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3 months ago
Im in a desperate situation.
A lot has been going on recently.
My dad has decided to uproot everything and bring his Gold-digger new "wife" (not even sure if they are legitimate, its likely not) to the house, who will be moving in sometime in an undefined amount of time, possibly a few months.
This is forcing me to move everything into a tiny living space of 2 bedrooms and a bathroom in a tiny part of the house while she turns the room I was using back into the "family room"
This is the same woman who got a drug addict to break into the house and shoot at me through our locked hallway door, barely missing me and mom.
She is hostile towards mom and Will find whatever excuse she can to cause problems, and Dad has already made it clear if we don't keep the house "Christian and peaceful" then he's going to "force someone to leave" implying mom.
That alone is a volatile and hostile environment to live in, with no room for privacy or space.
Now, my sister's first Ex just came by the house, who was in prison for 20 years for multiple counts of R^pe, trying to scope the house and find where my sister and her kids are. Told him I haven't been in contact with my sister in years and had no idea where she lives. He almost did not want to leave, implying I was a liar because "its family, you know where they are."
I no longer feel safe here. Never really felt safe, but now I feel I am in immediate danger and need to get out as quickly as possible.
I am currently trying to find a place to live, but if anyone can lend support, spread the word, or just... listen and not be silent, I would appreciate it.
I'm afraid and I cannot do this alone.
If you can help, go to https://ko-fi.com/devoutnumelran
Edit: Following the Journal update:
Took out a $12,000 loan to use primarily to pay for the Downpayments for a plot of Land, and then a modular home. As after hours of research ive Come to the conclusion a cheap land and financing a modular home is cheaper than Rent, and better to live in than a run down condemned house on the cheap.
edit 2: Modular home option is a minimum of $1000-1200 per month, not including downpayments. Also I cannot legally use the $12,000 towards any down payments. Back to square one.
A lot has been going on recently.
My dad has decided to uproot everything and bring his Gold-digger new "wife" (not even sure if they are legitimate, its likely not) to the house, who will be moving in sometime in an undefined amount of time, possibly a few months.
This is forcing me to move everything into a tiny living space of 2 bedrooms and a bathroom in a tiny part of the house while she turns the room I was using back into the "family room"
This is the same woman who got a drug addict to break into the house and shoot at me through our locked hallway door, barely missing me and mom.
She is hostile towards mom and Will find whatever excuse she can to cause problems, and Dad has already made it clear if we don't keep the house "Christian and peaceful" then he's going to "force someone to leave" implying mom.
That alone is a volatile and hostile environment to live in, with no room for privacy or space.
Now, my sister's first Ex just came by the house, who was in prison for 20 years for multiple counts of R^pe, trying to scope the house and find where my sister and her kids are. Told him I haven't been in contact with my sister in years and had no idea where she lives. He almost did not want to leave, implying I was a liar because "its family, you know where they are."
I no longer feel safe here. Never really felt safe, but now I feel I am in immediate danger and need to get out as quickly as possible.
I am currently trying to find a place to live, but if anyone can lend support, spread the word, or just... listen and not be silent, I would appreciate it.
I'm afraid and I cannot do this alone.
If you can help, go to https://ko-fi.com/devoutnumelran
Edit: Following the Journal update:
Took out a $12,000 loan to use primarily to pay for the Downpayments for a plot of Land, and then a modular home. As after hours of research ive Come to the conclusion a cheap land and financing a modular home is cheaper than Rent, and better to live in than a run down condemned house on the cheap.
edit 2: Modular home option is a minimum of $1000-1200 per month, not including downpayments. Also I cannot legally use the $12,000 towards any down payments. Back to square one.
Where are the damn cops to arrest that madman!? Doesn't that count as domestic abuse!?
Please be safe! I'll share this journal on my server!
At best I expect all that would accomplish is being officially kicked out and cops just saying we should leave.
Its a difficult situation.
He should not be in your family if he try put you all in danger like that.
They aren't my family. Im just stuck here because I have nowhere else to go.
Its more like being stuck in an abusive relationship where its here or the streets.
I hope you'll get your space soon.
Sincerely,
The Cheshire Cat's Master
To try and simplify it:
- Robert pays the house note and 90% of bills.
- I pay the internet bill only me and mom really use. Robert never uses it except for like... job searching and applications once a year or so.
- Robert, for all sense, believes he has sole say in all things house related, including who lives there.
- Robert wants his gold digger new "wife" to be "happy" and that means she gets whatever little thing she wants.
- The Punishment for not going along with it or "causing issues" is mom just gets kicked out. Im not in as much danger with homelessness but I dont feel safe with these people in general.
- Usually legally Im pretty sure they'd just ask us to leave if we can. not much else we can do about it.
If you can, get out of there. I don't know whats your country's, but if you can leave this house, do it. Find a place you can truly call home. You have people online who cares for you.
But I really do hope things end up as best thry can :c
The least I can do however is donate to you to give you a helping hand
I appreciate the help tho.
New Zealand
Australia
England
Peaceful and beautiful
We drive on the "right side" of the road
I wouldn't consider England safe in the European current times.
Australia has lots of wildlife and temperatures over 110.F in certain areas but it's cheap and work is fair.
New Zealand is not so bad very beautiful but price-wise is well dearer
Just learn to drive on the left side
My sister and I are on good terms but she lives in a completely different city and we don't really talk.
If you live in the US though, I would also get a good quality fire arm and read up on self defense laws in your area, mainly because of the ex rapist. Hopefully you will never have to use it, but it is better to have and not need it, rather than need it and not have it.
Insanity :/
Since you're in the US, at minimum, you and your mother have tenancy. This means your dad can't simply kick either of you out. You would have to be evicted, meaning being given 30 days' notice, and potentially going to court. I don't know the details of that, but it's something you should look into. I know you want to leave, and you should, but knowing that he can't pull the rug out from under you should provide some stability. (If you receive mail with your name on it, make sure you keep some around or do something else to prove you actually live there).
Another thing is who legally owns the house? I bring this up because you mentioned he's paying for the house. I could see a situation where you and your mother think it's his house and he can do what he wants, but the law sees the house as belonging to both him and your mother equally, and he doesn't have nearly the authority you all think he does.
1. Is your mom's name on the title, or just your dad's? If both names are on it, both of them own it regardless of who's paying for it, unless some sort of agreement exists.
2. Were your mom and dad ever married at any point when they owned the house? If so, that would've made the house a "marital asset" (when two people get married, their stuff is pooled together, and they both own all of it.) If that's the case, how were things divided when they split?
3. Highly unlikely, but just in case, are they still married? In this unlikely situation, it's her house as much as it is his, and his infidelity would be a major issue for him.
I'm sure you know, but I feel the need to point out that none of these actions (which are all his) are proper actions of a Christian home. A heart to heart with his/your priest or pastor about what's going on at home, and the strain it's putting on you or your mother might bring you some peace, might bring him some well-deserved shame, and the church may also be willing to help you and your mother relocate. Especially if he's the good Christian at church, menace at home type.
I hope your and your mother's situations improve. I'll be praying for you both.
She claims he got everything but the car, but now always says she owns half the house too.
Right now im putting what I can towards downpayments.