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3 years ago
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So when i was 20 or 21 i moved in with my dad and his wife. In 4 months i had had enough and had my family come and help me move out of his house and back in with my mom. The reason? Verbal abuse suddenly became physical, even if it wasn't on purpose.
Reading the Little things by Gamer2 brought this and a thought to my mind. If i ever went with a friend to a house where they were still living with their parents i would have a friend coming over with a U-Haul van within the hour and i would be in their room helping them grab anything that meant something to them and packing them some clothes because no one deserves that kind of abuse from anyone, especially their parents. I would literally have their parents held in another room just so the other person could peacefully leave. When my friend finally has everything they want i tear their parents a new one before sending said friend over to my residence and if need be, would walk to an establishment down the road and grab an Uber. It saddens me to know end that people would act like her parents in that comic. The worst argument that became the norm is "I brought you into this world and I'll take you out" because you're implying 2 things, that you're willing to kill them because they misbehave or that they somehow asked to be born. You have 0 rights to their life even if they are children. If they disobey you discipline them in a way they understand and no i don't mean try to be their friend because you're still their parent and you need to teach them what's ok. Hell when i was younger i got the belt. But never NEVER verbally abuse your children. You are to be their parent you are to be someone they feel they can come to about their problems. In my current life, no i would not go to my parents about my problems but that's because i live a full state away from them. If i had to i absolutely would. The relationship i have with my parents is the bare minimum. Your child should not be afraid to come to you with a problem. But they also shouldn't be your best friend. And when they turn 18 you do not control what they do with their life beyond getting them on track to being able to move out and live on their own.
Sorry had to vent a bit. Cause it reminded me of how my dad's wife would act towards my sisters and I.
Reading the Little things by Gamer2 brought this and a thought to my mind. If i ever went with a friend to a house where they were still living with their parents i would have a friend coming over with a U-Haul van within the hour and i would be in their room helping them grab anything that meant something to them and packing them some clothes because no one deserves that kind of abuse from anyone, especially their parents. I would literally have their parents held in another room just so the other person could peacefully leave. When my friend finally has everything they want i tear their parents a new one before sending said friend over to my residence and if need be, would walk to an establishment down the road and grab an Uber. It saddens me to know end that people would act like her parents in that comic. The worst argument that became the norm is "I brought you into this world and I'll take you out" because you're implying 2 things, that you're willing to kill them because they misbehave or that they somehow asked to be born. You have 0 rights to their life even if they are children. If they disobey you discipline them in a way they understand and no i don't mean try to be their friend because you're still their parent and you need to teach them what's ok. Hell when i was younger i got the belt. But never NEVER verbally abuse your children. You are to be their parent you are to be someone they feel they can come to about their problems. In my current life, no i would not go to my parents about my problems but that's because i live a full state away from them. If i had to i absolutely would. The relationship i have with my parents is the bare minimum. Your child should not be afraid to come to you with a problem. But they also shouldn't be your best friend. And when they turn 18 you do not control what they do with their life beyond getting them on track to being able to move out and live on their own.
Sorry had to vent a bit. Cause it reminded me of how my dad's wife would act towards my sisters and I.
