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Age old question for the 30+
3 years ago
I once again find myself having that same question enter my head "where does a guy in his 30s go to meet folks?" Not saying I don't have friends locally or nothing but I do often find myself yearning for a little more. Usually on the fronts of just who and what I am which has left me feeling at times like the odd person out, even around friends.
The last year has been a big battle with depression and social anxiety, two problems that have made it harder than usual to put a best foot forward and easy to feel like you are losing ground when you can't keep mustering up the same energy or smile people expect of you. A negative side of going through struggles like this is that it can all too common for you to be left in silence or simply told to be like your old self, things that simply compound those feelings of struggle and depression.
Trying to break that cycle proves to be a challenge since you get caught in a catch 22 of needing people to talk to cause it helps a lot, and not having a lot of energy to talk to people or engage cause you are feeling low. Being in my 30s adds the extra level of most of us all being busy with the typical adult life and not having the same time for the fun extracurricular stuff we relate with and identify by. But all the same I feel like I have always been close-to but at the same time missing that main feeling of having found more of a space where I feel welcomed and belong.
The last year has been a big battle with depression and social anxiety, two problems that have made it harder than usual to put a best foot forward and easy to feel like you are losing ground when you can't keep mustering up the same energy or smile people expect of you. A negative side of going through struggles like this is that it can all too common for you to be left in silence or simply told to be like your old self, things that simply compound those feelings of struggle and depression.
Trying to break that cycle proves to be a challenge since you get caught in a catch 22 of needing people to talk to cause it helps a lot, and not having a lot of energy to talk to people or engage cause you are feeling low. Being in my 30s adds the extra level of most of us all being busy with the typical adult life and not having the same time for the fun extracurricular stuff we relate with and identify by. But all the same I feel like I have always been close-to but at the same time missing that main feeling of having found more of a space where I feel welcomed and belong.
Wingy, hon, they say you should listen to your feelings, but in your case, it might not be a good idea after all. You're a good artist and a good guy, I've always known you that way. I believe that any guy would be lucky to have you as a mate. I'm sorry to know that you've been depressed, you deserve better. The depression tells you otherwise, but it's wrong. For whatever it's worth, this lil' otter believes in you. Please keep fighting.
I do appreciate the kind words and sentiment there though <3 I know this all ties into personal battles I have had over my life and while things are improving, some times you just could really use more folks to talk to or hang out with.
I hopes you're able to find places to meet people and feel comfortable and happy. It would be a shame for others to miss out on such a lovable derg <3 If we weren't half the world apart, we'd have to hang out all the time!
I would always love to hangout and see you as well, its a bit of a shame that some of the awesome folks I meet such as you are always so far away.
I do like conventions when you are feeling more extroverted as there is a lot of opportunity and just simply the fact that in-person interactions also give a lot more of a feel for someone than just text on a screen can.