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3 years ago
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Hi everyone.
Just thought I'd give a little update, as this year has been one of the most challenging I've had.
First all, I had a great time in Scotland, and I managed to share what I got up to on Twitter. From the Jacobite Steam train, as featured on Harry Potter (my gf's a fan, I'm not so much lol), to Loch Ness, and driving all the way up to John o' Groats (the most north-easterly tip of Great Britain). I've been to Lands End (the other end of the country) many times as I love Cornwall, but it was nice to finally see the other signpost! Also I got to meet some friends at Edinburgh Zoo, with the famous Pandas, and Koalas too hehe.
But fun times don't last forever, and after returning home, my brother gave me some bad news about my father. It has now transpired that he has only months left. I went to see him, and his doctor in charge, and I had to make a tough (but at the same time easy) decision. Dad has always hated hospitals, and the last thing we want want is for him to return there. The reason he had to go back to hospital is because he removed a tube from a valve in his abdomen, which is there to drain the excess fluid his non-functioning liver can no longer remove.
The decision that had to be made is either he returns to the care home under palliative care without the valve/tube. This will result in his abdomen swelling up again and causing a more uncomfortable experience in his final months. The other choice was to reinsert the tube, whilst going into palliative care. The main drawback is that if dad removes the tube again, it will mean full end of life care, and he will have days. Dad could do this at anytime.
It's the latter decision we chose. Dad wants the tube back in, and of course it should be more comfortable for him. Also, we see that it will be his choice to remove the tube when he has had enough. So he's in control in a way.
So in all, I'm dreading this autumn. The only silver lining is that as it's palliative care, we don't have to fork out cash for it. We still have to sell our house; but that's for a different unrelated reason. It does mean I will still get a roof over my head.
Sorry to share this, but I needed to get this off my chest. I have some great friends through FA, and I love chatting on Telegram and discord. I still intend to write more, and be here for anyone.
Take care everyone! 🐨hugs!
Just thought I'd give a little update, as this year has been one of the most challenging I've had.
First all, I had a great time in Scotland, and I managed to share what I got up to on Twitter. From the Jacobite Steam train, as featured on Harry Potter (my gf's a fan, I'm not so much lol), to Loch Ness, and driving all the way up to John o' Groats (the most north-easterly tip of Great Britain). I've been to Lands End (the other end of the country) many times as I love Cornwall, but it was nice to finally see the other signpost! Also I got to meet some friends at Edinburgh Zoo, with the famous Pandas, and Koalas too hehe.
But fun times don't last forever, and after returning home, my brother gave me some bad news about my father. It has now transpired that he has only months left. I went to see him, and his doctor in charge, and I had to make a tough (but at the same time easy) decision. Dad has always hated hospitals, and the last thing we want want is for him to return there. The reason he had to go back to hospital is because he removed a tube from a valve in his abdomen, which is there to drain the excess fluid his non-functioning liver can no longer remove.
The decision that had to be made is either he returns to the care home under palliative care without the valve/tube. This will result in his abdomen swelling up again and causing a more uncomfortable experience in his final months. The other choice was to reinsert the tube, whilst going into palliative care. The main drawback is that if dad removes the tube again, it will mean full end of life care, and he will have days. Dad could do this at anytime.
It's the latter decision we chose. Dad wants the tube back in, and of course it should be more comfortable for him. Also, we see that it will be his choice to remove the tube when he has had enough. So he's in control in a way.
So in all, I'm dreading this autumn. The only silver lining is that as it's palliative care, we don't have to fork out cash for it. We still have to sell our house; but that's for a different unrelated reason. It does mean I will still get a roof over my head.
Sorry to share this, but I needed to get this off my chest. I have some great friends through FA, and I love chatting on Telegram and discord. I still intend to write more, and be here for anyone.
Take care everyone! 🐨hugs!
*Big 🐨 hugs back* you are awesome x3