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Birthday Blues
a year ago
Maybe it's just that it falls on or around Labor Day, which I've never really seen as a big holiday, just kind of a random set of days off in September. But having consistently had family and friends simply overlook and do other things on the day, even when I do attempt to make plans for it, kind of just reinforces the melancholy I get this time of year.
My father at least texted me, everyone else I had to go out of my way to contact. Tried making plans with my mother since she lives nearby to go to some museums or something simple, but they went down to their other home like they do every month.
Like there is that simultaneous feeling of, I don't really care anymore and haven't for a long time. But also of, I kind of wish birthdays were ever a more positive experience. Like, if I hadn't gone out of my way to call people I would have gotten a single text that day even acknowledging it. My mother, despite me having brought up plans for it, completely forgot about the day.
Is it just middle child thing, is Labor day a bigger holiday than I think?
My father at least texted me, everyone else I had to go out of my way to contact. Tried making plans with my mother since she lives nearby to go to some museums or something simple, but they went down to their other home like they do every month.
Like there is that simultaneous feeling of, I don't really care anymore and haven't for a long time. But also of, I kind of wish birthdays were ever a more positive experience. Like, if I hadn't gone out of my way to call people I would have gotten a single text that day even acknowledging it. My mother, despite me having brought up plans for it, completely forgot about the day.
Is it just middle child thing, is Labor day a bigger holiday than I think?
For a long while I never liked celebrating my own birthday for similar reasons. But over time and going to therapy. I was taught that birthdays are GREAT to celebrate, if not with others, then for yourself. It allows you to look back and see how far you've come since the last year, what new things you did, challenges you overcome, even if they're small or huge. A lot of the stuff we tend to overlook as "normal everyday stuff" is actually quite impressive! Since what's "normal" day is actually mind-blowing for some, we're just used to it so we forget to celebrate it properly.
It's always good to look back and focus on how much you've grown, and the many things you did be it big or small. Getting a new job, moving, accomplishing a goal you had for a week, month, day, etc. Then looking forward, telling ourselves, "I kicked ass as a (insert previous age here), now I'm going to be an even greater (insert age here)!" Helps makes things more positive and makes us feel powerful and confident of our own lives. We are magical and powerful beings, may as well recognize that fact right? ^_^
Sometimes, birthdays can feel a bit... bleh.
One way is to maybe treat yourself to something special on that day, like buying something with money that you have set aside for the last year, or going to your favorite restaurant and so on.