I can't win...
a year ago
so I opened a canvas for the first time in a month to draw...it went somewhere...I was having fun....then it crashed, and the auto backups also didn't work. I had an outright tantrum. I have control issues. I threw shit, hurt my wrist, and broke down crying...I feel like this event is telling me I shouldn't draw and I can't have fun like everyone else can. It's not fucking fair. I already struggle enough drawing, my life has been shit and it got worse and I can't even enjoy something I'm bad at, it gets taken from me when I almost gave a fleeting moment of solace.
It hurts also because I feel like I won't be able to replicate it or come anywhere close...I will regress completely in skill now.
Please someone tell me how to feel here and cope because I just think I might give everything up altogether. Should I give up and move on from here or should I keep trying. It's so fucking hard. No one likes my art or characters, is just how it feels, I'm a ghost and I feel like everyone tip toes around my awkward ass.
I'm tired of feeling so incapable
It hurts also because I feel like I won't be able to replicate it or come anywhere close...I will regress completely in skill now.
Please someone tell me how to feel here and cope because I just think I might give everything up altogether. Should I give up and move on from here or should I keep trying. It's so fucking hard. No one likes my art or characters, is just how it feels, I'm a ghost and I feel like everyone tip toes around my awkward ass.
I'm tired of feeling so incapable
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I know how bad it is to lose all your progress due to a crash. Some programs can have crash protection built in them (Paint Tool Sai 2 actually does)
I would take time for yourself, but I would not say to move on from here.
Will see, sorry for the dramatic course this took...hope to be better
Just do what you can.
Best thing I can do to help is to side track myself and do something just like for fun without making any strings attached to it no matter how it turns out.
And yea it's hard to get art noticed nowadays if you don't spam social media with a pic like every day which sucks.
Also reason I save and backup my stuff every couple of mins. It's the worst when you lose hours of progress coz GIMP and my PC decided to potato on me.
Sono, the quality of your work is leagues ahead of mine and I can say that having full confidence in my own work. Don't do that self-depreciation thing you've done for years, it just drags you down further and I know you don't want that. :v
Take a break, scribble a bit on your own through different mediums since computers can be a bit finicky, just don't stop drawing and don't try to tell yourself that people don't like you or your content. You got this, fren.
And as to your characters, you do wonderful expressions that make them a joy to look at.
i do try, thank you, i just think i need to improve my versatility with them and stuff.
I want to share a little experience, I have been suffering in silence for 4 years thanks to a certain user, whom I was friends with, until a month ago where I decided to stay stop, and block him for good.
But the thing is that, is not fair. You give everything in your power to make things right, but despise that; life just decides to hurt you, and benefit and give good things to the person who hurt you more.
I know damn well it feels demoralizing, like nothing is worth it. You try and try, but sometimes it feels like bumping into a wall.
But here's the reality. It's not easy, it takes time. Each person goes at its own time and pace. If something doesn't work, gotta try a different approach. Look around for help, tips, other artists. Study how they do stuff, or look at their stuff and think "How can I take inspiration from this/How can this help me?"
Not everyone has it easy at first, or second. Hell, I started posting stuff back in 2013 in deviantart.
I stopped because honestly no one cared, then returned again in 2017, where still no one cared, up until a few years later.
I'm not gonna say "Numbers don't mater, just draw what you like" (Drawing what you like is important, but numbers DO mater. The thing is that sometimes they might not be high for several reasons, not because "Art is not good enough")
Just gotta keep trying, at your own pace, don't force yourself too much, if something doesn't work, try another way around it, but still practice the thing you struggle with later.
You do have a cool style with tons and tons of potential, you are not bad at all, but also remember no one will ever be perfect, that's what makes us human.
As for the crashing and not saving stuff. I'd say for you to get used to constantly "ctrl+s" to save, or take a screenshot of your progress and post it in a personal discord or personal gallery everyone once in a short while. That's what at least I do, since I also got a bit scared of the crashing happening xd
Good luck homie, wishing you the best for the future, stay strong and keep drawing!
I guess why I get so frustrated about it sometimes is Ive been unable to hit a steady pace for myself after a long time, and actually stick to being invested in keep doing it, i take long breaks be it just losing interest or just getting depressed and such. But yeah I mean, some people don't even start their art stuff till theyre older I've seen it, so I know its never quite too late for me, but I guess I want to hit that point where things dont feel as uncertain? Like Im just been lacking in confidence.
Yeah mainly I think I need a more consistent schedule and actually working on stuff more often to kinda poke my head out more for people to see stuff. Just as said its been hard lately with circumstances. To be honest I dont even expect big numbers and I dont think id really be someone to do commissions at least outside of friends, i burn out too fast lol. It just helps to have associates take a look at what I did and acknowledge it, positively or negatively.
Honestly the crash was such a bizarre turn of events, as usually I do save often, and those saves are accompanied by an auto saving every 5 minutes, which I thought was working that time, but for some reason, wasn't. So thats on me for relying on auto features, lesson learned! I tried to save to the programs cloud feature and I think what happened was my version was a couple times out of date and since it couldnt connect to a server it just closed the whole application for some reason. Letting my guard down once and thats what I got haha. Frankly I should either move back to SAI or try Krita, Medibang has snappy feel and a well tuned stabilizer thats not overbearing but it has some jank like i described. Ill think about that, im just dumb and hate dealing with complicated UI of some of the other programs lol.
Thank ya again and I will, though I may take a little break and write some stuff down for my characters first, as thats been long overdue and i want to contextualize them a bit better, give them something to do other than smut shenanigans!
All big artists do. At least the ones that care about their art and such.
I'd say to have a comfy place, something to eat, some good music or a podcast in the background. Watch some shows or movies, play some games to get inspiration.
Copy and paste images or ideas into a place you can get easy access to see them later. Make an account and check Pinterest (I have been doing that and helped me A LOT) but yeah, gotta find the best possible zone to get confortable with.
As for possible programs, I only use Paint Tool Sai 2, because I only use the most basic stuff. I have been recommended Krita (Tho a bit demanding on the computer) and Clip Studio Paint too, but I like the basic easy stuff to work with, so I stay with Sai 2 lol
Good luck homie, and take your time. All comes on it's own time.