined littlefort in hopes of creating more connections but just about every discord server is quiet. I hope we can blossom a community again, I miss it so much.

<3 Luvs Ya Blankit

"Regressors" SOME of them who use the term Little are still fussing over it "not being a kink" and it's fucking annoying. I've seen it on Tumblr and half on Twitter. As for ermmm changing the term Littlefur to something you like, I don't even know how to explain my suggestion. XS I use the term Furcub now but I made that up on the fly cause me being Little doesn't feel like Regression or Ageplay, since it's just naturally me. Maybe you could find some words that could work together and feel right for you? Me coming up with the term Furcub took a while tho, since I also made it up because my Littlespace doesn't even feel like a normal Littlespace. XS

My rambling's probably not helping at all but I hope you figure something out eventually! I believe in you!