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death of neer
a year ago
i have a lot of complicated feelings about neer's passing. i watched his blusky for a few months while he posted how his extremely life threatening symptoms were being kicked down the road over and over by doctors. how doctors charged him anyway. how we never heard about family taking him to the doctor, only fellow furries.
it's much too close to my own experience.
there's a mentality in healthcare within america that if you're "young" (read: under 55) then nothing that's wrong with you can be that serious and you can wait indefinately. that it's probably in your head or you're being dramatic or you're drinking too much coffee. they still want you to pay them to tell you this, of course, which is how neer wound up dying with a 30k hospital debt, and no treatment.
by next monday, they told him they'd have the biopsy results. he died yesterday. two days out of treatment for the biopsy. one day after i was asking him how his fevers were doing.
it's fucked up.
i've watched so many people die these last eight years, and i've almost been one of them.
the outpouring when people pass... was it there when they were alive?
because i personally know i was largely abandoned by supporters when i broke the news about cancer, and then the 'new' supporters i got also abandoned me when i 'beat' it and need to take meds for 5 more years and see doctors constantly and have a myriad of health effects.
support people while they're alive
it's easy to mourn when they're gone, but where were you when they were alive.
the system doesn't care for us
our families don't care for us
if it's not us supporting eachother, there's no support at all.
no one deserves to die in pain, in debt, being told to wait, being told they're too serious to handle at THIS hospital but just HANG TIGHT anyway even as your lungs are filling with blood to drown you.
i'm so sick of a country that doesn't see you unless you're rich, cis, het, white and old.
i'm sick of watching it kill people around me.
it doesn't feel good.
it's much too close to my own experience.
there's a mentality in healthcare within america that if you're "young" (read: under 55) then nothing that's wrong with you can be that serious and you can wait indefinately. that it's probably in your head or you're being dramatic or you're drinking too much coffee. they still want you to pay them to tell you this, of course, which is how neer wound up dying with a 30k hospital debt, and no treatment.
by next monday, they told him they'd have the biopsy results. he died yesterday. two days out of treatment for the biopsy. one day after i was asking him how his fevers were doing.
it's fucked up.
i've watched so many people die these last eight years, and i've almost been one of them.
the outpouring when people pass... was it there when they were alive?
because i personally know i was largely abandoned by supporters when i broke the news about cancer, and then the 'new' supporters i got also abandoned me when i 'beat' it and need to take meds for 5 more years and see doctors constantly and have a myriad of health effects.
support people while they're alive
it's easy to mourn when they're gone, but where were you when they were alive.
the system doesn't care for us
our families don't care for us
if it's not us supporting eachother, there's no support at all.
no one deserves to die in pain, in debt, being told to wait, being told they're too serious to handle at THIS hospital but just HANG TIGHT anyway even as your lungs are filling with blood to drown you.
i'm so sick of a country that doesn't see you unless you're rich, cis, het, white and old.
i'm sick of watching it kill people around me.
it doesn't feel good.
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