I think one of the most cruel and hurtful revelations one can experience is to realize that entire years or even decades of their life have been stolen from them, that the crucial formative moments that facilitate growth either never happened or were poisoned, leaving you maimed and broken.

Still, this revelation is important because after you get it, you can identify what is missing and work out the tools and ways of reclaiming those stolen things. Gradually, step by step, regrowing yourself into the person you should have been and who you probably always were deep down.