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Help needed with moving/starting over
6 months ago
You can help by donating through my ko-fi. I've set the goal bit on the higher end, anything at all will help a ton
https://ko-fi.com/cardboardhead
So quick rundown of my life as of late, I've been talking about it a few times, but here it is again briefly
I immigrated from Finland to US 8 years ago to be with my now ex-wife. I have a legal status here and it's not dependent on my ex (no, I'm not afraid to be here, please don't worry about me in that sense).
Last July me and my ex moved cross country from Missouri to Rhode Island to pursue a better life etc.
Things instantly went to shit, and few months after the move I discovered I had been cheated on for the past 3-4 years.
There was no coming back from it and we broke up, divorce to follow later this year.
It's been an amicable enough split, but things got to a point where it's no longer good for my mental health to live with my ex; the humiliation and hurt is too much.
We did agree on polyamory for the last year of the relationship, and I've been dating someone additional since. My partner agreed to try out living together. They're also Going Through It on their own end. This will be a big new start for both of us.
We needed to get a vehicle in the midst of all of this; the car has been funded and 100% paid for now, thanks to all the people commissioning the thigh up pieces the past month, can't thank you enough!
My earliest exit is on April when partner's lease is ending. We weren't expecting this to happen so fast, but we suddenly secured our new apartment just this week, and can move in toward the end of March.
Now, things are getting tight financially and this is the point of this journal.
I'm reaching out for some community help, anything at all will go far right now.
So, we are up for the expected security deposit and first and last month rent. Then there's the move itself, it's not a long distance move, about 2hours from RI to Connecticut. We need to rent an uhaul + hire some help to haul everything to the truck from two different locations and then to the new apartment.
I'm personally also going to be up for double rent for 2 months for the place I'm leaving from ($950/month) + some lingering utilities for the end of march (can't tell the amount for sure yet, but gas sure is pricy so $200 up to $400?). And this is mainly the part where I need the additional help with - I am willing to do lot of extra work to help fund the move things, but unsure if I can get enough to fund ALSO the additional rent - while also preparing to start paying normal costs for the new place.
And this is also of course all happening during tax season - which I cannot pay for in full as things are right now.
We are both also in debt from our respective previous moves (partner also had a long distance move within the last year). And having to purchase the vehicle suddenly has also set us back a bit (aka haven't been able to save as much toward the move)
But yeah, rounding back to; anything at all will go a long way. And be on the lookout for the additional work I'm gonna be offering. I'll be posting about these on my socials (twitter/bsky) so if you can't help monetarily, just sharing the post will help a lot. Thank you for reading. I hope this is the first and last time I need to reach out like this.
I take a lot of pride on being able to stand on my own, but a lot has gone completely wrong in the past 8 months and I just need a little push to get over this one last hump.
- - -
I'm going to roll out the song sketch stuff I've been talking about next week - if you'd like to get something in turn for your money. I just need time to set up everything for it (going to handle it through forms and need to create a public queue for it etc etc). But yes, more on that later!
As a reminder of what a 'song sketch' is and few examples from few years ago:
Idea of these was, customer gave me a character ref and a song to accompany it along with few keywords, I would create a piece over this.
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/51410545/
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/51410285/
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/50331309/
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/50292730/
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/51010882/
https://ko-fi.com/cardboardhead
So quick rundown of my life as of late, I've been talking about it a few times, but here it is again briefly
I immigrated from Finland to US 8 years ago to be with my now ex-wife. I have a legal status here and it's not dependent on my ex (no, I'm not afraid to be here, please don't worry about me in that sense).
Last July me and my ex moved cross country from Missouri to Rhode Island to pursue a better life etc.
Things instantly went to shit, and few months after the move I discovered I had been cheated on for the past 3-4 years.
There was no coming back from it and we broke up, divorce to follow later this year.
It's been an amicable enough split, but things got to a point where it's no longer good for my mental health to live with my ex; the humiliation and hurt is too much.
We did agree on polyamory for the last year of the relationship, and I've been dating someone additional since. My partner agreed to try out living together. They're also Going Through It on their own end. This will be a big new start for both of us.
We needed to get a vehicle in the midst of all of this; the car has been funded and 100% paid for now, thanks to all the people commissioning the thigh up pieces the past month, can't thank you enough!
My earliest exit is on April when partner's lease is ending. We weren't expecting this to happen so fast, but we suddenly secured our new apartment just this week, and can move in toward the end of March.
Now, things are getting tight financially and this is the point of this journal.
I'm reaching out for some community help, anything at all will go far right now.
So, we are up for the expected security deposit and first and last month rent. Then there's the move itself, it's not a long distance move, about 2hours from RI to Connecticut. We need to rent an uhaul + hire some help to haul everything to the truck from two different locations and then to the new apartment.
I'm personally also going to be up for double rent for 2 months for the place I'm leaving from ($950/month) + some lingering utilities for the end of march (can't tell the amount for sure yet, but gas sure is pricy so $200 up to $400?). And this is mainly the part where I need the additional help with - I am willing to do lot of extra work to help fund the move things, but unsure if I can get enough to fund ALSO the additional rent - while also preparing to start paying normal costs for the new place.
And this is also of course all happening during tax season - which I cannot pay for in full as things are right now.
We are both also in debt from our respective previous moves (partner also had a long distance move within the last year). And having to purchase the vehicle suddenly has also set us back a bit (aka haven't been able to save as much toward the move)
But yeah, rounding back to; anything at all will go a long way. And be on the lookout for the additional work I'm gonna be offering. I'll be posting about these on my socials (twitter/bsky) so if you can't help monetarily, just sharing the post will help a lot. Thank you for reading. I hope this is the first and last time I need to reach out like this.
I take a lot of pride on being able to stand on my own, but a lot has gone completely wrong in the past 8 months and I just need a little push to get over this one last hump.
- - -
I'm going to roll out the song sketch stuff I've been talking about next week - if you'd like to get something in turn for your money. I just need time to set up everything for it (going to handle it through forms and need to create a public queue for it etc etc). But yes, more on that later!
As a reminder of what a 'song sketch' is and few examples from few years ago:
Idea of these was, customer gave me a character ref and a song to accompany it along with few keywords, I would create a piece over this.
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/51410545/
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/51410285/
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/50331309/
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/50292730/
https://www.furaffinity.net/view/51010882/
And hoping so too, and I think things will be picking up a lot after we've moved and settled in to our new place.
Wishing the best for you dear.
Yeah it's.. feels bit heavy to 'start over' twice in less than a year, bit differently both times but can this please stop :') But I'm hopeful for the future, things will be okay!
It won't be first come first serve thing, I'll be opening a form for it (because I need to take in a good number of them, so easier to handle the amount of information) and keep it open for X amount of time (to be determined). Can't tell of course how the turnout is gonna look like, so have to see if I can work on every single one, or if do them in batches or do some cutting etc.
If you open up for song sketches I've got an wonderful picturesque one picked out.