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15 years ago
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Long Journal is Looooooooooooong.
Yes, many of these are taken from my Twitter account in some way, form, or fashion, so several of you may have seen much shorter versions of some of my points. I guess I wanted them here just for the sake of having an original non-meme journal. XD
I took the liberty of bolding my main points. :D
1.) I dislike the term "mate" being used as a substitute for the words "lover, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, etc" and furries are the sole reason for it, younger furries (15-22) in particular. It's overused to the point that it feels less like "this(these) is(are) the person(people) who(m) I love and wish to significant amount of my life with physically and emotionally" and more like "I'm with him/her/them because I have a biological inclination to have sex with anyone who may be interested."
Many of you will know what I'm talking about, so I'm not afraid of any sort of backlash on that. You know: you're talking with a younger fur about whatever and it eventually reaches the topic of relationships and they end up going off on a tangent about their new "mate," when, in actuality, it's just some guy/girl that he/she hooked up with (which is often anything from them 'being introduced to by friends who think that they need to date' to them 'getting hammered and fucking some random person, who then just happened to still be in the bed the next morning.') at a bar/con/furmeet a couple of days ago. I used to think of 'mate' as being a fairly strong word when it was used to refer to one's relationship, but since a simple fling apparently earns the 'mate' status, it just feels like another one of those empty terms.
2.) I am occasionally pinned as being an asshole because, while I have a thorough understanding of disorders within the Autism Spectrum, I come off as being very unforgiving of them quite often. That might not make much sense, but I'll offer a couple of examples:
- I have had several friends who have been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, but I often lose said friendships because I can't stand some of them having the inability to pick up on simple social cues. While I'm aware that they can't help it, I often end up with a "Sorry, but I'm not putting up with this bullshit anymore" mentality and getting as far away from them as humanly possible.
- I did student-teaching during high school for two years and the class I did it for was very close to the Special Education room. There was a SEVERELY Autistic boy in the class who would have random fits of high-pitched screaming and would even physically assault teachers. While everyone else was like "That poor boy. :c" I was more like "WHY did that child's parents enroll him in a public school instead of one specifically for special needs kids? This is really intrusive towards the learning process in every class on this hallway. :c"
I do not DISLIKE people who suffer from Autism, I just find that I have a low tolerance level of particular behavioral patterns that are often found within the spectrum of Autistic disorders.
3.) I'm of the opinion that people on welfare should have it revoked if they get pregnant and choose to go through with it after partaking in the program, rather than being given additional aid/benefits. I'm sorry, but if you're poor enough that you need put on welfare in the first place, in what world of stupidity does it make sense to then have ANOTHER kid? Fucking dumbasses.
This point was actually inspired in part by a situation I observed firsthand back in high school. There was a girl in my graduating class who had two kids and was on welfare, but then did something (I don't know what) that upped her bills and her parents told her she needed to get a job/find a way to make more income because they COULD NOT afford to support her more than they already were. Her solution? Have another kid. While I do not know the welfare system very well at all (despite having temporarily been on it when I was younger and living with my grandmother for a period of time), the government apparently aids you more if you have more kids? She could have been wrong (which is entirely possible because, let's be honest, you'd have to be a complete and total moron to believe that having another baby is more financially-logical than getting a part-time job) and I'm misinformed, but that's what I've heard.
4.) Despite being in an open relationship with my long-time (four years and counting~) boyfriend/fiance, I don't really get much additional action because of how picky I am when it comes to men. I don't really go to gay/bars clubs because, in my experience, a significant amount of their patrons either set off my Creep-O-Meter in some way or come off as being so unbelievably slutty that I'm afraid that if they were to burp, they'd accidentally dispense two liters of cum on my shoes. While I do agree that sluttiness in art can be nice, when it comes to REAL LIFE, there's nothing sexy about 'being easy' to me. I have no desire to hook up with guys whose blood test results resemble a lifetime supply of acronyms.
