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Asking for help finding a place to live.
11 months ago
I am writing to reach out for assistance with a difficult situation that has developed over the past few months. I never anticipated needing to make this request, but I find myself in a position where I must ask for help in securing a place to live.
To explain the situation, I need to provide some background. Over the past few months, I have been navigating personal challenges, including coming to the realization that I am asexual. Prior to understanding this about myself, I engaged in intimate activities with one of my roommates, which we both enjoyed at the time. However, as my awareness of my asexuality grew, my interest in intimacy significantly diminished. This change led to more frequent refusals, which, in turn, affected our dynamic.
After a period of reflection, I understood that my lack of desire for intimacy was a result of my asexuality. This realization caused me some distress, as I felt guilty for not recognizing it sooner, particularly because I felt I could have spared my roommate from the repeated disappointment of my rejections. Though our relationship improved after I ceased engaging in intimate acts, we eventually had a falling out after a heated argument. During that disagreement, I regretfully used hurtful language, specifically calling my roommate a derogatory term. While this was a moment of anger and frustration on my part, I deeply regret the impact it had on our relationship, and I still feel terrible for the harm caused by my words.
Since that incident, My roommate has made it clear that, should his husband pass away or require long-term care, I would be asked to leave. Given his husband's ongoing health issues, this threat of eviction has become a pressing concern. I am currently looking for alternative living arrangements, but the options available to me are limited.
I have reached out to several local shelters; however, many of the resources I contacted are either located in different cities or are limited to specific groups, such as families or abuse survivors. The only option that appears viable is a shelter that offers shared accommodations with very basic amenities, including no private rooms, limited personal belongings, and restrictions on food and pet ownership. This situation would not be ideal, and I would likely have to give up my pet, Hunter, which would be incredibly difficult for me.
In light of these circumstances, I am reaching out to ask if anyone might be able to offer me and Hunter a place to stay. I have a guaranteed income through SSI and am able to pay rent, as well as contribute for any transportation expenses. I understand this is an unusual request, but I am doing my best to prepare for the possibility of being forced to leave my current home.
Lastly, I would like to clarify that I do not harbor any ill will toward My roommate, despite the unfortunate fallout. I take full responsibility for my actions in that situation and do not wish to speak negatively of him. This message is simply my way of explaining the current state of things, as I need to make preparations for the future.
There is something else to note, to anyone who offers to take me in. I am usually pretty quiet. I tend to spend a lot of time keeping to myself, either online or playing video games. This does not mean I won't go outside to do things with anyone who would want to go places with me. In fact, I would be very happy to be included in outings with others, because I never really get to, owing to where I currently live. Being online and playing games are just simply what I often do when I'm left to myself.
Thank you for your time and consideration.
To explain the situation, I need to provide some background. Over the past few months, I have been navigating personal challenges, including coming to the realization that I am asexual. Prior to understanding this about myself, I engaged in intimate activities with one of my roommates, which we both enjoyed at the time. However, as my awareness of my asexuality grew, my interest in intimacy significantly diminished. This change led to more frequent refusals, which, in turn, affected our dynamic.
After a period of reflection, I understood that my lack of desire for intimacy was a result of my asexuality. This realization caused me some distress, as I felt guilty for not recognizing it sooner, particularly because I felt I could have spared my roommate from the repeated disappointment of my rejections. Though our relationship improved after I ceased engaging in intimate acts, we eventually had a falling out after a heated argument. During that disagreement, I regretfully used hurtful language, specifically calling my roommate a derogatory term. While this was a moment of anger and frustration on my part, I deeply regret the impact it had on our relationship, and I still feel terrible for the harm caused by my words.
Since that incident, My roommate has made it clear that, should his husband pass away or require long-term care, I would be asked to leave. Given his husband's ongoing health issues, this threat of eviction has become a pressing concern. I am currently looking for alternative living arrangements, but the options available to me are limited.
I have reached out to several local shelters; however, many of the resources I contacted are either located in different cities or are limited to specific groups, such as families or abuse survivors. The only option that appears viable is a shelter that offers shared accommodations with very basic amenities, including no private rooms, limited personal belongings, and restrictions on food and pet ownership. This situation would not be ideal, and I would likely have to give up my pet, Hunter, which would be incredibly difficult for me.
In light of these circumstances, I am reaching out to ask if anyone might be able to offer me and Hunter a place to stay. I have a guaranteed income through SSI and am able to pay rent, as well as contribute for any transportation expenses. I understand this is an unusual request, but I am doing my best to prepare for the possibility of being forced to leave my current home.
Lastly, I would like to clarify that I do not harbor any ill will toward My roommate, despite the unfortunate fallout. I take full responsibility for my actions in that situation and do not wish to speak negatively of him. This message is simply my way of explaining the current state of things, as I need to make preparations for the future.
There is something else to note, to anyone who offers to take me in. I am usually pretty quiet. I tend to spend a lot of time keeping to myself, either online or playing video games. This does not mean I won't go outside to do things with anyone who would want to go places with me. In fact, I would be very happy to be included in outings with others, because I never really get to, owing to where I currently live. Being online and playing games are just simply what I often do when I'm left to myself.
Thank you for your time and consideration.
You might try contacting your county's Aging and Family Services department and inquire as to what would be necessary to qualify as a live-in housekeeper.
You would probably need to take a course and get certified in CPR, and probably also have to get some sort of certification to prove you're on the level and trustworthy.
The job should pay minimum wage, which might impact your SSI. The other way to do this is to advertise in the local papers/Craig's List or whatever, to get private employment. Since you have SSI, and would be living in/renting a room, you could ask for a small compensation, which would make you very attractive to the people who want to find a live-in for an elderly parent.
You would, of course, also need to be trustworthy with a capital T. And, get along with the client.
If you don't want to be an actual home care provider, you could just advertise for a rented room. There are also people who have an extra bedroom they wouldn't mind renting out for a few hundred a month.
With this option, you need to vet THEM. Make sure they're not flakes, that sort of thing.
Good luck, Bobby.
I saw recently that, in Japan, where there is a substantial aging population, they are trying to pair seniors living alone with students.
If you don't know anybody, you could make enquiries at the local Senior Center. You don't have to be a caregiver if that is not something you feel comfortable with; you could just be a live-in companion.
If you're paying rent, rather than getting paid, that could make you an even more attractive option to a family who needs someone to be there with their elder when they can't.
I've had rotten luck finding farm sitters in the past--to the extent that my husband and I don't go anywhere anymore, after out "best" farmsitter got married and moved to Japan. Granted, we have sheep and guineafowl and big dogs to care for, but we need people who would be here all the time while we're away, and not just drop in for a half an hour once a day to feed the dogs. So our situation is unique, but reliable petsitters are always in demand.
The plus of house sitting is you get paid for it.
Actually, I just Googled it...there are in fact companies, you'd want to check in your area, though for local results.