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UGH. my mother has yet again made a choice for me.
15 years ago
One I don't agree with at all.
I'm going to sound heartless for all of a sentence, then you'll understand.
My grandmother died today at 7:30 Precise. She was 83, with a DNR order on her due to prior injuries and renal failure that had been ongoing for 5 years.
I loved her.
But I'm not sad for her passing, and I do not want to attend her funeral.
I am anyway! Because my mother already told my managers, so I lost 3 days of work and I'm being forced to go somewhere for a week. =___=
It is not that I don't care. I truly loved my grandmother, she was an amazing woman. Her aunt was Cathrine Leighton, a famous artist, Nina herself raised her first child through the beginning of WW2.
She was a little 100lb spitfire who didn't really like sitting down and waiting for things, like death.
My grandmother today went out on a blaze of glory on a holy day and saved my grandfather's life, sacrificing her own. She died technically at the scene before her body died in the hospital 11 hours later.
It was quick, it was painless, she felt nothing other than probably sadness for leaving my grandfather.
I'm not upset about her passing. I mourned her death 3 years ago because dialysis is a death warrant.
I am however upset that a choice was made for me to attend the funeral. I am 20 years old with other priorities, but apparently it would look bad for me to 'mourn in private' as my mother puts it.
Ugh. So. Annoyed. Fff.
/goes to draw.
I'm going to sound heartless for all of a sentence, then you'll understand.
My grandmother died today at 7:30 Precise. She was 83, with a DNR order on her due to prior injuries and renal failure that had been ongoing for 5 years.
I loved her.
But I'm not sad for her passing, and I do not want to attend her funeral.
I am anyway! Because my mother already told my managers, so I lost 3 days of work and I'm being forced to go somewhere for a week. =___=
It is not that I don't care. I truly loved my grandmother, she was an amazing woman. Her aunt was Cathrine Leighton, a famous artist, Nina herself raised her first child through the beginning of WW2.
She was a little 100lb spitfire who didn't really like sitting down and waiting for things, like death.
My grandmother today went out on a blaze of glory on a holy day and saved my grandfather's life, sacrificing her own. She died technically at the scene before her body died in the hospital 11 hours later.
It was quick, it was painless, she felt nothing other than probably sadness for leaving my grandfather.
I'm not upset about her passing. I mourned her death 3 years ago because dialysis is a death warrant.
I am however upset that a choice was made for me to attend the funeral. I am 20 years old with other priorities, but apparently it would look bad for me to 'mourn in private' as my mother puts it.
Ugh. So. Annoyed. Fff.
/goes to draw.
Owed:
Allfurradio; Commission of two small cute things battling to the death.
& a tiger to someperson.
1. Depressing
2. In a church i made a conscious choice to reject when I was 12-13
3. A bit of a greedfest. I know everyone is likely eyeing the will.
4. SAD, OMG.
I'm such a firm believer that if someone is old and they die, it's ok! It's the circle of life.
We're born, we live, we breed, we raise our young and then, we grow old, happy, wisened, pass our knowledge on, and.. die. Because I am so devoutly pagan, these should not be funerals at all to me, but celebrations for a life well lived out and a joyous passage to whatever lies next.
There should be mead, and cake, and dancing and many toasts to the dearly departed, and much laughter and smiles reflected upon good memories.
Funerals that are so mainstream these days with all of the tears and mourning are in my opinion ones lost before they reach the final life stage, children who die unexpectedly in-utero, kids who get hit by cars, teenagers involved in gang violence, yes. Those are sad for these people are not given a chance to finalize what they're going to do for.. 80ish years.
D: Ugh i wish my family understood. /flail.
But yes, you are old enough to make those decisions for yourself. At age 20, your mother should not be the person that calls your manager to explain the situation on your behalf... and request your days off. Your mother shouldn't get on your case for how you mourn... the passing of a loved one is difficult, and people have different ways of coping with it.
Agreed with what panda said. This is not your mother's decision to make.