My idea of a really sexy guy is someone who's a little shy, sexually confident (but not to the point of arrogance; sexual confidence isn't even a real necessity either. I'd be perfectly fine with a guy who's barely [if ever] gotten laid and doesn't think himself to be hot shit at all. XD), chubby, has facial hair, wears glasses, and dresses in things like sweater-vests and slacks. I like my guys to be chubby and geeky to a fair degree. That's not to say I that I don't like guys of other body types or whatever (believe me, I find Neil Patrick Harris and Slash to be beyond the spectrum of sexy~), but that shy, bearish geeks are my preference. X3
What kind of sucks about my preference is that I very rarely get hit on by the guys who actually fit the build. I've been hit on plenty of times before, but they're usually either too thin, too socially-awkward, or (who appear to be) too skanky for my tastes. DX
5.) Contrary to popular belief, I'm not an idiot; I just prefer to focus my time and interests more on pop culture and things of that nature. Within the past year or two, I've come across several friends/acquaintances of mine, both online and off, who seem to believe that I'm (for lack of a better term) stupid. They've never said it directly, but rather it often comes in the form of them being genuinely surprised when I showcase knowing something about anything in particular. I admit that it does offend me a little bit, but I think just about anyone would feel a little tinge of annoyance upon discovering that a popular opinion about them is that they lack intelligence.
Mind you, I can't say that I blame them for believing it at all. I'm not in college and have absolutely no desire to ever go. I haven't had a job since 2006 and I constantly make up bullshit excuses for why I don't actively pursue work. I do not keep up with politics or world affairs of any sort, so when people ask about them, I never know what to say. I'm your stereotypical 'lost puppy' when it comes to life, in that I spent a lot of time and energy focusing on pursuing a certain career, but, after having had a good taste of it, decided that it wasn't for me and was left with no backup plan. I have no idea what I want to do with my life and I'm terrified of making any moves because I don't want to end up being one of those miserable people who work a dead-end job that they hate for upwards of 30 years. While it's worse to do nothing at all, I don't know where to begin because I don't know what I want.
When I try to sit down and think about where I am in life, all that happens is that I get really stressed and ashamed, which then turns into frustration that I take out on everyone else and I don't want to be 'that guy.' So, instead, I focus my attention on pop culture and very trivial things, in a sense of false hope that these things I highly enjoy will 'show me the light,' so to speak, and I'll figure out what I want to do and how I want to accomplish it. My "efforts" have sort of rekindled my interest in voice-acting (cartoons were 'sanity' growing up and I always admired the talents voice actors), but I'm self-defeating on that front because I'm no Rob Paulsen. I don't have the ability to do the things that the men and women in that industry are capable of. I'd -like- to, but I tell myself that I know better. XD
I guess we'll have to see how that all pans out. :3
6.) I hate political correctness and feel that a large chunk of the general population spends a significant amount of time WANTING to be offended by everything that they possibly can be. Let's get straight to the point: I'm gay and Mexican and I don't give a shit if you want to call me a Limp-wristed, Border-Hopping Wetback Faggot. In fact, I'll likely do you one better by then feigning (very poorly) a Mexican accent and talk about my father surfing across the Rio Grande on a door with his fifty family members hiding in the keyhole. We can sit down at Taco Bell and have some tamales and margaritas while we discuss our day in a mix of Spanish and broken English.
Things like that, that would be so unbelievably offensive to so many people, do not bother me at all. I have better things to do than running to my room to sob, slit my wrists, and call up every news media outlet that will listen to me over someone being insensitive. It seems to me that there are people out there who get off to the drama caused by starting an uproar over rude words. The world would be a better place if we all just stopped being offended and chose to just laugh at the sentiments to the point that we, as a society, are completely and utterly unfazed by them.
A lot of individuals seem to believe that if we desensitize ourselves to certain words, we'll become indifferent towards the concepts and actions that they do/once fuel(ed), but that seems very 'reaching' to me. I don't believe that laughing off the word 'fag' will suddenly (or even gradually) make things like gay lynchings socially acceptable (you know, outside of the stupid nations where such things are currently okay).
