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3 years ago
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I'm currently attending another furry convention and heard stuff that did make me reflect on some things…
In the western world, a traditional relationship is between 2 individuals, who are married and their romantic/emotional and sexual needs are met by their respective partner. Monogamy basically.
(Yes, gender is a big element in all this too, but I don't feel like it is that important in this discussion)
There's others kinds of relationships, and instinctively some would say that it's either monogamy or polygamy, however I see many things that in my perspective do not make it such a simple binary matter.
I've seen people expand beyond one partner, and view things differently:
- I have sex with many, but I only LOVE my partner
- I have sex with a few good friends, but my heart truly belongs to my love
- I sleep around, but I only do certain things with my partner
- I sleep with whoever I want, I love whoever I want
- I have no interest in love, I just want sex
It'd be impossible for me to list all variants, especially if I were to add aspects like being open about things with your partner, asking them for permission to do things, if things are symmetrical or not…
In any case I have no objections to any of this. We're different people with different needs and if something works for them , then that's fine by me. Many people establish rules in their relationship that both partners agree on and hopefully follow.
However I noticed a particular type of attitude in the furry fandom recently where some people who are only interested in sex, get upset at those who are pursue anything with any commitment, who don't want sex with strangers, who deny approaches because they already have a partner….
These people call such individuals prudeish, old fashioned, or even outright selfish… Which to me shows a high degree of entitlement ….. I realize that calling someone "entitled" has been run into the ground in recent years, but I truly can't find a word that'd be more fitting!
Certain people just want to mess around with little commitment or rules, and that's their choice, but I'm genuinely bothered that some of them would take the fact that others wouldn't follow the same way of life as an offense.
I heard a guy who was mad that a girl wouldn't sleep with him, because she had a boyfriend, and he called it a "first world problem".
I know that it's all too easy to criticize complete prudes, but at least when they complain about others, they do it for the decency of society as a whole… Someone who complains about others not responding to their advances, and getting mad that other people want something more out of life? They only care about their own needs being satisfied.That feels so disgusting to me…
How can they call others selfish, when no other word could better describe their own behavior???
I know that whatever I write here is pretty pointless, but I truly felt the need to say that this behavior disgusts me… Again: people are free to live their own lives, but if you're mad that others aim to have something more in their existence , and thus won't play along with you, then you truly deserve to live alone and unfulfilled….
In the western world, a traditional relationship is between 2 individuals, who are married and their romantic/emotional and sexual needs are met by their respective partner. Monogamy basically.
(Yes, gender is a big element in all this too, but I don't feel like it is that important in this discussion)
There's others kinds of relationships, and instinctively some would say that it's either monogamy or polygamy, however I see many things that in my perspective do not make it such a simple binary matter.
I've seen people expand beyond one partner, and view things differently:
- I have sex with many, but I only LOVE my partner
- I have sex with a few good friends, but my heart truly belongs to my love
- I sleep around, but I only do certain things with my partner
- I sleep with whoever I want, I love whoever I want
- I have no interest in love, I just want sex
It'd be impossible for me to list all variants, especially if I were to add aspects like being open about things with your partner, asking them for permission to do things, if things are symmetrical or not…
In any case I have no objections to any of this. We're different people with different needs and if something works for them , then that's fine by me. Many people establish rules in their relationship that both partners agree on and hopefully follow.
However I noticed a particular type of attitude in the furry fandom recently where some people who are only interested in sex, get upset at those who are pursue anything with any commitment, who don't want sex with strangers, who deny approaches because they already have a partner….
These people call such individuals prudeish, old fashioned, or even outright selfish… Which to me shows a high degree of entitlement ….. I realize that calling someone "entitled" has been run into the ground in recent years, but I truly can't find a word that'd be more fitting!
Certain people just want to mess around with little commitment or rules, and that's their choice, but I'm genuinely bothered that some of them would take the fact that others wouldn't follow the same way of life as an offense.
I heard a guy who was mad that a girl wouldn't sleep with him, because she had a boyfriend, and he called it a "first world problem".
I know that it's all too easy to criticize complete prudes, but at least when they complain about others, they do it for the decency of society as a whole… Someone who complains about others not responding to their advances, and getting mad that other people want something more out of life? They only care about their own needs being satisfied.That feels so disgusting to me…
How can they call others selfish, when no other word could better describe their own behavior???
I know that whatever I write here is pretty pointless, but I truly felt the need to say that this behavior disgusts me… Again: people are free to live their own lives, but if you're mad that others aim to have something more in their existence , and thus won't play along with you, then you truly deserve to live alone and unfulfilled….
No one talks about Sex as a drug.
I like people that are not tainted, or gay old guys who actually know how to have fun and shoot shit. Life is too short, has much misery. From what I see in the future it will get worse, beyond most could comprehend, or zombie brained rear end someone's car, get out of their car screaming not knowing who they are in the middle of the road. The latter thinking it would be a few years down the line, but someone already observed this recently.
One guy complained that when he asked who'd sleep with him in a Telegram group, the only people who responded were 50 year old men, whom he called GROSS. Then when we asked him about how if he finds that unappealing, if he intends to stop sleeping around when he gets older, to which he got angry :
" Don't try to guilt-trip me! I don't plan on living that long!!!"
So that's the guy who tries to shame others, judging them... someone who doesn't think about the future, who just cares about pleasuring himself in the moment. He wants to have moral superiority over us ......... How pathetic