I hate that nowadays people's hate of a specific fetish or a specific sexuality means that they can't possibly like the person as a person. Like, yes i am abdl, yes that part of it too but like that doesn't mean im any less of a person. It's not like it's the thing i talk about 24/7. Honestly I don't think about it at all. I think about the news and the weather and how is capitalism gonna fuck me over today just like the next person so please, unless the person does show themselves to make the worst part of themselves the biggest part of themselves, give them a chance. You may find they're worth keeping around.