What's kind of saddening is that there are people who spend money to encourage people to conform to their opinion of what qualifies as offensive, like the "R-Word" or "That's So Gay" campaigns. As a gay man, I can honestly say that I've never lost a wink of sleep over someone using 'gay' as a derogatory term. :\
7.) Though I respect him for what he does, I get the distinct impression that Al Sharpton is openly racist and I hope I'm not the only one who thinks that. This one's short and sweet - Maybe I'm just around for the wrong video clips/news reports and whatnot, but Al Sharpton seems to be of the opinion that the only successful people are those of the African-American race. I don't think I've ever heard this guy endlessly praising anyone who wasn't/isn't black. I could be wrong; I'm just voicing an observation. XD
I think that's enough for now. I'm going to make a new journal shortly to bump this off my front page to avoid it being a mile long.
Yes, many of these are taken from my Twitter account in some way, form, or fashion, so several of you may have seen much shorter versions of some of my points. I guess I wanted them here just for the sake of having an original non-meme journal. XD
I took the liberty of bolding my main points. :D
1.) I dislike the term "mate" being used as a substitute for the words "lover, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, etc" and furries are the sole reason for it, younger furries (15-22) in particular. It's overused to the point that it feels less like "this(these) is(are) the person(people) who(m) I love and wish to significant amount of my life with physically and emotionally" and more like "I'm with him/her/them because I have a biological inclination to have sex with anyone who may be interested."
Many of you will know what I'm talking about, so I'm not afraid of any sort of backlash on that. You know: you're talking with a younger fur about whatever and it eventually reaches the topic of relationships and they end up going off on a tangent about their new "mate," when, in actuality, it's just some guy/girl that he/she hooked up with (which is often anything from them 'being introduced to by friends who think that they need to date' to them 'getting hammered and fucking some random person, who then just happened to still be in the bed the next morning.') at a bar/con/furmeet a couple of days ago. I used to think of 'mate' as being a fairly strong word when it was used to refer to one's relationship, but since a simple fling apparently earns the 'mate' status, it just feels like another one of those empty terms.
2.) I am occasionally pinned as being an asshole because, while I have a thorough understanding of disorders within the Autism Spectrum, I come off as being very unforgiving of them quite often. That might not make much sense, but I'll offer a couple of examples:
- I have had several friends who have been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome, but I often lose said friendships because I can't stand some of them having the inability to pick up on simple social cues. While I'm aware that they can't help it, I often end up with a "Sorry, but I'm not putting up with this bullshit anymore" mentality and getting as far away from them as humanly possible.
- I did student-teaching during high school for two years and the class I did it for was very close to the Special Education room. There was a SEVERELY Autistic boy in the class who would have random fits of high-pitched screaming and would even physically assault teachers. While everyone else was like "That poor boy. :c" I was more like "WHY did that child's parents enroll him in a public school instead of one specifically for special needs kids? This is really intrusive towards the learning process in every class on this hallway. :c"
I do not DISLIKE people who suffer from Autism, I just find that I have a low tolerance level of particular behavioral patterns that are often found within the spectrum of Autistic disorders.
3.) I'm of the opinion that people on welfare should have it revoked if they get pregnant and choose to go through with it after partaking in the program, rather than being given additional aid/benefits. I'm sorry, but if you're poor enough that you need put on welfare in the first place, in what world of stupidity does it make sense to then have ANOTHER kid? Fucking dumbasses.
This point was actually inspired in part by a situation I observed firsthand back in high school. There was a girl in my graduating class who had two kids and was on welfare, but then did something (I don't know what) that upped her bills and her parents told her she needed to get a job/find a way to make more income because they COULD NOT afford to support her more than they already were. Her solution? Have another kid. While I do not know the welfare system very well at all (despite having temporarily been on it when I was younger and living with my grandmother for a period of time), the government apparently aids you more if you have more kids? She could have been wrong (which is entirely possible because, let's be honest, you'd have to be a complete and total moron to believe that having another baby is more financially-logical than getting a part-time job) and I'm misinformed, but that's what I've heard.
