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What a Tangled Web we Weave
18 years ago
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Feel free to skip right past this, cause it's just me bitching.
ahem.
do you ever feel like someone is going behind your back trying to make your life difficult? Cause I sure as hell do at the moment,
It all started some year and a half ago when an aquantance become good friend very suddenly flipped her attitude twards me, now I won't point fingers but she was not the type to befriend on impulse, the relationship if you could call it, lasted for some 2 months or so and it was purely social.
Initially from what happened I though it was my fault, coupled with her labelling of being 'passively aggressive'. Personally I didn't know what lead to this, since the worst thing I ever done to her was make 1 or 2 smartarse comments on her page (fully expecting her to TAKE A JOKE). and possibly 1 instance of sounding arrogant when chatting to her. Now think does that really warrent excommunication?
However as time passed I let things cool down, it was almost a year before I tried recontacting her. But to my supprise she held whatever grudge she had against me. a grudge which to this day I do Not fully undersand.
In that year, much had changed, I had grown less arrogant, and have learnt to be less 'aggressive' in my personality, and she has become infactuated with another friend of hers (lets refered to him as Adrian to prevent confusion).
Now heres the issue, At the time of when me and her were friends she was also friends with 'Adrian' and it's quite normal for a person to talk to a friend of a friend. me and 'Adrian' chatted a few times, eventually I trusted him enough to tell him I liked the very same girl he was a friend of.
So one day while chatting casually, he asked me a few questions, about my intentions, I though it was just typical bloke stuff, so I said, 'yeah, in time I might go out with her.' and a whole load of stuff. Unfortunately I was too honest for my own good, I also mentioned how she had a few problems, and again showed my arrogant side.
I didn't think too much of all this at that time, but more recently I've been noticing a pieces fall into places I became suspicious, from what, recently I had another chat with 'Adrian' and discussed how were things going, and to an extent, has that girl gotten over what happened a year back. strangely enough, 'Adrian' was more than enthusiasic about telling me to forget all about it and move on. (the very same suggestion he had given me when I talked to him a few days after my relationship fell apart)
I began having suspicions and browsed around. and from recent conversations with another friend of hers (refere to him as Bob), I found out that at the time of me and her friendship, she had fallen out of a relationship with 'Bob'.
In that conversation I also found found out that 'Bob' hated 'Adrian' and reconed 'Adrian' cheated with 'that girl' when they were still in a relationship.
BY this stage I was 70% sure the relationship breakdown was not entirely my fault.
Two days ago, I tried Yet again to contact her, - she ignored me yet again,despite 1 and a half years of time going by. No minor grudge could possibly be heald that long, Something happened in january 2006, Someone encouraged her to disassociate with me.
To put it simply, I think 'Adrian' didn't want me being friends with her, because he feared that I might fall into a relationship with her before him.
which could very well happen since I live less than 20km from her, and He is in Canada!
My plan at the moment is to wait out Adrian and her relationship, maybe when she a little less dependent hon his opinion I might try and contact her again She can holda grudge for a long time, but not forever, one day,, one day we'll find out what Really happend.
ahem.
do you ever feel like someone is going behind your back trying to make your life difficult? Cause I sure as hell do at the moment,
It all started some year and a half ago when an aquantance become good friend very suddenly flipped her attitude twards me, now I won't point fingers but she was not the type to befriend on impulse, the relationship if you could call it, lasted for some 2 months or so and it was purely social.
Initially from what happened I though it was my fault, coupled with her labelling of being 'passively aggressive'. Personally I didn't know what lead to this, since the worst thing I ever done to her was make 1 or 2 smartarse comments on her page (fully expecting her to TAKE A JOKE). and possibly 1 instance of sounding arrogant when chatting to her. Now think does that really warrent excommunication?
However as time passed I let things cool down, it was almost a year before I tried recontacting her. But to my supprise she held whatever grudge she had against me. a grudge which to this day I do Not fully undersand.
In that year, much had changed, I had grown less arrogant, and have learnt to be less 'aggressive' in my personality, and she has become infactuated with another friend of hers (lets refered to him as Adrian to prevent confusion).
Now heres the issue, At the time of when me and her were friends she was also friends with 'Adrian' and it's quite normal for a person to talk to a friend of a friend. me and 'Adrian' chatted a few times, eventually I trusted him enough to tell him I liked the very same girl he was a friend of.
So one day while chatting casually, he asked me a few questions, about my intentions, I though it was just typical bloke stuff, so I said, 'yeah, in time I might go out with her.' and a whole load of stuff. Unfortunately I was too honest for my own good, I also mentioned how she had a few problems, and again showed my arrogant side.
I didn't think too much of all this at that time, but more recently I've been noticing a pieces fall into places I became suspicious, from what, recently I had another chat with 'Adrian' and discussed how were things going, and to an extent, has that girl gotten over what happened a year back. strangely enough, 'Adrian' was more than enthusiasic about telling me to forget all about it and move on. (the very same suggestion he had given me when I talked to him a few days after my relationship fell apart)
I began having suspicions and browsed around. and from recent conversations with another friend of hers (refere to him as Bob), I found out that at the time of me and her friendship, she had fallen out of a relationship with 'Bob'.
In that conversation I also found found out that 'Bob' hated 'Adrian' and reconed 'Adrian' cheated with 'that girl' when they were still in a relationship.
BY this stage I was 70% sure the relationship breakdown was not entirely my fault.
Two days ago, I tried Yet again to contact her, - she ignored me yet again,despite 1 and a half years of time going by. No minor grudge could possibly be heald that long, Something happened in january 2006, Someone encouraged her to disassociate with me.
To put it simply, I think 'Adrian' didn't want me being friends with her, because he feared that I might fall into a relationship with her before him.
which could very well happen since I live less than 20km from her, and He is in Canada!
My plan at the moment is to wait out Adrian and her relationship, maybe when she a little less dependent hon his opinion I might try and contact her again She can holda grudge for a long time, but not forever, one day,, one day we'll find out what Really happend.
Reminds me of my high school days. My girl friend decided to cop a hormonal attitude and basically walked away from our relation. Even to this day I have no Idea what happend. I guess she got even more PO'd with me when I didn't go chasing after her. But I've never been the on to question why, and just let the relation die. Honestly I was better off doing that. I can't handle moody.
And I should mention that it wasn't "bob" who I feel uncomfortable with, he was in a relationship with her long before I met her, its 'Adrian' that I suspect backstabbed me.