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16 years ago
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Just another journal entry with me bitching and moaning...
This actually happened yesterday (Tuesday, to be accurate). I didn't post it last night, though, cuz it was bothering me so intensely I thought it'd just re-enrage me.
There's this asshole at my job who, for the past few months, has been treating me like I don't exist. He used to talk to me and invite me out on group outings with other co-workers, but as of late, he doesn't say anything to me unless absolutely neccessary, or if I ask him something. I'm not sure why he does this; he doesn't feel like being upfront with me about whatever his problem is, so rather than get confrontational, I just let it slide. If he wants to be a douchebag, whatever, I don't care.
So yesterday, me, him, and one of our bosses were scheduled to work at our secondary venue for the day. This does require a lot of communication between the three of us, so I was guessing he was rather upset by this, though he didn't show it. The venue is a stage show, so we have to be in position at a specific time to let the guests get seated. I completely forgot the scheduling for the second show and ended up walking in about 30 seconds after the guests were signaled to be let in. I mentally slapped myself and quickly sought out the guy to apologize. When I said I was sorry, he walked right past me as if I hadn't said anything at all. Angry, I walked back to my spot. My boss scolded me a little for showing up late, which I just smiled and nodded at. It wasn't a big deal; I wasn't the first to ever be late to a show, I was only 30 seconds late, and it was the first time I had ever done it. No biggie.
After work, I'm walking out into the parking lot and up ahead I can see the guy and two other co-workers standing around. As I approach, I hear him talking about me, complaining loudly in a very spiteful tone. One other co-worker was being rather agreeable, and the other (who was another boss of mine) didn't say anything, at least nothing I heard, anyway.
I wracked my brain for something to say in retort, but due to my imminent promotion and my boss standing right there, I figured it was safer not to do anything as it may come back to bite me in the ass. I was FORCED to keep walking and not say anything. I'm sure the two others saw me but he didn't, as he kept talking as I walked behind him.
When I got back into my car, I did a little heavy breathing to steady myself, but once I was out on the highways, I buckled and started crying my eyes out. I figured it would ease my rage, but it didn't, and I spent the majority of the drive home screaming at other drivers and flooring the gas, which I'm sure shaved a good ten years off my engine.
I've been trying to get over it, and I think I'm past the worst of it now. I'm just trying to figure out how I should treat them once I get back to work. My boss I will easily forgive, even if she WAS talking about me behind my back. She talked me up so much to our supervisor for me to get the promotion, so I can forgive her. The other two not so much. I'm trying to be an adult about it, but giving them the cold shoulder is the least I can do.
This actually happened yesterday (Tuesday, to be accurate). I didn't post it last night, though, cuz it was bothering me so intensely I thought it'd just re-enrage me.
There's this asshole at my job who, for the past few months, has been treating me like I don't exist. He used to talk to me and invite me out on group outings with other co-workers, but as of late, he doesn't say anything to me unless absolutely neccessary, or if I ask him something. I'm not sure why he does this; he doesn't feel like being upfront with me about whatever his problem is, so rather than get confrontational, I just let it slide. If he wants to be a douchebag, whatever, I don't care.
So yesterday, me, him, and one of our bosses were scheduled to work at our secondary venue for the day. This does require a lot of communication between the three of us, so I was guessing he was rather upset by this, though he didn't show it. The venue is a stage show, so we have to be in position at a specific time to let the guests get seated. I completely forgot the scheduling for the second show and ended up walking in about 30 seconds after the guests were signaled to be let in. I mentally slapped myself and quickly sought out the guy to apologize. When I said I was sorry, he walked right past me as if I hadn't said anything at all. Angry, I walked back to my spot. My boss scolded me a little for showing up late, which I just smiled and nodded at. It wasn't a big deal; I wasn't the first to ever be late to a show, I was only 30 seconds late, and it was the first time I had ever done it. No biggie.
After work, I'm walking out into the parking lot and up ahead I can see the guy and two other co-workers standing around. As I approach, I hear him talking about me, complaining loudly in a very spiteful tone. One other co-worker was being rather agreeable, and the other (who was another boss of mine) didn't say anything, at least nothing I heard, anyway.
I wracked my brain for something to say in retort, but due to my imminent promotion and my boss standing right there, I figured it was safer not to do anything as it may come back to bite me in the ass. I was FORCED to keep walking and not say anything. I'm sure the two others saw me but he didn't, as he kept talking as I walked behind him.
When I got back into my car, I did a little heavy breathing to steady myself, but once I was out on the highways, I buckled and started crying my eyes out. I figured it would ease my rage, but it didn't, and I spent the majority of the drive home screaming at other drivers and flooring the gas, which I'm sure shaved a good ten years off my engine.
I've been trying to get over it, and I think I'm past the worst of it now. I'm just trying to figure out how I should treat them once I get back to work. My boss I will easily forgive, even if she WAS talking about me behind my back. She talked me up so much to our supervisor for me to get the promotion, so I can forgive her. The other two not so much. I'm trying to be an adult about it, but giving them the cold shoulder is the least I can do.
Maybe there was something you said or did a while back that he didn't care for, just come up to him an be like, "Hey man, I'm not sure why you're angry at me, why you ignore me an why you talk behind me back. But if you have a problem or I said something to offend you I would like to know so that maybe I can try to fix this if it really is something I did. This whole ignore an chit chat while i'm not around thing is kinda childish and since I have to work with you I'd rather it be a pleasant experience rather than what it is now"
of course giving the cold shoulder is one thing but then again, maybe he's trying to egg it on so that you'll speak up an say something. it doesn't have to turn into a physical fight, i mean hell. he can get sued and fired if he assaulted you or something. so you'd have the upper hand. he could say mean things, but he seems to be the only one starting shit with you, even though you see no reason why. Maybe he heard you were getting a promotion an was pissed or something, I don't know.