4.) Despite being in an open relationship with my long-time (four years and counting~) boyfriend/fiance, I don't really get much additional action because of how picky I am when it comes to men. I don't really go to gay/bars clubs because, in my experience, a significant amount of their patrons either set off my Creep-O-Meter in some way or come off as being so unbelievably slutty that I'm afraid that if they were to burp, they'd accidentally dispense two liters of cum on my shoes. While I do agree that sluttiness in art can be nice, when it comes to REAL LIFE, there's nothing sexy about 'being easy' to me. I have no desire to hook up with guys whose blood test results resemble a lifetime supply of acronyms.
My idea of a really sexy guy is someone who's a little shy, sexually confident (but not to the point of arrogance; sexual confidence isn't even a real necessity either. I'd be perfectly fine with a guy who's barely [if ever] gotten laid and doesn't think himself to be hot shit at all. XD), chubby, has facial hair, wears glasses, and dresses in things like sweater-vests and slacks. I like my guys to be chubby and geeky to a fair degree. That's not to say I that I don't like guys of other body types or whatever (believe me, I find Neil Patrick Harris and Slash to be beyond the spectrum of sexy~), but that shy, bearish geeks are my preference. X3
What kind of sucks about my preference is that I very rarely get hit on by the guys who actually fit the build. I've been hit on plenty of times before, but they're usually either too thin, too socially-awkward, or (who appear to be) too skanky for my tastes. DX
5.) Contrary to popular belief, I'm not an idiot; I just prefer to focus my time and interests more on pop culture and things of that nature. Within the past year or two, I've come across several friends/acquaintances of mine, both online and off, who seem to believe that I'm (for lack of a better term) stupid. They've never said it directly, but rather it often comes in the form of them being genuinely surprised when I showcase knowing something about anything in particular. I admit that it does offend me a little bit, but I think just about anyone would feel a little tinge of annoyance upon discovering that a popular opinion about them is that they lack intelligence.
Mind you, I can't say that I blame them for believing it at all. I'm not in college and have absolutely no desire to ever go. I haven't had a job since 2006 and I constantly make up bullshit excuses for why I don't actively pursue work. I do not keep up with politics or world affairs of any sort, so when people ask about them, I never know what to say. I'm your stereotypical 'lost puppy' when it comes to life, in that I spent a lot of time and energy focusing on pursuing a certain career, but, after having had a good taste of it, decided that it wasn't for me and was left with no backup plan. I have no idea what I want to do with my life and I'm terrified of making any moves because I don't want to end up being one of those miserable people who work a dead-end job that they hate for upwards of 30 years. While it's worse to do nothing at all, I don't know where to begin because I don't know what I want.
When I try to sit down and think about where I am in life, all that happens is that I get really stressed and ashamed, which then turns into frustration that I take out on everyone else and I don't want to be 'that guy.' So, instead, I focus my attention on pop culture and very trivial things, in a sense of false hope that these things I highly enjoy will 'show me the light,' so to speak, and I'll figure out what I want to do and how I want to accomplish it. My "efforts" have sort of rekindled my interest in voice-acting (cartoons were 'sanity' growing up and I always admired the talents voice actors), but I'm self-defeating on that front because I'm no Rob Paulsen. I don't have the ability to do the things that the men and women in that industry are capable of. I'd -like- to, but I tell myself that I know better. XD
I guess we'll have to see how that all pans out. :3
6.) I hate political correctness and feel that a large chunk of the general population spends a significant amount of time WANTING to be offended by everything that they possibly can be. Let's get straight to the point: I'm gay and Mexican and I don't give a shit if you want to call me a Limp-wristed, Border-Hopping Wetback Faggot. In fact, I'll likely do you one better by then feigning (very poorly) a Mexican accent and talk about my father surfing across the Rio Grande on a door with his fifty family members hiding in the keyhole. We can sit down at Taco Bell and have some tamales and margaritas while we discuss our day in a mix of Spanish and broken English.
