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A note on my social energy
2 years ago
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I meant to write a longer ver of this like a month or two or three ago, buuut figured I should atleast do a short one late instead of never:
To anyone who has asked to chat with me or I've asked if I could chat with, but the conversation hasn't really kept up, sorry. I've kinda always struggled with making new friends and staying in touch. Aaabsolutely an introvert and I kinda tire out socially veeery easily. I don't really drop chats thinking "I don't wanna talk with them anymore", it's more of a "I get worn out too easily and worry for my social powers" kind of a thing.
I really noticed this when not too long ago I wanted to ask a couple of guys about getting a commission. Had a chance, a slot was free, but after like an hour of contemplating I couldn't bring myself to shoot a message, kinda not wanting to do the whole social aspect of it all. Like uh yeah, would've loved the get some art, but yeeeah. The same with some Discord groups I've said I'm interested to join or I've been invited to, I've just been an introverted mess and not joining after all, sorry.
I don't have this problem all the time, and speaking with people I'm already familiar with is easier, and I like smalltalk IRL and talk to cashiers when doing groceries and stuff like that, but yeaaah. Uh, if there's been a long break since we last talked you're always welcome to message me again, I sometimes might not respond right away but I appreciate it regardless, thank you. I do still need my small share of being social, it's just prolly a much smaller amount than for most, and often old friends I've known for like 10+ years fill that need.
Anyway, what I mainly meant to say here is that this stuff can be difficult for me, and that I've been noticing it kiiinda getting worse. Would like to get to know more people and get more friends, but it's tough. I had a bit of a social burnout maybe a year or two ago when I tried to get to know with too many new people at once and yeah oof, I had a month or two when I just didn't really wanna open Discord or Telegram or anything.
On another note, seeing "regulars" in the comments or faving stuff whenever I upload stuff here makes me happy. I don't think I really have a close friend group here on FA like I some people listing friends on their profile, but yeah seeing the same names pop up in my notifications is nice x3 thanks
To anyone who has asked to chat with me or I've asked if I could chat with, but the conversation hasn't really kept up, sorry. I've kinda always struggled with making new friends and staying in touch. Aaabsolutely an introvert and I kinda tire out socially veeery easily. I don't really drop chats thinking "I don't wanna talk with them anymore", it's more of a "I get worn out too easily and worry for my social powers" kind of a thing.
I really noticed this when not too long ago I wanted to ask a couple of guys about getting a commission. Had a chance, a slot was free, but after like an hour of contemplating I couldn't bring myself to shoot a message, kinda not wanting to do the whole social aspect of it all. Like uh yeah, would've loved the get some art, but yeeeah. The same with some Discord groups I've said I'm interested to join or I've been invited to, I've just been an introverted mess and not joining after all, sorry.
I don't have this problem all the time, and speaking with people I'm already familiar with is easier, and I like smalltalk IRL and talk to cashiers when doing groceries and stuff like that, but yeaaah. Uh, if there's been a long break since we last talked you're always welcome to message me again, I sometimes might not respond right away but I appreciate it regardless, thank you. I do still need my small share of being social, it's just prolly a much smaller amount than for most, and often old friends I've known for like 10+ years fill that need.
Anyway, what I mainly meant to say here is that this stuff can be difficult for me, and that I've been noticing it kiiinda getting worse. Would like to get to know more people and get more friends, but it's tough. I had a bit of a social burnout maybe a year or two ago when I tried to get to know with too many new people at once and yeah oof, I had a month or two when I just didn't really wanna open Discord or Telegram or anything.
On another note, seeing "regulars" in the comments or faving stuff whenever I upload stuff here makes me happy. I don't think I really have a close friend group here on FA like I some people listing friends on their profile, but yeah seeing the same names pop up in my notifications is nice x3 thanks
Surmahurtta
~surmahurtta
Mä ymmärrän kyllä ettei introverttinä aina vaan jaksa pitää yllä aktiivista kanssakäymistä tai olla yleensä sosiaalinen. Itekin välillä ei vaan innosta, joten mua ei jonkun muun vastaava meno haittaa. Hyvä kuitenkin et toit tän esille, kerta jotkut voi ymmärtää hiljaisuuden väärin.
