I will never understand
2 years ago
“When you shall say, "As others do, so will I. I renounce, I am sorry for it, my early visions; I must eat the good of the land, and let learning and romantic expectations go, until a more convenient season." — then dies the man in you;” - Ralph W. Emerson
I will never understand people who just develop deep personal hatred of me for no reason. I've dealt with these people all my life and it's so confusing. Often I'm not even talking to these people but they just have to make me their business because they just deem me an "annoying person" or a "morally evil person" who needs to just not exist or something, make me feel unwelcome etc.
Unfortunately there's really nothing you can do to make people like that stop. It's just unfortunately how they are. Sad and hateful individuals and only cope by lashing out at others.
What you can do is find a strong support group. Friends, loved ones, therapists. Really anyone you can rely on and who will support your rather than tear you down. People you support and help who then help and support you in turn.
It's corny to say but, "It gets better." It's going to take effort and perseverance. If you can gather a strong support group to help you in your time of need and you help them, it will get better.
And projecting, I think. It just frustrates me, being hated for either not being understood, or being intentionally misrepresented in an attempt to remove me. It's not like I can know which. It also horrifies me to think that someone thinks of me negatively, especially to keep thinking it in private for weeks on end.
No rl friends, and family wouldn't help, but I haven't said about such to my therapist. There are a handful of people I talk to on discord, but it feels like that's crumbling. I've been supportive and friendly to several other people but it usually seems like it isn't likable for me to do that. I often doubt I am likable, and maybe the people who hate me are right, I am annoying and shitty.
I've thought about another therapist for a while. I'm just attached to this one since she's the only one I've had who didn't bully me or lacked care. I worry about cost..she has told me not to worry, I have no insurance but she says I need the help so it shouldn't cost. I've felt she hasn't really helped me much, but then again, she told me she can't help me unless I take a blood test, to know for sure if it's not something chemical or idk, and I haven't. I tried a year or so ago and when they strapped my arm down I panicked so bad when I felt my..veins.. I had to leave.
I am not a medical specialist in any way but I am deeply concerned that she requires a blood test to help you. I think you should maybe seek out another therapist, hun.