Things like that, that would be so unbelievably offensive to so many people, do not bother me at all. I have better things to do than running to my room to sob, slit my wrists, and call up every news media outlet that will listen to me over someone being insensitive. It seems to me that there are people out there who get off to the drama caused by starting an uproar over rude words. The world would be a better place if we all just stopped being offended and chose to just laugh at the sentiments to the point that we, as a society, are completely and utterly unfazed by them.
A lot of individuals seem to believe that if we desensitize ourselves to certain words, we'll become indifferent towards the concepts and actions that they do/once fuel(ed), but that seems very 'reaching' to me. I don't believe that laughing off the word 'fag' will suddenly (or even gradually) make things like gay lynchings socially acceptable (you know, outside of the stupid nations where such things are currently okay).
What's kind of saddening is that there are people who spend money to encourage people to conform to their opinion of what qualifies as offensive, like the "R-Word" or "That's So Gay" campaigns. As a gay man, I can honestly say that I've never lost a wink of sleep over someone using 'gay' as a derogatory term. :\
7.) Though I respect him for what he does, I get the distinct impression that Al Sharpton is openly racist and I hope I'm not the only one who thinks that. This one's short and sweet - Maybe I'm just around for the wrong video clips/news reports and whatnot, but Al Sharpton seems to be of the opinion that the only successful people are those of the African-American race. I don't think I've ever heard this guy endlessly praising anyone who wasn't/isn't black. I could be wrong; I'm just voicing an observation. XD
I think that's enough for now. I'm going to make a new journal shortly to bump this off my front page to avoid it being a mile long.
This journal was a LOT longer than I thought it was. Oops.
Or...murr del oh...I think.
Which consists of... uh... I'll have to get back on you on that one.
Nah, not really... I don't think. Even though you fit the build nicely, you needn't worry: I won't suddenly start hitting on you, dear. *pat* XD
I jest, I jest. You definitely do seem to fit the bill, at least facially from what I can tell from that one photo of you in your gallery. It seems that there are several people I've talked to online at some point that fit it as well, but they either don't have an interest, are taken, don't live in my vicinity, or some combination of the three. My luck with my preference is disappointing. XD
xD; Eh. :T Mine's worse, to be honest. |P
I don't mind the usage of the word in general (i.e. I don't gripe at people about it. XD); it's more so that I won't use it and occasionally roll my eyes at hearing it used because its 'abuse' has made me jaded towards it. It's perfectly fine that you call her that, especially if you've been with her for a long time already.
About political correctness.. I dunno if this matches up as a comparison, but I used to be awfully sensitive about my chaser tendencies, but now, jokes about it make me feel good and accepted when I know the person has good intentions.
Conversely, a person with ill intentions using it as a joke or misunderstanding me cuts right through me, and I get all sobby. Bah! This has happened to me just once really, with someone rationalizing my behavior as "you only like so-and-so because he's fat." I don't recall ever being so offended by a friend, and wanting to blurt forth all manner of explanation that fondness for someone is never purely sexual, etc etc etc. Instead of arguing though, I just fumed quietly. I'm no good at talking when emotional.
So I guess ultimately I wanna ask: If someone you know pretty well spits a racial slur or orientation-related epithet in the context of an personal argument, how do you feel then?
My "I dislike political correctness" view centers around the fact that people don't seem to focus on the context like we do, but rather disapprove of a word/phrase PERIOD, regardless of the manner in which it's used.
I hope that made sense. *gives you a big hug* :3
Thanks to that experience, I've learned to better avoid assholes. Yay!
Of course, I'm exceptionally brilliant, so anyone in a five mile radius might seem to pale in comparison.
Have I mentioned how wonderfully humble I am?