So, as you all know, earlier this year, I got engaged to my sweetheart  WolfgerLion64 after our original plans got upended by visa problems that resulted in him being barred for 5 years.

After talking to an attorney on what can be done to get married and help overcome the bar, I was told plainly that the fastest option outside a K-1 visa is to get married in a country that recognizes same-sex marriage and then get the process rolling from there.

Of course...it's next to impossible to do that since to even get to some of these countries by flight requires a stop in...where else...the United States. I was told that he can't even pass through the US on the way through to another country (i.e. Canada) without getting stopped and getting into trouble.

I'm stuck, I'm frustrated, I'm crushed...this is fucking ridiculous...

I need help, I need advice, I need action...I'm not taking my chances of waiting longer than I have to in the hopes of my fiancé not suffering a traumatic event or fate down there...not with how things are going...

--Update--

Things are still more or less the same...we're suck in virtually impossible situations. All routes point to a physical meeting...I can feel my mind just cracking and my heart breaking...I just want my mate...is it really that hard to ask for...? T^T