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a week ago
You are enough, and you got to start saying that to yourself daily.
And you can always do so many things to improve your life situation!
But I know sometimes your resources are absolutely spent and you are just in a cycle of coping to exist.
You have to break free of that cycle, with small steps towards the better life that you want.
I will recommend you guys 3 books that have affected my life positively over the past few years:
Atomic Habits - by James Clear
You cannot summon up motivation forever to do the things you want, you have to make these things a routine. A routine does not require you to put a lot of efford or thinking into doing something, it just requires you plan something realistic ahead of time and just execute this plan on a regular basis till it becomes automatic and effortless to start.
Like after not moving for a long time, exercising feels like shit for the first 2 weeks you do it, but then you might start to enjoy it and it becomes a hobby you do for a lifetime.
And you gotta start easy, and build up over that.
Just 10 min of exercise or learning a new language daily, is better than none and it will build up over time and soon you might be so into the hobby that you spend hours on it weekly.
You also gotta make your bad habits harder to do, if you know there is something you dont want to do, like eat unhealthy snaks, you just dont buy them or bring them to your home. The book teaches great methods.
Glucose Revolution - by Jessie Inchauspe
This book has turned around my way of eating and I feel much better and healthier. Simplified: it tells you to eat your food in the right order: To have vegetables first, then proteines and fat and always lastly your carbs. But you don't have more carbs than you had vegetables as a starter. This way you reduce the harmful glucose spike and have less insulin in your body. As having too much insulin all the time in your body is what causes majority of national diseases: type 2 diabetes, heart diseases, joint pains etc. Having high bloodsugar causes inflammation in the body and can make it harder for your immune system to fight off germs, cancer cells and get rid of all the toxins you build up daily.
Really good video on the same subject:
Insulin Doctor: The Fastest Way To Burn Dangerous Visceral Fat
https://youtu.be/gryta3KZKU4?si=98AdVPWkBYnliGhR
Dr. Pradip Jamnadas explains on the video the same subject as Jessie Inchauspe in her book, but his approach is more towards fasting and limiting the amount of insulin spikes you have in the day.
I've been testing 18/6 fasting for the last 3 weeks, so breaking my fast after 2pm and having another meal before 8pm and then fasting the 18h. I am definitely losing some stubborn fat I've had for years, which I am happy of and I will keep this up as long as it feels comfortable. I dont get hungry when I fast, which makes this easy but I also dont want to lose any muscle, so I take EAA (Essential Amino Acids), electrolytes and exercice daily during my eating hours.
Fasting I would not reccomend for someone who is on medication, especially insulin. You'd have to plan things out with your doc and be under surveillance.
The Power of Now - by Eckhart Tolle
This book teaches you that you are not your mind/ego. Your ego is a defense mechanism that is supposed to keep you safe, but in the modern world it often turns against you: it makes you wallow in self pity, it says everyone is against you and out to get you etc.
The book teaches you to become the observer of your ego, so you can choose how you react to it's nonsense. Only by accepting and letting go of the negative words it tells you, will you be eventually free of the ego. You are not your mind, your mind is supposed to be a tool you pick up when you need it and put on the shelve when you dont. If you let your mind tell you horror stories of the future or dwell in the negative things in the past, then you are not incontrol of it.
The book in my opinion focuses too much on mediation and trying to stay in the "Now" when the fact is most of us dont have the time nor energy to stay in the Now all the time, to silence a negative ego/painbody.
You of course first need to learn to listen and feel your body, and to distinguish what is your ego's negative view and whats actually real.
Really good video on the same subject:
Therapy in a Nutshell -
Intrusive Thoughts and Overthinking: The Skill of Cognitive Defusion 20/30
https://youtu.be/V3vhXQy48jo?si=AKz-ffWjczb-gF4a
Giving your negative ego a name can be helpful, like calling it Billy Bob, at 10:28 XD
But I think instead of just avoiding the ego, you have to actively start to reform your ego into a supportive system for yourself. This starts by saying good things to yourself daily in your head, over time it becomes a good automatic habit.
You have thousands of thoughts in your head daily, and if most of them are negative, it is exhausting to live with your ego.
So you gotta accept and let go of the negative words, know they are not true and start giving yourself the love and support you deserve by saying to yourself daily:
- I love myself, I am enough
- I dont have to be perfect, I deserve my love even with flaws
- I am doing the best that I can to improve, even if it is just a small thing
- Well done dear, you are doing amazing
- Its ok to fail, you need to fail to grow
Make your own words, make them suit for you, make them believable and supportive to you.
You need to learn to essentially selfsoothe, something so many of us did not learn to do as kids, cos our parents didnt know how to do it for themselves.
