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15 years ago
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Things change fast
But this too shall pass
Better carve it on your forehead
Or tattoo it on your ass
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Can we get some more genders besides masculine and feminine up in here?
Neither of them really work for me really, and I think we could do with some variety.
Like, I really hate choosing. I really don't feel comfortable saying I'm female in any other context than in reference to what falls between my legs, and even then I have some issues with that too. But I don't feel like I could really pass for a male either, and thus I feel like I'm in this position of flux. Fluctuating gender identity and expression, which I wouldn't mind so much, but no one really knows what to make of me.
Take my boyfriend for example, I know he knows I have some gender identity issues, and really like to be referred to as androgynous and loves me anyway, but I don't know what he would do if I actually started binding again. I sorta have been wanting to, but I'm kinda afraid of what he might think. Or what others might think. Not to say that my friends wouldn't start referring to me with male pronouns if I asked them to, but what do you refer to someone who's gender is in flux? Who will be feminine one day, but masculine the next?
I mean, I feel comfortable with male pronouns, and feel alright with female pronouns, and I really don;t have big qualms over whether people use he or she. I just... Well, maybe that's not accurate. What I should say is I don't care if people "mistakenly" refer to me as "he". It sort of makes me happy, I think. It's a hard feeling to explain.
Can I just be a "he" who happens to have lady parts and on rare occasions dresses like a pretty lady, usually for sexual reasons? Is that possible?
I know I'm probably going to get some sort of flack for posting this here, but I wanted to get the opinions of some of my friends who don't have live journal, and only have FA or Facebook, and I don't feel comfortable posting this on Facebook due to reasons of having professional contacts and colleagues in my acting life on there.
Neither of them really work for me really, and I think we could do with some variety.
Like, I really hate choosing. I really don't feel comfortable saying I'm female in any other context than in reference to what falls between my legs, and even then I have some issues with that too. But I don't feel like I could really pass for a male either, and thus I feel like I'm in this position of flux. Fluctuating gender identity and expression, which I wouldn't mind so much, but no one really knows what to make of me.
Take my boyfriend for example, I know he knows I have some gender identity issues, and really like to be referred to as androgynous and loves me anyway, but I don't know what he would do if I actually started binding again. I sorta have been wanting to, but I'm kinda afraid of what he might think. Or what others might think. Not to say that my friends wouldn't start referring to me with male pronouns if I asked them to, but what do you refer to someone who's gender is in flux? Who will be feminine one day, but masculine the next?
I mean, I feel comfortable with male pronouns, and feel alright with female pronouns, and I really don;t have big qualms over whether people use he or she. I just... Well, maybe that's not accurate. What I should say is I don't care if people "mistakenly" refer to me as "he". It sort of makes me happy, I think. It's a hard feeling to explain.
Can I just be a "he" who happens to have lady parts and on rare occasions dresses like a pretty lady, usually for sexual reasons? Is that possible?
I know I'm probably going to get some sort of flack for posting this here, but I wanted to get the opinions of some of my friends who don't have live journal, and only have FA or Facebook, and I don't feel comfortable posting this on Facebook due to reasons of having professional contacts and colleagues in my acting life on there.
You should invent a pronoun that's just a fluttering of the hands, like they do in Fantastic Mr Fox whenever they say "different".
I like the fluttering hand idea... it be more unique then a actual word.
Also, as for binding, there are ways to avoid those major problems, i.e. only wear the binding when you are going out, and while you are at home wear a bra or nothing.
I haven't seen Fantastic Mr. Fox, so I'm not sure of what it is. But it would be hard to do a fluttering hand gesture on the internet or otherwise in type.
ah gender neutral pronouns. yes amerenglish's etiological and cultural heritage seems to borrow a lot from those predecessor cultures that, to my mind, insanely, assigned bipolar gender, often its seems, again to me, somewhat arbitrarily, to everything up to and including totally inert objects and substances.
how either a rock, or an uber ultra supreme being, can be assigned a physiological polarity, eternally defies my comprehension.