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Love your little side
2 years ago
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Being an ABDL/ Babyfur can be difficult sometimes. Surprisingly enough (for a fandom awash with kinks), wearing poofy padding can make you feel, well, ever so slightly weird. There has also been a great deal of misinformation in the past regarding how far is too far with this kind of thing - with many webmasters perpetuating harmful and demonstrably false beliefs about how far 'artistic freedom' ought to go (or, on the other side, what being into diapers or regression must automatically mean about a person).
That being said, nobody has a little side - kink or otherwise - because they fully choose to. Maybe you feel drawn to being made dependent, subservient, and embarrassed. Perhaps you want to create a second youth for yourself, complete with cuddly playmates and reliable carers. We feel crinkles calling us for a variety of reasons, and they're completely valid.
Is it worth trying to figure out why we have these desires? It certainly can be for some. For me, personally, 'realising' I wanted to step away from stress and embrace the happiness that came with cuteness and snuggles felt oddly separate from simply experiencing these wants. Mindful awareness showed a deep-routed desire to escape from thoughts of pain - of not being good enough or just unlovable.
That being said, there are downsides to embracing this path. Looking at my past self, I realise I was too focused on what I wanted - not needed, wanted - and failing to treat others as fairly as I should. I also experienced a great deal of fear after harsh criticism (thanks DeviantArt commenters) made me explore this whole thing from an outside perspective. In short, I felt I had made myself what I'd always feared I was—an unlikeable, incorrect human who deserved to be separated from everyone normal.
It took a few years, a great deal of counselling, and help from supportive friends for me to fully realise that a balance was possible. I could embrace and enjoy my little side while still being mindful of myself. I'm not quite back to who I used to be in terms of openness, but I'm getting there. And I can say now, with complete confidence, that the little side of me deserves my love and affection. Why it happens to exist is irrelevant because it doesn't need to be justified.
I'm drawing again, and I hope to expand my current gallery this year. There are a few people I stopped speaking to, either because I'd come to worry about their attitude or because I felt I'd become too much of an annoyance to them rather than a friend. By investing more time in my little side, as well as my ABDL side, I hope I can reclaim even more certainty. My 'normal' side is a lot more confident now, and I'm ready to try letting other aspects of myself out more often.
Gee, starting a new year is a great excuse to ramble, huh? X3
In short, for those of you struggling to appreciate your adorable, crinkly, snuggly-soft selves, please know that it can come with time. There are people in the fandom to avoid, but they are becoming far more of a minority. Explore yourself, be kind to yourself, and love yourself.
Love your little side - it only wants to love you in return <3
That being said, nobody has a little side - kink or otherwise - because they fully choose to. Maybe you feel drawn to being made dependent, subservient, and embarrassed. Perhaps you want to create a second youth for yourself, complete with cuddly playmates and reliable carers. We feel crinkles calling us for a variety of reasons, and they're completely valid.
Is it worth trying to figure out why we have these desires? It certainly can be for some. For me, personally, 'realising' I wanted to step away from stress and embrace the happiness that came with cuteness and snuggles felt oddly separate from simply experiencing these wants. Mindful awareness showed a deep-routed desire to escape from thoughts of pain - of not being good enough or just unlovable.
That being said, there are downsides to embracing this path. Looking at my past self, I realise I was too focused on what I wanted - not needed, wanted - and failing to treat others as fairly as I should. I also experienced a great deal of fear after harsh criticism (thanks DeviantArt commenters) made me explore this whole thing from an outside perspective. In short, I felt I had made myself what I'd always feared I was—an unlikeable, incorrect human who deserved to be separated from everyone normal.
It took a few years, a great deal of counselling, and help from supportive friends for me to fully realise that a balance was possible. I could embrace and enjoy my little side while still being mindful of myself. I'm not quite back to who I used to be in terms of openness, but I'm getting there. And I can say now, with complete confidence, that the little side of me deserves my love and affection. Why it happens to exist is irrelevant because it doesn't need to be justified.
I'm drawing again, and I hope to expand my current gallery this year. There are a few people I stopped speaking to, either because I'd come to worry about their attitude or because I felt I'd become too much of an annoyance to them rather than a friend. By investing more time in my little side, as well as my ABDL side, I hope I can reclaim even more certainty. My 'normal' side is a lot more confident now, and I'm ready to try letting other aspects of myself out more often.
Gee, starting a new year is a great excuse to ramble, huh? X3
In short, for those of you struggling to appreciate your adorable, crinkly, snuggly-soft selves, please know that it can come with time. There are people in the fandom to avoid, but they are becoming far more of a minority. Explore yourself, be kind to yourself, and love yourself.
Love your little side - it only wants to love you in return <3
I hope things have been alright, Corporate Cuddlecrinkles :P