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a day ago
just kinda reaching out wherever i possibly can--as mentioned before, coronary heart surgery on my ma, gonna have to return to caregiving, but i don't think i can handle this level of rehabilitation
i wanted to like, ask if anyone of you have had experience signing your elders TEMPORARILY over to a convalescent home (i've called local places and they do say they have helped pre-op CABG recoverees, once they're out of the hospital)
this may be like, the dumbest thing ever of me to ask but i'm genuinely serious; i know her insurance can most likely cover it, but it's also more so the morality of it
so my question is now, is that a viable approach to this, because i'm gonna have some VERY patchy help with it, and i've been told by the nurses and doctors that it'll be a 24/7 maintenance for months. i said before, just was a caregiver for 9 months of chemotherapy and watched a man slowly melt into his grave; i don't, don't, don't want this--not just because it's gonna be consuming, but also because i can get into a panicked state
maybe it's a loaded question cos i guess it's so i can be told what i Wanna hear, but i need to know if y'all have had HEALTHY success letting professional social workers help bypass patients rehabilitate before coming home?
sorry for all the excess drama and me-me-me stuff :') i promise i plan to drawwww soon-ish-maybe-who-knows
i wanted to like, ask if anyone of you have had experience signing your elders TEMPORARILY over to a convalescent home (i've called local places and they do say they have helped pre-op CABG recoverees, once they're out of the hospital)
this may be like, the dumbest thing ever of me to ask but i'm genuinely serious; i know her insurance can most likely cover it, but it's also more so the morality of it
so my question is now, is that a viable approach to this, because i'm gonna have some VERY patchy help with it, and i've been told by the nurses and doctors that it'll be a 24/7 maintenance for months. i said before, just was a caregiver for 9 months of chemotherapy and watched a man slowly melt into his grave; i don't, don't, don't want this--not just because it's gonna be consuming, but also because i can get into a panicked state
maybe it's a loaded question cos i guess it's so i can be told what i Wanna hear, but i need to know if y'all have had HEALTHY success letting professional social workers help bypass patients rehabilitate before coming home?
sorry for all the excess drama and me-me-me stuff :') i promise i plan to drawwww soon-ish-maybe-who-knows
Just be sure to check them out online first, and try to visit her often once she's in there. It's better for everyone if the staff see that the patient is being monitored by visitors and not just there alone.
if you know of a good place to put her, then yes, do it.
if you want to ensure she's taken care of, and if it's going to require an excessive amount of attention, it's not gonna go well if you're panicking and struggling.
this would at least give her the care she needs, and allow you to ease the pressure off of yourself.
if you're worried over morality, well, it's not gonna be a very moral decision to keep her at home if you're unable to fully offer the care she needs, and it'll only be worse on you if something happens under your care.
Like as if I was supposed to disagree with her, lorddddd lol I'm gonna get my ass chewed out so hard when this is all over. Ah well.
If you are asking if this is an acceptable option? Absolutely, with proper care, research, and diligence. And, in my personal belief, deeply and sorely needed by you. Please do consider it as an important and indeed major option.
It is no shame or moral failing to recognize when a job is more than you can give and ask for help. My brother should have gotten help months sooner than he did and it nearly killed him.