And you need to talk to yourself better than you would to a boy/girlfriend, cos you are your loved one and you certainly will always be there for yourself for the rest of your life, so why not take good care of yourself.
You are amazing, you deserve your love, you are enough!
You will improve over time and are capable to achieve anything you put your mind to and work towards.
You also have only one body, and you might be angry at your body for some features, you'd want to be different. But your body is doing amazing things everyday to keep you alive. It is fighting off so many things, from mold to bacteria to viruses, to filtering toxins and covering up microplastic inside cocoons, which forever remain in your body. What your body then needs, is not negativity, shaming and stress from you, it needs your love and care.
Food can be your medicine or your poison, educate yourself and give your body what it needs. Getting good gut microbes and a steady glucose levels will affect your mental health positively as well. Start avoiding sugar and processed food as much as you can. Eat lots of vegetables and clean protein. Get omega 3 fats but avoid too much omega 6 and 9, which are found in seed oils, why? Cos it causes inflammation:
https://youtu.be/wGrWznkQWpE?si=lRz.....K92&t=1852
at 30:52
Big issue with capitalism is, people are making a lot of money keeping you sick: first making you sick with addictive sugar, which is put in everything and then selling you insulin as you get type 2 diabetes or other diaseases beacause of it.
Sugar companies use today the same tactics as the tobacco companies in history, by lobbying with covernments, spreading misinformation, influencing scientific research to shift blame for health problems, like obesity, to fats, and marketing highly addictive, palatable, crunchy, chewy, carb heavy products to us all.
Good fat is needed, your brain is mostly fat, if you are on a low fat diet, with medication that strips away fat from your brains, alzheimer's or parkinson's is knocking on your door.
Good fat sources are: Fish, Nuts, Butter, Ghee, Olive oil and Coconut oil.
I could go on about this but I am not the best figuring out what is right for you. You need to learn to listen to your body. Not every food item is good for everyone, but I can say sugar is bad for everyone, it causes depression and so many diseases, so learn to protect yourself from too much of it.
To feel good you need to have a balance in your body, mind and social life. Take good care of yourself and practice gratefulness, there is always more to be grateful about, in this moment.
And you can always do so many things to improve your life situation!
But I know sometimes your resources are absolutely spent and you are just in a cycle of coping to exist.
You have to break free of that cycle, with small steps towards the better life that you want.
I will recommend you guys 3 books that have affected my life positively over the past few years:
Atomic Habits - by James Clear
You cannot summon up motivation forever to do the things you want, you have to make these things a routine. A routine does not require you to put a lot of efford or thinking into doing something, it just requires you plan something realistic ahead of time and just execute this plan on a regular basis till it becomes automatic and effortless to start.
Like after not moving for a long time, exercising feels like shit for the first 2 weeks you do it, but then you might start to enjoy it and it becomes a hobby you do for a lifetime.
And you gotta start easy, and build up over that.
Just 10 min of exercise or learning a new language daily, is better than none and it will build up over time and soon you might be so into the hobby that you spend hours on it weekly.
You also gotta make your bad habits harder to do, if you know there is something you dont want to do, like eat unhealthy snaks, you just dont buy them or bring them to your home. The book teaches great methods.
Glucose Revolution - by Jessie Inchauspe
This book has turned around my way of eating and I feel much better and healthier. Simplified: it tells you to eat your food in the right order: To have vegetables first, then proteines and fat and always lastly your carbs. But you don't have more carbs than you had vegetables as a starter. This way you reduce the harmful glucose spike and have less insulin in your body. As having too much insulin all the time in your body is what causes majority of national diseases: type 2 diabetes, heart diseases, joint pains etc. Having high bloodsugar causes inflammation in the body and can make it harder for your immune system to fight off germs, cancer cells and get rid of all the toxins you build up daily.
Really good video on the same subject:
Insulin Doctor: The Fastest Way To Burn Dangerous Visceral Fat
https://youtu.be/gryta3KZKU4?si=98AdVPWkBYnliGhR
Dr. Pradip Jamnadas explains on the video the same subject as Jessie Inchauspe in her book, but his approach is more towards fasting and limiting the amount of insulin spikes you have in the day.
I've been testing 18/6 fasting for the last 3 weeks, so breaking my fast after 2pm and having another meal before 8pm and then fasting the 18h. I am definitely losing some stubborn fat I've had for years, which I am happy of and I will keep this up as long as it feels comfortable. I dont get hungry when I fast, which makes this easy but I also dont want to lose any muscle, so I take EAA (Essential Amino Acids), electrolytes and exercice daily during my eating hours.
Fasting I would not reccomend for someone who is on medication, especially insulin. You'd have to plan things out with your doc and be under surveillance.
