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And doth the Drygerskunk posteth: First of all, thank you all for condolences and reaching out to me for support through this difficult time. It means a lot. I do have my older sister and some of the extended family.
Right now, there's some cleanup tasks to do. I need to hit up the nursing home one last time today to pick up one last bag of personal items. After that, I will need to sort through them, pull out the tablets and such, and go through them. I have a spare Nintendo Switch Lite, a Samsung Chromebook, a 7" iPad, and a Kindle that I'll need to clean out. I have his cell phone to disable after I shut down some accounts of his.
I've put in for an autopsy, namely because mom never got one (despite even the hospital wanting to do it but got rejected, right before the pandemic lock-downs). I owe the family that, even though there's enough evidence to point to a cause (the pneunomia he caught). It'll make me feel better that at least *some* process has been followed. I've always thought an autopsy would be performed in tragic situations. Afterwards, the body will be cremated.
Over the next few months I'll be going through his clothing, bagging it up and sending it out for donations. Gotta try and clean out the house a lot now. I now gotta straighten out the financials.
All while job hunting.
Right now, there's some cleanup tasks to do. I need to hit up the nursing home one last time today to pick up one last bag of personal items. After that, I will need to sort through them, pull out the tablets and such, and go through them. I have a spare Nintendo Switch Lite, a Samsung Chromebook, a 7" iPad, and a Kindle that I'll need to clean out. I have his cell phone to disable after I shut down some accounts of his.
I've put in for an autopsy, namely because mom never got one (despite even the hospital wanting to do it but got rejected, right before the pandemic lock-downs). I owe the family that, even though there's enough evidence to point to a cause (the pneunomia he caught). It'll make me feel better that at least *some* process has been followed. I've always thought an autopsy would be performed in tragic situations. Afterwards, the body will be cremated.
Over the next few months I'll be going through his clothing, bagging it up and sending it out for donations. Gotta try and clean out the house a lot now. I now gotta straighten out the financials.
All while job hunting.
I never had that closure, but what I saw was worse, that last time. It's not the right place to talk about it, nor the right time, but I hope I'm not out of line in saying I feel sure I've known after a fashion many of the things you're feeling now.
You're handling this better than I ever did, and again, I hope I can beg your pardon in that position. I'm proud of you, and that you're my friend.
-2Paw.
But when the emotional frisson settled, and things were a lot more even-keeled, we could see so many people who hadn't given up, got socked in the gut with that temptation but never bowed to the bullying. We know what it's like to be bullied, we both do, but we know what to do with the bullying, even if the bullies are long gone: we smile at it, even at the people who hate us, and they walk away in confusion, like the Shadow dropping out of the darkness and telling them to talk to his gloved hand.
Works for me, I figure. It's that being kind isn't moral priggishness, not really. It can look and feel like it, but in a way it's just sticking to your guns, doing right by others. Speaking up if someone's a dick to you, of course, but beyond that? If you're kind, you're kind. And that's the one thing that the enemy of kindness can't fight, when it sees the Huggernaut running its way. What does it do? Steps out of the way politely, because in the face of the inevitable, it gets its senses back and nobody gets hurt, except the lie that's yeeted out a person's backside.
I like that superpower, I do.
-2Paw.