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Thanksgiving Blues
16 years ago
Well, it's that time of year again, to get disappointed at my idiotic family. Every year for the last 11 years, my husband and I go to his parents' house for Thanksgiving. And every year for the last 11 years, I have invited my parents (who live 45 minutes away from my in-laws' house). And every year, they don't come out (choosing instead to go to Furr's Cafeteria or Golden Corral).
I always get upset because I've been trying to get my families together since my husband and I got married. The first time my father met my father-in-law was last year for my graduation from the University of Oklahoma. My father usually comes up with a lame excuse (like having to change the oil in the car), my mom doesn't say anything, and I get pissed. I said to them that if they could make it, great! If not, I'm used to being disappointed and upset. Both of them actually laughed like it was a joke. I don't know why I let myself get worked up over this every year. At least I feel loved and welcomed by my husband's family, if not my own.
Sorry to bring you down if you read this, but I just felt the need to vent.
I always get upset because I've been trying to get my families together since my husband and I got married. The first time my father met my father-in-law was last year for my graduation from the University of Oklahoma. My father usually comes up with a lame excuse (like having to change the oil in the car), my mom doesn't say anything, and I get pissed. I said to them that if they could make it, great! If not, I'm used to being disappointed and upset. Both of them actually laughed like it was a joke. I don't know why I let myself get worked up over this every year. At least I feel loved and welcomed by my husband's family, if not my own.
Sorry to bring you down if you read this, but I just felt the need to vent.
bigtig
~bigtig
I guess this would be a good time to give thanks for having at least one family that loves ya.
arshes13
~arshes13
OP
Definitely. I'm so happy that I have my hubby and his family.
bigtig
~bigtig
ClosetMonster_Creations
~closetmonstercreations
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad, though, that you have one family to celebrate with that you enjoy spending time with. Perhaps if you show up one year at their place, and invite them in person? Or have you already tried that?
arshes13
~arshes13
OP
Been there, tried it. It mostly boils down to the fact that my father is an ass. My mother says year after year that she wants me to pick her up and drive her there, but when I call to see when she wants me to pick her up, she says that she's not coming out... *shrugs* I'm just going to stop asking; I'm sick of pleading with them to be a part of my life.
ClosetMonster_Creations
~closetmonstercreations
*nods, sighs* That's a sad commentary, but I understand your frustration. Perhaps Making them come to you if they're going to at all is the right way to go.