The Power of Now - by Eckhart Tolle
This book teaches you that you are not your mind/ego. Your ego is a defense mechanism that is supposed to keep you safe, but in the modern world it often turns against you: it makes you wallow in self pity, it says everyone is against you and out to get you etc.
The book teaches you to become the observer of your ego, so you can choose how you react to it's nonsense. Only by accepting and letting go of the negative words it tells you, will you be eventually free of the ego. You are not your mind, your mind is supposed to be a tool you pick up when you need it and put on the shelve when you dont. If you let your mind tell you horror stories of the future or dwell in the negative things in the past, then you are not incontrol of it.
The book in my opinion focuses too much on mediation and trying to stay in the "Now" when the fact is most of us dont have the time nor energy to stay in the Now all the time, to silence a negative ego/painbody.
You of course first need to learn to listen and feel your body, and to distinguish what is your ego's negative view and whats actually real.
Really good video on the same subject:
Therapy in a Nutshell -
Intrusive Thoughts and Overthinking: The Skill of Cognitive Defusion 20/30
https://youtu.be/V3vhXQy48jo?si=AKz-ffWjczb-gF4a
Giving your negative ego a name can be helpful, like calling it Billy Bob, at 10:28 XD
But I think instead of just avoiding the ego, you have to actively start to reform your ego into a supportive system for yourself. This starts by saying good things to yourself daily in your head, over time it becomes a good automatic habit.
You have thousands of thoughts in your head daily, and if most of them are negative, it is exhausting to live with your ego.
So you gotta accept and let go of the negative words, know they are not true and start giving yourself the love and support you deserve by saying to yourself daily:
- I love myself, I am enough
- I dont have to be perfect, I deserve my love even with flaws
- I am doing the best that I can to improve, even if it is just a small thing
- Well done dear, you are doing amazing
- Its ok to fail, you need to fail to grow
Make your own words, make them suit for you, make them believable and supportive to you.
You need to learn to essentially selfsoothe, something so many of us did not learn to do as kids, cos our parents didnt know how to do it for themselves.
And you need to talk to yourself better than you would to a boy/girlfriend, cos you are your loved one and you certainly will always be there for yourself for the rest of your life, so why not take good care of yourself.
You are amazing, you deserve your love, you are enough!
You will improve over time and are capable to achieve anything you put your mind to and work towards.
You also have only one body, and you might be angry at your body for some features, you'd want to be different. But your body is doing amazing things everyday to keep you alive. It is fighting off so many things, from mold to bacteria to viruses, to filtering toxins and covering up microplastic inside cocoons, which forever remain in your body. What your body then needs, is not negativity, shaming and stress from you, it needs your love and care.
Food can be your medicine or your poison, educate yourself and give your body what it needs. Getting good gut microbes and a steady glucose levels will affect your mental health positively as well. Start avoiding sugar and processed food as much as you can. Eat lots of vegetables and clean protein. Get omega 3 fats but avoid too much omega 6 and 9, which are found in seed oils, why? Cos it causes inflammation:
https://youtu.be/wGrWznkQWpE?si=lRz.....K92&t=1852
at 30:52
Big issue with capitalism is, people are making a lot of money keeping you sick: first making you sick with addictive sugar, which is put in everything and then selling you insulin as you get type 2 diabetes or other diaseases beacause of it.
Sugar companies use today the same tactics as the tobacco companies in history, by lobbying with covernments, spreading misinformation, influencing scientific research to shift blame for health problems, like obesity, to fats, and marketing highly addictive, palatable, crunchy, chewy, carb heavy products to us all.
Good fat is needed, your brain is mostly fat, if you are on a low fat diet, with medication that strips away fat from your brains, alzheimer's or parkinson's is knocking on your door.
Good fat sources are: Fish, Nuts, Butter, Ghee, Olive oil and Coconut oil.
I could go on about this but I am not the best figuring out what is right for you. You need to learn to listen to your body. Not every food item is good for everyone, but I can say sugar is bad for everyone, it causes depression and so many diseases, so learn to protect yourself from too much of it.
To feel good you need to have a balance in your body, mind and social life. Take good care of yourself and practice gratefulness, there is always more to be grateful about, in this moment.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0y6wiBzPMSI
https://dailystoic.com/stoic-response-grief/
There are bad things in life I know I must one day face, like the loss of a loved one, and its not something I want to think about. But I know I will pull thru what ever happens cos I am there to support myself, I love myself and I have people around me I know I can rely on. With a healthy foundation you can get thru this game of life and enjoy as it plays along. And we should show our love to our loved ones when we still have them around. But we cannot be paralyzed by the fear of losing them or anything material either, one day we will have to give up everything anyway, but lets enjoy it while we have it and try to make life around us as good as we can. Learn to know yourself and what you like in life.