I completely understand where you are coming from on this subject Firecat, and the way you feel is a natural part of relationships you have those days where you feel that the attention you are getting isnt enough but.. in all actuality it is everything you could ever want and it just hasnt hit you yet hun.. but give it some time believe me... I know the exact feeling you are having... I went through it and still am going through it but I know deep down I couldnt get anything better even if I tried.. *offers you a hug* I wouldnt let this feeling bring you down Firecat... its a natural part of the relationship..

hmm... i suppose thats true, i've had that happen afew times before where i didn't see how nice things were till later. *accepts your hug* thanks for the comment

heys anytime Firecat I am here to help out whenever you need it hehe *hugs and gives you a quick nuzzle on your cheek* but just dont let it get you down okies?

I'll try my best, and I'll keep that in mind, thank you

its not a problem Firecat..

My advice, guys can't pick up on things that well emotionally. Say something about it in a rather blunt manner, we prefer that over what we call "mind games".

yeah my family is rather blunt on matters, so i'm sure i could do that.

Thats a tough one, honestly maybe you should talk with him about it?

sure i could do that, but its always nice to get others opinions on stuff. me and him will have a talk about it tonight or tomorrow.

hmm id beleave wile he loves your persona i believe he loves the girl behind it just as much just slow on the uptake sence can't do to much sence ya live still with parents right? so it would be hard to give you all you could what if there around .

yeah we live with our dad and brother, but that doesn't stop us from doing things that we'd be doing if we lived alone.*giggles and blushes*

...now that you mention it, he does love me for sure, since we do talk about what it'd be like to have kids, and he's thrilled by the idea still, me human or not.

see. i beleave its mostly just because still live with them. if ya two get a place of your own then most deffentaly you shale get what you what. and heh by all his pics i could guess he dose. as they feel more for you then your persona hope it helps

Nobody can speak for him besides him. Me personally, I found my mate's character far FAR more attractive physically than him, but in no way, shape, form, or fantasy would I ever let that stop me from -LOVING- him any less. :3

I can say from experience that I've had similar concerns since me and my mates have only gotten together online where we always roleplay as our fursonas. However I've approached them bluntly about it(which in 9/10 situations is the way to go with typical irl males) and after much discussion and reflection I've found that our relationships are more then just how we're physically attracted to each other. There's also the emotional and intellectual levels.

Do I sometimes worry my true physical form isn't enough for them? Yes, but I figure if they're shallow enough that the other levels aren't enough for them then they aren't the people I fell in love with and if they don't like that then they can bite my shiny furry ass.

Looks like you already got some good advice. One thing you got going though is that he's your brother. So there's already that sibling love going on. He'll come around eventually. Maybe he's feeling down himself and doesn't feel like he's capable of giving you that attention. It could a be a lot of things. You'll only find out through communication. Communication and trust are two very very important elements of a successful relationship. And not just love either. All relationships.

well, from all his posts of you two together, i dont see how it could get much better. id kill to have a mate that loves me as much as he does you. also, i am also a semi-hard core furry. i can see how that would make you feel unapreciated in real life. =( but from what i can tell, he loves ya to death, and no ones perfect. you can be his perfect little vixen because perfection itself is a flaw ;) i dont exactly know how to explain that... i just know what i mean lol

yeah i know that saying and understand it

and yeah, i know he loves me

thanks for your comment

np. hang in there =)

Hm, I get where you're coming from; to me, it depends on how much you associate yourself with your fursona, and how much he associates you with it. For example, I call my mate by her fursona's name all the time, and she does to me. We're both very aware of our furriness and we love one another as much as the fursonas.

All in all, you may want to talk to him about it personally. Hiding things from your partner will be the death of you

yeah he calls me Cat all the time, even though thats not close to my name. and i've called him 'kitsu' for awhile now, but it throws him off for a sec sometimes lol.

yeah i'll be talking to him about it tonight before we go to bed

thanks for the comment

He may be more attracted to your 'sona due to the fact of how he feels towards humans, but I'm sure he loves the real you alot more <3 He CAN feel and interact with you a bit more then a picture on the screen. =P

I konw this is REALLY late but still felt the need to put my two cents in.

U know, I actually agree with that. I too have noticed that I'm actually more attracted to the furry part than the actual person sometimes. I guess thats a curse we furries have to live with. But if u ask me, that can be overcome.
Oh and I'm just a fan of ur bros art. I like his stories and style.

Fursuit.
It fixes EVERYTHING.

true that, hahaha. the cost is usually ubserd though.

And here I thought imaginary furries didn't post things on the web.

Me and my mate are the same. Just ask him, would he love you no matter what?
My mate did that for me and it helped me feel better about being what I am though I still have a long way to go b4 I reach as far as you and your mate are. I don't even know what I am. Maybe this could work for you!

i'd be concerned

if you actually existed

but seeing as you don't, there's no problem.

I just want to say that I think it is truly wonderful how you both overcome the adversities that I am sure you deal with. I wish you both the best an your brothers art is amazing I mention it all the time on my FA radio show. I hope all is well an thanks agian

Sorry for being late, but..

Well, in a relationship, a bit of "roleplay" can spice up things. Actually, it is easier to, forgive me for using the following words, easier to get aroused with a fantasy than with reality. Why is that? Because we are often unsatisfied with reality, and we want to have our "perfect world" at all costs. Some people usually doesn't accept how their partner envision them, but that is NOT your case. You envision him as his fursona, he envisions you as your fursona, you BOTH like fursonas over human.

As for wanting too much attention, it isn't a bad thing, as long as you don't go overboard with that. If he says "Not now" or "No", just be sure to not insist. And try to give him a bit of space if he ever gets out of the mood, but be sure to show that you are there for all he may need.

Speaking as a guy that is way into furries their is a whole world of difference from the furry my gf likes to be pictured as and what she is the truth of the subject is does he love a virtual program or drawing compared to the real live thing well i think it is a subject up for debate but i suggest talking to him because as much as he could love the furry on the page or internet I am sure he is like me and loves the women behind the furry much more since she is the one that inspired it in the first place.


if this is late i am sorry I just got a new account.



your truly

flint_silver

I'm sorry for the late comment. I've known both of you ever since Youkai's early art on Yiffstar.
Anyway, whether you still feel it or not, in a way you are his perfect vixen. There may not be enough attention given, and perhaps he finds another person, but even so, he's always going to love you and keep you beside him as both lover and sister. In a way, it's like you're his mate for life, and at the very least, his companion. That's a lot more than anyone else will ever get from him, so cherish it ^^

don't think stuff like that, sure in your art you two make your fursonas are in a relationship but you two in real life also are in a relationship, no body is perfect but as long as you two love eachother that's all that really matters, and yes there are people who say incest is wrong but they can go screw themselves, love is love no matter who you love, and for 2 siblings normally their first crush is for eachother since you would grow up together, think is society scares us into thinking it's wrong to have those feelings, it takes something more than lust or even normal love to push back what society thinks, and if he loves your fursona more than you then you two might not even be in a real life relationship don't let these thoughts or what society thinks separate you two, you two stay together no matter what, show the world that they can't control who someone loves